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[gozzy-vtr]

This will create a mixed response i guess but i need help.

15 months ago my ex gf cheated on me, I was in love with her for over 2 years. she ran rings round me and destoyed my life, its taken a year to get over her but ive now moved on and fallen in love again. but i cannot explain to anyone how much its hurting me. i feel so insecure, i expect her to cheat on me, i expect it to go wrong. shes a lovely sweet girl but im still paranoid beyond belief.
this weekend she is going out on the town with her friends, dressed in somethin she calls a dress. its more like a top it doesnt even cover here whole arse. the thought alone is making me sick to the stomach, i cant sleep and cant go to work, im shaking as im writing this. in my head shes gonna be chatting ppl up, accepting offered drinks, dancing with lads and may even cheat.
i dont know what to do, everyday is so painful even tho she is 99% perfect its not enough for me due to my insecurity. ive asked her not to go out dressed like that but she told me im being unreasonable.

im stuck guys i feel trapped

HELP

[Prickle]

sex her i.e no strings :p, seriously, give her trial or something :)

[gozzy-vtr]

sex her i.e no strings :p, seriously, give her trial or something :)

i love her, i cant just reduse my feelings

[Gordzilla]

You feel that way because of your past, and you don't wanna get hurt again. If you trust her, then let her go out wearing what she wants. If you tell her she can't wear it, then you're going the right way of her breaking up with you.

[jacko87]

You feel that way because of your past, and you don't wanna get hurt again. If you trust her, then let her go out wearing what she wants. If you tell her she can't wear it, then you're going the right way of her breaking up with you.

Agreed there, if it's to be mate, she won't cheat on you, and you won't cheat on her - just trust her, everything happens for a reason remember, you'll be fine :)

[Mikey]

go out with your mates. try not to think about it.

tbh if your like that with her she will dump you

[gozzy-vtr]

You feel that way because of your past, and you don't wanna get hurt again. If you trust her, then let her go out wearing what she wants. If you tell her she can't wear it, then you're going the right way of her breaking up with you.

i dont trust her, i cant trust her

[gozzy-vtr]

go out with your mates. try not to think about it.

tbh if your like that with her she will dump you

i no but i cant bite my tongue, either way im gonna loose her and i cant deal with that, im a sensitive person at heart and this is destoying my life, AND SHE AINT EVEN DOING ANYTHIN WRONG!

[VTEC-Saxo]

man i no how u feel, not exacly as bad but i had the same thing happen, yet im still not with anyone you have to re gain trust, talk to her about why you feel this way explain what happend in order for her to understand and not pass you of as unreasonable

[jacko87]

i no but i cant bite my tongue, either way im gonna loose her and i cant deal with that, im a sensitive person at heart and this is destoying my life, AND SHE AINT EVEN DOING ANYTHIN WRONG!

You need to try to trust her though mate, as you say, she hasn't done anything wrong

[matt_vtr_15]

team rrawl are down town that week! She will be the only girl in a 5 person orgy! On another note you have to have trust i trust my gf down town and always will! If you dnt trust her chances are you wil force her away to cheat! Just chill

[Gordzilla]

i dont trust her, i cant trust her

Oh, then you have a serious problem !

It's either gonna eat away at your mind or you let it go and try your hardest to trust her. Not every girl is out there to fuck you over. You're only feeling like this because of your past. Don't let that ruin your chance of happiness.

[Craddock]

Yeah mate, don't think all girls are slu*s and will cheat on you. Because most likely, you'll nag the one girl that is loyal and actually loves you, and then she'll leave you. Chin up mate, don't always thing bad things...trust plays a huge part in a relationship.

[Mikey]

the worst thig you can do it stop a lass going out mate.

[SAXOSi]

i dont trust her, i cant trust her

No you dont trust the person from before.

Let her go, let her enjoy herself and enjoy her return.

[alex19]

I think you need to chat to her about what happened in the past and then maybe then she'll see why your like this.

I've had a girl do the same to me, it's annoying when they take everything because your that nice, then they fuck off and keep it all. I can say I don't trust girls right now, will be awhile till I do again but it'll be worth the wait.

