Got dumped

[stevenet15]

the last month has been a bit of a hard one, i have been busy with work and so has she been so we have only seen each other 3 times a week for a few hours each time, also her niece who was a few months old died because of a organ defect. anyway on friday morning i got a text off my gf saying that she was unhappy and that she dont think the relationship is going to last so i called her up to sort it out and next thing i know i'm dumped. I have been going out with her for 2 and a half years and realy do love her. I did say to her that i know i have been taking her for granted and that and that i love her, i have tried to get back with her but dont think its gona happen, i have spoken to her alot and she said she loved me but was unhappy with how things were going, but she then said that she wants me to make her happy. i asked if we can meet up but she doesnt want to so not sure what to do. i told her that i miss her and love her and that i want to be together and do the things that i should have done.

she seems so strong where as right now i feel like i right wreck. Atho yesterday when we was on the phone together and i was telling her i love her she commented by saying "but u still dont want to marry me" so maybe it might be something to do with that? as a few weeks ago she was saying that most her mates were ingaged. I told her that i love her and thats shes the one and i want to get ingaged but just not yet i would like to live together and stuff before we would get ingaged and have our own place etc...

oh and forgot to say the last 4 weekends in a row shes gone out with her mate on the town, i never question it and let her go out when and where she likes coz i trust her but her going out with her mate could have something to do with why we broke up coz her mate is a bit of a slag and has allways tryed to break us up

everything just seems strange, going out for 2 and half years yet it seems like she is able to drop it like shes got no feelings


Not realy sure what to do, cheer me up peeps

[Barry123]

thats shit steve... proper shit

hope you feel perky again soon.

multitude of factors by the sounds of things... First of all... women are complete and utter bastards.

secondly, you know what women are like, if they're friend has it they want it. If she's moaning about marriage it could be that but unlikely. She could be feeling a bit tied in and after going out with her slaggy friend probably wants to experience single life again...

toughy really.

lastly... switch on south park... cheers me up no end.

[Dez]

the last month has been a bit of a hard one, i have been busy with work and so has she been so we have only seen each other 3 times a week for a few hours each time, also her niece who was a few months old died because of a organ defect. anyway on friday morning i got a text off my gf saying that she was unhappy and that she dont think the relationship is going to last so i called her up to sort it out and next thing i know i'm dumped. I have been going out with her for 2 and a half years and realy do love her. I did say to her that i know i have been taking her for granted and that and that i love her, i have tried to get back with her but dont think its gona happen, i have spoken to her alot and she said she loved me but was unhappy with how things were going, but she then said that she wants me to make her happy. i asked if we can meet up but she doesnt want to so not sure what to do. i told her that i miss her and love her and that i want to be together and do the things that i should have done.

she seems so strong where as right now i feel like i right wreck. Atho yesterday when we was on the phone together and i was telling her i love her she commented by saying "but u still dont want to marry me" so maybe it might be something to do with that? as a few weeks ago she was saying that most her mates were ingaged. I told her that i love her and thats shes the one and i want to get ingaged but just not yet i would like to live together and stuff before we would get ingaged and have our own place etc...

oh and forgot to say the last 4 weekends in a row shes gone out with her mate on the town, i never question it and let her go out when and where she likes coz i trust her but her going out with her mate could have something to do with why we broke up coz her mate is a bit of a slag and has allways tryed to break us up

everything just seems strange, going out for 2 and half years yet it seems like she is able to drop it like shes got no feelings


Not realy sure what to do, cheer me up peeps

that must be the most annoying thing mate when your birds best mate is a slag, i posted a similar thread yesterday i think. Although you trust your Mrs when there best mate is a slag and they have had a few :drink: it does get you wondering. I would just give her a bit of space to be honest and see what happens. She might think that not being with you for the time being is a good thing but in my previous experience they start to miss you quite quickly and then the 3 times a week doesnt seem that bad after all:y:

[BenSilverSaxo]

First off is South Park on?

If i was in this situation i would try and take her away for a couple of days where it is just you two.

You need to ask her if she wants to let 2 years go like that, tell her that you are there for her and just spend some time talking. She is obviously distressed about her niece.

Find out if it is a good idea living together, you may see more of each other that way.

[SaxoJamie]

That sucks mate:n: I would just give her a bit of space for a week or two and that will give you both time to calm down & think things over. She might get bored of going around with her friend and realise she misses your company and that you and her have something special together.

Hope things start to look up for you soon mate:y:

[xxxvickxxx]

just give her some space for a few weeks, if she loves you and misses you she will come back

[stevenet15]

thanks for the replys, just feel realy down, i honestly love this girl, and if she goes off with someone and then decideds she has made a mistake and wants me back i dont think i could do it even tho i love her because i will know she has given herself to someone while i was in love with her

[baker556]

is south park on??

