Gf going to uni, you staying at home

[Tobs]

just wondering how many of you have gfs that have just gone off to uni. Or have been at uni.

Also what happened to you both?

[Nick_T]

yeah, my girlfriend went to uni this year.
dont talk to her as much as i used to, obviously..
not gonna see her very often either

[DarylVTR]

This happened to me last year....

Soon as she moved to uni she desided to sleep around and we split. I knew uni was going to change her and the old 'I havn't got time for a relationship' decoy was used. Never heard from her again after a 2year relationship. Cow tbh...... Funny she said she definatly didnt want to go to uni then went anyway......

The distance would probably kill but if its meant to be you will both make it work

[Nick_T]

Soon as she moved to uni she desided to sleep around and we split.


that makes me feel loads better :y:

[jamiemackie]

not me but a close friend of mine and his gf where togehter for 3 years until the day after resluts day, she decided to go to uni quite far away so they split up, they still speak all the time though, i guess it depends how mature people are about it

[Peejous]

My GF went to uni on Sunday, we dont really text as much as we used to, but we'll chat on the phone at night.
She's only 40 minutes from where i live so if things get really bad for us, ill just drive up and see her.
Ill be see'ing her everyweekend so not that bad, but compared to us living together before hand its a big step.
She goes out on the night etc but doesnt really drink anyway so that aint a problem its the lads you have to watch she had 3 guys trying it on with her on the nights out.
Which Uni is your missus at?
If it's ment to be you'll be fine (dont listen to radio one lol, their on about if you have a gf or bf going to uni, your better off breaking up)
How long you been together?

[David]

My GF is at Sheffiled Uni, which is only about an hour away so it's not too far, which means either she comes here everyweekend or I go over to her...
It's kinda hard to start with, like the first few weeks, but you soon get used to it...

[Peejous]

My GF is at Sheffiled Uni, which is only about an hour away so it's not too far, which means either she comes here everyweekend or I go over to her...
It's kinda hard to start with, like the first few weeks, but you soon get used to it...

My mate goes to Sheffield Uni, do you ever go up and go out with her on some of the nights?

[Nick_T]

My GF went to uni on Sunday, we dont really text as much as we used to, but we'll chat on the phone at night.
She's only 40 minutes from where i live so if things get really bad for us, ill just drive up and see her.
Ill be see'ing her everyweekend so not that bad, but compared to us living together before hand its a big step.
She goes out on the night etc but doesnt really drink anyway so that aint a problem its the lads you have to watch she had 3 guys trying it on with her on the nights out.
Which Uni is your missus at?
If it's ment to be you'll be fine (dont listen to radio one lol, their on about if you have a gf or bf going to uni, your better off breaking up)
How long you been together?

mine has gone to bedforshire uni, about 160 miles away.
still closer than where she lived before so i cant really complain i guess lol
i trust her more than anyone but as you said it is the lads you have to watch out for.
it plays on my mind a bit sometimes, cos i know she is quite naive

[Peejous]

Just have to remind her that the lads are only after one thing, and if she gives in that could completly ruin your entire relationship.

You do know you can stay on campus?

I went to see my missus the other night cos she couldnt get to sleep just constantly crying and they dont really care if you stay.

How olds your missus mate?

[Nick_T]

Just have to remind her that the lads are only after one thing, and if she gives in that could completly ruin your entire relationship.

You do know you can stay on campus?

I went to see my missus the other night cos she couldnt get to sleep just constantly crying and they dont really care if you stay.

How olds your missus mate?

yeah mate, im aloud to stay for 2 nights, as long as everyone else agrees(4 other girls). most of them have partners too so its ok..
im going to see ehr next weekend for a couple of nights, be nice to see her, aint seen her in over 2 weeks already, kinda getting hard but i knew it would be..
shes 18 mate, same as me

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[Peejous]

Jacko's hit the nail on the head, at the end of the day its up to them if anything happens. At the end of the day women as a bad as guys when it comes to cheating.
2 weeks is ages mate, doing well i think, did you mean this weekend or next weekend your going to see her?

Do you find yourself just time watching etc.? like normally when we text she replies straight away, i know she's in lectures so cant really reply all the time, but i keep checkin my phone every minute thinking that like half an hour has gone by.

[Clouds_mate]

Personally i couldnt live with the temptation.

I would of cheated before the end of Freshers.

[Peejous]

Temptation of what? New girls?

[Ste]

Imagine you going to uni and her staying...

hahah you'd be putting it around like theres no tomorrow...


I would

[Peejous]

Not helping the situation! lol

[Clouds_mate]

Temptation of what? New girls?