[gozzy-vtr]

trust is everything, i have learnt that but i cant do it, im trying to talk to her now on msn n i can see us splitting over this stuff. its my fault for falling for a gorgeous 17 year old. fuckin big mistake :(

[Peejous]

Just let her go out in whatever she wants.

I do with my missus, its all about trust tbh mate.

If you cant trust her forget it.

I cant see how you fall in "love" so easy either.

its my fault for falling for a gorgeous 17 year old.

How gorgeous? Pics for proof tbh

[VTR-98]

I am the same mate, a little better now though. Really pisses me off when she goes out. And my last relationship was pretty crap but it was me cheating to make myself feel better because i always thought my ex was on me. Now the new gf is brilliant and fit, but I feel shit when she goes out. Mainly because i know there are alot of lads like me out there that try and chat up anything, and i know alot of lasses that ahve got blokes and cheat on them. Either way she will be dancing and probably getting her arse grabbed all night and drinks bought for her. And tbh once you start dancing with a lass your basically in there. But you will loose her in the end which is rather annoying. Best advice i can give you is let her go out, but you need to go out too. You cant stay in thinking about the events.

My lass is 17 too but pretty mature, but even on msn i always think she is talking to other blokes. Trust takes time to get and after 4 months i still dont trust my gf and i love her to bits. But i trust her more than i did my ex, and at the end of the day saying stuff to her like i dont trust you aint gonig to do you any favours. Keep it to your self mate. BUT YOU NEED TO GO OUT TO GET YOUR MIND OFF IT, EVEN NIGHTS YOU WANT TO STAY WITH HER YOU NEED TO GO OUT AND SHOW HER THAT YOU AINT A LAPDOG.

[Gordzilla]

trust is everything, i have learnt that but i cant do it, im trying to talk to her now on msn n i can see us splitting over this stuff. its my fault for falling for a gorgeous 17 year old. fuckin big mistake :(

Don't do it over msn. You need to sit down and open up with her.

[gozzy-vtr]

Just let her go out in whatever she wants.

I do with my missus, its all about trust tbh mate.

If you cant trust her forget it.

I cant see how you fall in "love" so easy either.



How gorgeous? Pics for proof tbh

dont invert it mate, i love her more than anythin in thw world, it was such a relief to find such a lovely gorgeous genuine girl after feeling that i lost the only one for me, ive found this girl now and i never want it to end, but im driving here away! but i cant bite my tongue, i cant let her go out without kicking off something rotten. she doesnt go out hardly ever but once is enough to f*ck me up

[dobbo_1]

i agree with peej

trust her and she will respect you,

if she cheats its her loss mate and better to find out now than if you get even more in love with her

[alanrichie]

iv been there mate, but i cant walk away, pfft. shit init.

i feel for a gorgeous 15 year old :( ( i was 16 so peej dont even think bout perv comments)

least you been without her for a year , im still there and its ruining my life.

[alex19]

If she's going to cheat she's going to cheat at the end of the day.

It's better you letting her go out and if do it now than in the future when your even more attached.

You've just got to remember, she hasn't cheated on you. If she does it in the future then Bye Bye. But for now just chill out yeah :)

[kenny]

my advice on this is - Just let her go out and try to relax about the situation. Go out with your mates and have a laugh.

I was in the same situation as you are in and yes i know its difficult but you need to try and gain trust with her.

[Gordzilla]

dont invert it mate, i love her more than anythin in thw world, it was such a relief to find such a lovely gorgeous genuine girl after feeling that i lost the only one for me, ive found this girl now and i never want it to end, but im driving here away! but i cant bite my tongue, i cant let her go out without kicking off something rotten. she doesnt go out hardly ever but once is enough to f*ck me up

Does she know about your past ?

[SBeacham1985]

If you dont trust her and are still parnoid over this stuff coz of what your ex done then maybe your not ready for another relationship yet?