..i feel for you there mate...maybe go round to hers? see her face to face is there any reason for dumping you...she give you a reason....?

[Dez]

thanks for the replys, just feel realy down, i honestly love this girl, and if she goes off with someone and then decideds she has made a mistake and wants me back i dont think i could do it even tho i love her because i will know she has given herself to someone while i was in love with her

just tell her that mate, ball is in her court then

[VTR_Nick]

I think you got two options mate

1 - go to her house and speak to her face to face, you will get more from her than over the phone

2 - Give her a few weeks then ring her and she where you are then

Personally i would go with option one if that fails then option 2.

Hope you get her back mate:y:

[saxmaster]

either give her space for a few days/weeks
propose youve not gotta get married straight away/ or yalk of marriage etc
find out why?
her mates a slag? if shes hurt you that much fuck her mate tbh

[Steve]

the last month has been a bit of a hard one, i have been busy with work and so has she been so we have only seen each other 3 times a week for a few hours each time, also her niece who was a few months old died because of a organ defect. anyway on friday morning i got a text off my gf saying that she was unhappy and that she dont think the relationship is going to last so i called her up to sort it out and next thing i know i'm dumped. I have been going out with her for 2 and a half years and realy do love her. I did say to her that i know i have been taking her for granted and that and that i love her, i have tried to get back with her but dont think its gona happen, i have spoken to her alot and she said she loved me but was unhappy with how things were going, but she then said that she wants me to make her happy. i asked if we can meet up but she doesnt want to so not sure what to do. i told her that i miss her and love her and that i want to be together and do the things that i should have done.

she seems so strong where as right now i feel like i right wreck. Atho yesterday when we was on the phone together and i was telling her i love her she commented by saying "but u still dont want to marry me" so maybe it might be something to do with that? as a few weeks ago she was saying that most her mates were ingaged. I told her that i love her and thats shes the one and i want to get ingaged but just not yet i would like to live together and stuff before we would get ingaged and have our own place etc...

oh and forgot to say the last 4 weekends in a row shes gone out with her mate on the town, i never question it and let her go out when and where she likes coz i trust her but her going out with her mate could have something to do with why we broke up coz her mate is a bit of a slag and has allways tryed to break us up

everything just seems strange, going out for 2 and half years yet it seems like she is able to drop it like shes got no feelings


Not realy sure what to do, cheer me up peeps

i am alot younger than you, same happened to me, similar situations with her fucking off to town every weekend and not being well and stuff.
Spoke to her didnt give her enough space tbh...... been nearly 2 month now since we split.
We were happy when spending time together, can tell when i spoke to her when we split she missed me.......

I just dont understand women. Shit when you actually love them and they fuck off :n:

Cant say nowt as my lass just fucked off. This is the first week we have not spoke after she said she wanted to leave me alone as it was making things harder. Same again her mates all single nd slags so thats what shes gone to do, i have just accepted it now.

Sure your lass will come back though, give her space, biggest mistake i made tbh

Confusing isnt it mate, deffo give her space no matter how hard it is to get in touch. I still get tempted but i leave it be.

My lass acted like she didnt care, but deep down i know she does.

[Vix]

maybe she needs time and space...her head is probably wrecked at the mo...try taking her away from things...a nice break just u 2? if she wont then you just need to leave her be..she hsould soon realise what she wants...

[Steve]

maybe she needs time and space...her head is probably wrecked at the mo...try taking her away from things...a nice break just u 2? if she wont then you just need to leave her be..she hsould soon realise what she wants...

deffo the thing to do, once again my mrs said her head was all over. i still didnt give her the space she needed :n:

She will come back man ;)

[Tobs]

feel bad for ya steve remeber everyones the same in relationships about what and how they feel is somthing happens

dont you just love em

i think u should wait a little bit then try talk to her again.

[Robb]

...one person i didnt expect an 'i got dumped' thread from.

all the best mate.

[jay-cook]

i broke up with my gf 2/3 weeks ago ,we wer together for a yr and 10months,, i just felt like i needed sum space from the relashionship life, its been a couple of weeks now and me and my gf breaking up has really shown me how much i really love her, maybe she needs time to think i like i did...im only 17 and my ex is 16 so i guess are emotions are all over the place...

really hope it all works out for you

jay

[Dez]

im starting to think that people get in relationships too young, me being one of them

[Easty]

Absence makes the heart grow fonder mate, give it a week or two, don't chase her up and see if she gets in touch with you.

If she knows you are gonna ring her every 5 minutes she can wrap you around her little finger if she wants!