Fresh meat, me drunk, them drunk. Plenty of beds.

I couldnt cope. doesnt mean other people are like me tho lol

[Nick_T]

Jacko's hit the nail on the head, at the end of the day its up to them if anything happens. At the end of the day women as a bad as guys when it comes to cheating.
2 weeks is ages mate, doing well i think, did you mean this weekend or next weekend your going to see her?

Do you find yourself just time watching etc.? like normally when we text she replies straight away, i know she's in lectures so cant really reply all the time, but i keep checkin my phone every minute thinking that like half an hour has gone by.

no the 12th i am driving up mate and coming back on sunday 14th..
yeah i watch the time all the time, havent heard from her since 5 yesterday afternoon...
i know she is busy and the word is really hard for her as she is dislexic and her equipment hasnt come through yet...
she cries sometimes on the phone as she misses me too much but i can only comfort her, would take me 2 and half hours to see her..

[jeeves_101]

my gf is going into her last year (3rd) at uni and she goes to reading, and i live near weston.

we are still together and have had no problems, normally talk on the phone most evenings and i go and see her alot of the weekends she's there.

[Peejous]

my gf is going into her last year (3rd) at uni and she goes to reading, and i live near weston.

we are still together and have had no problems, normally talk on the phone most evenings and i go and see her alot of the weekends she's there.

Nice uplifting reply mate.

Me and my gf, were already looking into gettin our own place for her 2nd year at uni.

I guess its easy for us because she's still quite close. But 2 and a half hours is a bit of a mission mate.

Should just call her on the nights to chat and catch up.

[Nick_T]

i would call her every night but she is pretty stressed at the moment lol, she snapped at me the other night which wasn't pleasant

[DarylVTR]

sorry if my experience hasn't given you the best reassurance but its what happened in my own experiences as you asked what happened :)

Personally i wouldn't go out with a girl whos at uni now or is going as i know it changes alot of people for the worst. Obviously there are nice girls out there who stay loyal and you cant tarr everyone with the same brush so it comes down to ur gf and wheather you make the effort to go and see her or not no matter how farr away it is.

Hey i can't say much ive been single well over a year so forgotten what a relationship is lol

[jeeves_101]

yeah, my gf can get stressed, but i know she dont mean anything, just the pressure of coursework and exams really.

yeah, if you want it to work it will, i know alot of people that go to different uni's to there gf's and they are still doing well.

[Karl]

......Whatever happened to good ol' fashion rape.

[Peejous]

Yeah if she's only 18 she'll find it quite nerve racking and really scary.
My gf is 20 and she finds it really new and frightning.
When you talk to her on the phone try and be as understanding as possible, and comfort her anyway you can. (Dont sit on the Xbox while she's talking to you, not listenin to her. Doesnt go down to well as i found out last night lol)
At the end of the day the entire situation revolves around trust.

[Ste]

Yea, you can ring all you want and they will tell you how good of a day they have had....

When really they have been bounced around every night of the week by a different chap whilst sloshed....

When my GF goes to uni, i go single.... No ifs or buts.

[jeeves_101]

yeah, if you trust her and she trusts you then it will be fine.

[Nick_T]

(Dont sit on the Xbox while she's talking to you, not listenin to her.

LMAO i did exactly the same thing about a week ago, i didn't tell her and she said 'who you playing with?'
i was like 'wha??' lol

yeah i think she is finding it a bit scary, she was expecting it to be like college but its not unfortunately...

[Peejous]

Another thing i think that may help is you going out on the piss, not just gettin hammered or anything though. Just to get out the house etc. it takes your mind off everything

[jeeves_101]

Another thing i think that may help is you going out on the piss, not just gettin hammered or anything though. Just to get out the house etc. it takes your mind off everything

yeah, in theory, but if you say to them you're going out on the piss, it will only make them think the worst.

[kirby351]

my gf is off to uni in 6 monts or so and im going elswhere but i do have the choice to go and im unsure to go to uni just to stay wi her what ya think. but this would not be the path that earns me the most money ????

[Peejous]

They go out on the freshers nights, which in my opinion are worse than you going out to your local pub/club etc.

New people, different surroundings.

Plus she knows that if ever i got up to no good when i went out, both me and her know most the people in there so she'd find out anyway.

She's at Uni where no-one knows who she is or who i am etc.

[Nick_T]

i hardly ever go out drinking...
dont feel the need for it really,
i just work all the time, work 9-5 weekdays and then friday saturday and sunday night... keeps me busy really. bored today though

[kirby351]

this is bad stuff but its something in life that you have to put up with i think that i will break up with her as soon as she goes to uni because she quite the flirt anyway lol

[Peejous]

i hardly ever go out drinking...
dont feel the need for it really,
i just work all the time, work 9-5 weekdays and then friday saturday and sunday night... keeps me busy really. bored today though

You can still go out without drinking etc. it's just a change of scene from the house thats all.