Chin up mate, it happens to the best of us, and although at the moment it won't feel like it, if the worst does happen, you will definately get over it in time... it took me ages to get over my gf of 2 years but i got there!

[Gazzza]

unlucky :(
i would have said i do want to marry you but not just yet... need to thionk things through etc and make out that ur not gona and spring it on her with a fancy dinner with champeign in a glass with a engagement ring in the glass



if u want to marry her that is...

but i cant help you out here :/ good luck though

[kylie]

id say, tell the truth thet you wn2 live together first n that you hope she understands that. then give her some space, she'll soon get back to ya if ya dont call cus she'll think you've moved on. everytime i argue wi my fella he never calls or owt, wont speak 4 weeks sometimes. i always end up giving in and calling him. cant bare the thought of him moving on. good luck dude

[SAM33R]

thing is alot of people aint realised or took notice of the fact that he's been with her for 2 1/2 years...

i dunno why girls do that shit, tbh they do it for the attention and to fuck your head up...

simple thing is, you go out with your boys and have a laugh and joke, make her feel that you dont give a fuck cos if this girl really does love you, she will come back...

but then again, going out with her mates is not a good sign whether you trust her or not. slut mates can turn any other girl into one.

ive seen that shit happen to me...

it is so true that *some* girls are jealous little bitches, always want to be as good or even better than their mates...

just give her some space, i know its hard mate...

time will show you whats what...

she'll soon realise whats missing...

please try cheer up fella :y:

[kylie]

time apart usually sorts things out. bin wi my fella over 3 yrs n we've split before for short periods. as long as you're not arguin things should be ok. by the way, not all girls are jealous bitches!!!

[Predator_R32]

steve, fancy a bum???

[SAM33R]

time apart usually sorts things out. bin wi my fella over 3 yrs n we've split before for short periods. as long as you're not arguin things should be ok. by the way, not all girls are jealous bitches!!!

edit :oops:

[stevenet15]

thanks for all the replys, i'm gona send her some flowers to her work tomorrow with a note on it and then leave it at that and see what happens

steve, fancy a bum???

haha i knew pred would be able to cheer me up with a funny comment :y:

[kylie]

????? edit

[s3an]

thanks for the replys, just feel realy down, i honestly love this girl, and if she goes off with someone and then decideds she has made a mistake and wants me back i dont think i could do it even tho i love her because i will know she has given herself to someone while i was in love with her

i feel for u m8. i would feel exactly the same! u dont want to think about things like that tho cos it will drive you nuts! send the flower and let her think about it. in the mean time like others have said spend some time with your mates, they will be able to cheer you no doubt!

im starting to think that people get in relationships too young, me being one of them

im 21 and have been with my gf for 9 years! if she did this to me i would be broken :homme:

[MK2SLAG]

that sounds exactly like my situation and nearly the same amount of time mate,infact there is nothing i can see that isnt different,my ex's best mate is a slag,has never liked me,started going out recently i get dumped!!!

i thought i would have been very down about it but because i got messed about before its made me strong,and now she knows im texting another girl shes going off the head!!!!!

ill never understand woman,hope you get it sorted out mate,i feel for you!!

[Predator_R32]

haha i knew pred would be able to cheer me up with a funny comment :y:

well i was being serious steve :p

[Scattle]

Chin up buddy.

[saxoaee]

thats shit mate girls love to mess your head up and after that long you need to find out whats been going through her head to make her do this. flowers is a good idea. but i know what it feels like mate and if they just keep ignoreing you then just think to your self single life will do for now.

if all fails take pred up on his offer :P

[AliC]

Sorry to hear that m8, the sudden drop is questionable into why and i would get an answer m8 cos i to know what its like, the only difference was that it was me being the dick. Do you think that maybe she has meet someone eles and couldnt ber to tell you? I hope you get things sorted m8 but time will tell! Its all about breaking the habbit!

all the best!

[Steve]

that sounds exactly like my situation and nearly the same amount of time mate,infact there is nothing i can see that isnt different,my ex's best mate is a slag,has never liked me,started going out recently i get dumped!!!

i thought i would have been very down about it but because i got messed about before its made me strong,and now she knows im texting another girl shes going off the head!!!!!

ill never understand woman,hope you get it sorted out mate,i feel for you!!

thats exactly what happened to me, hate the thought of her doing stuff we did with someone else......

But if she has turned into a slut i dont want nothing to do with her, i still not heard nothing from my ex :n:


They dont realise what they have in front of them at times women....
They like the thrill of flirting about imo not saying there sluts think they just like the attention.
But if we get attention of other girls we get wrong :n:

[saxo_bigbass]

whatver you do.dont go mad smashing things to take your anger out on,ull just get more wound up and angry.n when she knows your upset in tyhat way shell take advantage! past experiance mate.