[Nick_T]

You can still go out without drinking etc. it's just a change of scene from the house thats all.

true i know what you're saying, i go out once a week with the guys from work anyway, just down the pub for a meal and a chat...
halo3 is keeping me occupied too :P

[Peejous]

Cant stand Halo, but do you see what im saying, just to get out the house is better. Rather than just not doing anything really.

Im finding it really hard, because me and my gf were living together. Now she aint there. Like on the nights etc the double bed is massive, she used to make my lunch for work, she used to make me tea, she's taken most of her stuff, she used to be in the house when i came back from work.

ITS SH*TE!

Im sprung.

[Nick_T]

see, im not really in a state over that, i only seen her like every 2 weeks before she went to uni...
its just i dont talk to her much now, doesnt help that she doesnt have a computer yet either!
has your misses got a double or single bed in her room?
single :|

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[Peejous]

Ahh, this is the thing, i used to live with her at her moms place. So now its just me and mom there now (no comments about me gettin it on with her mom please, lol)
Her mom was never really there though tbh, so it was just pretty much us. He mom came home like 3 times a week.

[Nick_T]

ah, i can imagine how much different it is for you then pal, you been together long??

[Peejous]

not that long really, just over a year. Spent that year living with her and spending every night with each other, now its rather odd.

[Nick_T]

wish mine was only 40 mins away though :P
i'd be there tonight :P
could drive back for work in the morning lol
you seeing her this weekend?
freshers week was ghey!! didnt really here from her at all, she was partying or sleeping lol

[Peejous]

yeah i did that tuesday night, because she said she was really upset and crying herself to sleep and couldn't really get any sleep, which aint so good for her lectures, so went and stayed with her then drove to work. Motorways are crap in the morning! Plus had a stupidly early start lol. Thing is she aint really into going out and gettin pissed like the rest of them, she'll go out etc. but only have a few. She's actually really mature for her age.

[Nick_T]

im not gonna say about my gf's drinking habits because she is on this site and may read this...:P
i dont think she is over the top though..

[Peejous]

Some girls can be proper stupily falling over drunk, others can be nicely drunk. think your's probably falls into the "nicely drunk" section lol

My missus gets tipsy but thats about it.

[Robb]

if the mrs had gone to uni i definetly wouldnt have stayed with her. thankfully she didnt but at the end of the day it was her choice.

[Clouds_mate]

if the mrs had gone to uni i definetly wouldnt have stayed with her. thankfully she didnt but at the end of the day it was her choice.

nothing to do with the razorblade to her throat?

funny that.

[Nick_T]

nah, i have been out with her a few times now and shes far from the chavs that march(wobble) down my street most nights.
probably does fall in the 'nicely drunk' section tbh.
i think weeknights is a bit much though(last night) especially when they are struggling with work anyway

[Robb]

nothing to do with the razorblade to her throat?

funny that.

would i do that?

corse i wouldnt. razor blades are so over-rated. gun to the head ftw.

[Nick_T]

if the mrs had gone to uni i definetly wouldnt have stayed with her. thankfully she didnt but at the end of the day it was her choice.

she obviously means loads to you :P

[AdamW]

would i do that?

corse i wouldnt. razor blades are so over-rated. gun to the head ftw.

From what I heard....she was packed and ready to go and you threatened to kill yourself.......

Guilt ftw

[Clouds_mate]

Robb - emo

[Peejous]

razor blades are so over-rated. gun to the head ftw.

LMAO quality

[Nick_T]

Robb - emo

robb - *attempts to slash wrists witha butter knife*

[Robb]

she obviously means loads to you :P

she does mean a lot to me. but i couldnt even trust myself let alone her. went out last night at a mates uni and everyone is unbelievabley easy. i wouldnt want to be with someone that was going out on the lash every other night in that enviroment.

funny story time ftw. whilst waiting for the taxi to get us into main town of southampton, robb needed a slash so took mates dorm keys and ran up the 3 flights of stairs for a piss. ran into the dorms toilet and pulled the light cord, nothing happened. so i felt my way to the toilet with my leg and whipped my snake out. started pissing and hit the seat so moved to the right slightly, same again, then slightly to the right and hit the seat again. then about 3 quarters into my piss the light decided to work and i realised the toilet was closed and i was pissing on the lid. it was everywhere all over the floor etc hahahahahaha. suckkaaaaaaaaazzzzz

[Nick_T]

funny story time ftw. whilst waiting for the taxi to get us into main town of southampton, robb needed a slash so took mates dorm keys and ran up the 3 flights of stairs for a piss. ran into the dorms toilet and pulled the light cord, nothing happened. so i felt my way to the toilet with my leg and whipped my snake out. started pissing and hit the seat so moved to the right slightly, same again, then slightly to the right and hit the seat again. then about 3 quarters into my piss the light decided to work and i realised the toilet was closed and i was pissing on the lid. it was everywhere all over the floor etc hahahahahaha. suckkaaaaaaaaazzzzz

LOL that is hilarious repd

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[Robb]

Did you get lucky?

negative. i have a girlfriend :innocent:

[JackoSaxAppeal]

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[Robb]

....if i have to.

negative. i have a girlfriend :innocent: who was clearly drilling some fella whilst i was away last night?

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[Nick_T]

....if i have to.

darn, cant rep you again LOL

[David]

My mate goes to Sheffield Uni, do you ever go up and go out with her on some of the nights?

Nah man... We don't go out together at all tbf when I go there...
Just spend time together and all that, as we can both go out in the week...

[Ste]

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[Barry123]

My ex went to leeds, I went to guildford.

We held it together for nearly 4 years at uni. then we split. mainly because she became mad and went mental at me all the time and didnt like my friends.

'its either your friends or me'
friends it is then.

[Ruddy]

My ex went to leeds, I went to guildford.

We held it together for nearly 4 years at uni. then we split. mainly because she became mad and went mental at me all the time and didnt like my friends.

'its either your friends or me'
friends it is then.

My gfs at Uni too mate. Just started this year at high melton................ In donny.

[AdamW]

Not to far from the Rudmeister then.......so if anything does kick off...you can trek up to Uni in your monster truck and layeth the smack down

[Barry123]

My gfs at Uni too mate. Just started this year at high melton................ In donny.

end it now man...


seriously though. ok its hard not seeing each other as often but bloody hell when you meet up the emotions are sky high.. it was great.. if a couple want to make it work through uni then they will :y: GL to you and your lass man

[Ryan]

just wondering how many of you have gfs that have just gone off to uni. Or have been at uni.

Also what happened to you both?

it ended, she went to uni and saw there was lots of cocks she could ride and not get called a slut after 3 years when she returned home. same as most tbh

[Hanuman]

it ended, she went to uni and saw there was lots of cocks she could ride and not get called a slut after 3 years when she returned home. same as most tbh

true.....

[Peejous]

Not all girls are like that though. (I hope)

[DarylVTR]

it ended, she went to uni and saw there was lots of cocks she could ride and not get called a slut after 3 years when she returned home. same as most tbh

Have to agree. This is why i couldn't go out with a student whos wanting to go to uni or is at uni.......... i wouldn't be able to trust.

Not trying to put matey off though because not every bird is same but looks like most are!

[Ryan]

Not all girls are like that though. (I hope)

in my experience they are, sorry to say it but in my experiences thats the case.

ive just started uni now, and know of several girls who have cheated so far, some on the first night lol.

they can do as they wish for 3 years, mummy and daddy wont know, nor will anyone they know at home then pack their bags and leave with no rep and a loose fanny

[Peejous]

I suppose, but my missus is there for only one year and then we're gettin our own place etc. and she knows that if anything happens it will completly ruin all chances of anything happening between us. Plus she'd have to tell me she cant keep anything from me.

[Ryan]

I suppose, but my missus is there for only one year and then we're gettin our own place etc. and she knows that if anything happens it will completly ruin all chances of anything happening between us. Plus she'd have to tell me she cant keep anything from me.

my advice is just dont put to much pressure on her, if its gonna happen it will, if it wont it wont. its a different world at uni, and when you are at uni you dont think you have changed but everyone else has at home, you get in your own world at times and its hard for the loved one at home to understand

[Hanuman]

simple.


what would most lads be like going to uni seeing all this flange to get stuck into ????

well then think who actually is all this flange thats getting slept about with, they are doing the same thing as teh lads!

its all down to trust but i certainly wouldnt id say on15% of relations would work without ANY form of cheating going on or being admitted

[DarylVTR]

the thing is uni changes people. They may say it won't but in my experience it does. Most have no desire to do work and have been brainwashed into thinking they will leave with a job on a minimum of £30,000 odd a year. They simply want the wild lifestyle and its a final excuse to escape 'The real world' of work.

From my experience my ex was everything to me we never argued or anything .... was great. Then 1 day she says she wants to go to uni and changed totally. We split up and now she does drugs, smokes and is a total cow..... everything she wasn't before. It amazes me how much its changed her and to be honest shes prob the most horrible person i now know. Makes you wonder doesn't it.

[Ryan]

the thing is uni changes people. They may say it won't but in my experience it does. Most have no desire to do work and have been brainwashed into thinking they will leave with a job on a minimum of £30,000 odd a year. They simply want the wild lifestyle and its a final excuse to escape 'The real world' of work.

From my experience my ex was everything to me we never argued or anything .... was great. Then 1 day she says she wants to go to uni and changed totally. We split up and now she does drugs, smokes and is a total cow..... everything she wasn't before. It amazes me how much its changed her and to be honest shes prob the most horrible person i now know. Makes you wonder doesn't it.

same thing happened to my x at uni tbh. however im not going to turn into a cunt at uni, for a start i have a job, a career and am only coming here to firther my education in sport not go out getting pissed and naked like the rugby union teams

[Peejous]

Well i do truely trust my gf, and believe her etc.
So much so i was thinking of proposing to her at new year.
I think if you love someone that much, and you cant really "see" anybody else, no matter how fit some other people are. Things will be fine.

Hopefully she wont go down the route of your ex. i know most the girls she's living with just want to go out on the piss etc on the nights and get hammered, some girls do that, others just want to do the work and go out now and again. My gf isn't easily influenced, and she can look after herself. So i know if someone tries it on with her they'll deffinatly have a hard time and give up. I just hate the dickheads that think they can try it on with a girl knowing she has a boyfriend, and even more the girls that actually do it back!

[Nick_T]

there are a lot of negative people posting in this thread... lol
i 100% trust my girlfriend and i will support her all the way.
sure. i dont know what shes doing when im not talking to her but i never have so doesn't bother me really. i usually know when she is lying or hiding something too

[DarylVTR]

well soundsl ike you have made up your own mind dude.

Everyone is different and its hard to tell..... but you never know with relationships anyway so go with the flow. I wouldn't say everyone whos gone to uni has changed for the good or bad as everyone is different but personally the whole thing doesn't appeal to me in the slightest.

Best of luck to ya!!! :)

[Ryan]

there are a lot of negative people posting in this thread... lol
i 100% trust my girlfriend and i will support her all the way.
sure. i dont know what shes doing when im not talking to her but i never have so doesn't bother me really. i usually know when she is lying or hiding something too

probably because there are alot of us that have been through it and are now or have been in the uni situation now.

as i said, im at uni and see what goes on, so wont beat around the bush saying to people it will be smooth running when it might not be.

as i said just dont put pressure on them, understand they will change, and if its gonna happen theres nothing you can do about it.

[CloVis]

Well i do truely trust my gf, and believe her etc.
So much so i was thinking of proposing to her at new year.
I think if you love someone that much, and you cant really "see" anybody else, no matter how fit some other people are. Things will be fine.

Hopefully she wont go down the route of your ex. i know most the girls she's living with just want to go out on the piss etc on the nights and get hammered, some girls do that, others just want to do the work and go out now and again. My gf isn't easily influenced, and she can look after herself. So i know if someone tries it on with her they'll deffinatly have a hard time and give up. I just hate the dickheads that think they can try it on with a girl knowing she has a boyfriend, and even more the girls that actually do it back!


:y:
Good one! well said . Rep'd if i can :y:

[joemcevoy]

Fortunatley for me my gf decided not to go to uni and go to tech with myself. This was all well and great until shes now started thinking of dropping out to go and get a full time job in a vets. I dont mind this because its close to were i live. But she will be living a totally different life to me as she will be in a more mature enviroment compared to me. Kinda worries my that she will grow up quicker than me and then we will drift. But nothing you can do so have to think positive. :y:

[Saxo-Slag]

M gf is at uni but lives with me so dont have a problem

[neilt]

If shes gonna cheat, no amount of worrying is going to prevent her from doing so unfortunately. Just gotta get on with things and hope for the best.

my 2p ;)

[Hannah]

My ex went off to Uni about an hour and half away. He stopped texting me as soon as he got there and we used to see loads of each other. So I said, 'See ya Biatch' lol

[bullit]

My ex went off to Uni about an hour and half away. He stopped texting me as soon as he got there and we used to see loads of each other. So I said, 'See ya Biatch' lol

bit harsh,lol obviously the situation will effect people different. but cause so much new stuff would be going on i would start to forget about home tbh. and get involved but like leckie said thats me. pissed up on the tiles, id be thinking of one think.

but a nice story. girl i went school with at 14-15 which knocked back the bitch just married a lad she went out with at school from the same class. im sure stuff stayed on tour there though ;)