[Saxo_Scott]

Chill, if she is going to cheat on you then she will.

if you dont trust her then call it off now cause it will all end in tears.

if she loves you like you love her then you have nothing to worry about


one word


Paranoid

[alanrichie]

If you dont trust her and are still parnoid over this stuff coz of what your ex done then maybe your not ready for another relationship yet?

wise words:y:

[gozzy-vtr]

Does she know about your past ?

she knows everything, i never stop taking about it, i just dont think she understands. i am being unreasonable, tryin to lock her up but its how i want it to be, shes my girlfrined i love her i cant see her gettin chatted up. she wants me to go with her but if anyone so much as looks at her ill kick off.

[Peejous]

i cant let her go out without kicking off something rotten. she doesnt go out hardly ever but once is enough to f*ck me up

Seriously your caging her, and then she's going to get pissed off because she never goes out anymore and will do it behind your back.

Most the proper lads on here who are in serious relationships you'll find go out with "the lads" and let their missus out to do their own thing.

May I suggest going out too, instead of staying at home or whatever it is you do.

Jealousy ins't always a bad thing, dont get too upset if she chats to guys etc it happens it always will happen just go to the bar.

Honestly though as ive said.

You cage her and she will break free!

[AdamW]

i dont trust her, i cant trust her

Then you can't be with her then...plain and simple.

No trust No relationship.

No point beating around the bush. You have your own life so does she.

Let her go out....you do your own stuff..

Stop being a fanny

[Gordzilla]

she knows everything, i never stop taking about it, i just dont think she understands. i am being unreasonable, tryin to lock her up but its how i want it to be, shes my girlfrined i love her i cant see her gettin chatted up. she wants me to go with her but if anyone so much as looks at her ill kick off.

You're gonna lose her if you keep acting like that. Slap yourself and get with the programme. You can't have eyes on her 24/7. That will drive her away.

[alex19]

Her wanting you to go with her is code for I want to enjoy my night with you and not some random.

Peej is awesome btw.

[gozzy-vtr]

i could go out, but with who? my old mates do coke and fight every time they go out. ive grown up and i wanna settle down in a serious relationship, i dont have any true mates.

[Gordzilla]

i could go out, but with who? my old mates do coke and fight every time they go out. ive grown up and i wanna settle down in a serious relationship, i dont have any true mates.

Cant you go out with her ?

[Peejous]

i could go out, but with who? my old mates do coke and fight every time they go out. ive grown up and i wanna settle down in a serious relationship, i dont have any true mates.

Then go out with her.

Instead of trying to fight all the lads or whatever who may even be her friends may I suggest opening your mouth and talking / comunicating with them?

[nemo]

the past is the past mate if you cant get over it you will never move on..

[AdamW]

I wouldn't go out with her...opens a whole new can of worms.

Live your own life. Plan something with your mates(if you have any) and then meet her at 3am when the night is over for sexy time

Out of sight, Out of Mind

[gozzy-vtr]

Cant you go out with her ?

i couldnt, it would end in tears for sure

[alanrichie]

i could go out, but with who? my old mates do coke and fight every time they go out. ive grown up and i wanna settle down in a serious relationship, i dont have any true mates.


get down to newcastle, me and my mates will show you a good night ;D

[srcnix]

i no but i cant bite my tongue, either way im gonna loose her and i cant deal with that, im a sensitive person at heart and this is destoying my life, AND SHE AINT EVEN DOING ANYTHIN WRONG!

Gozzy, what you're having are feelings brought to you from past issues. I'm sure it's happened to a lot of other people and has happened to me. I felt the same way as you do now with my lovely lady when I was first with her. I got over it by forgetting about the fact she was going out (I wont mention how I did that) and then seeing her the next day and simply saying how worried I was because of what has happened in the past - she confirmed nothing happened and that she is with me and now a year and a half later we have a house together.

One thing you need to be careful on is saying you don't trust her. It's not that you don't trust her, it's that you can't trust the situation due to past events -- it sounds more thorough and easier to understand.

Let her go (Don't say you're worried unless she asks) and then explain everything in your head the day after.

That way, despite all these thoughts in your mind you've let her go (so to speak) and that right there is trust. She will appreciate it and will help make things easier on you.

Hope this helps.

[Cal]

Oh hai Screwfix!

EDIT: take a step back and look at the way you're acting... would you want to be with a girl that acts this way? You'll drive her away... If you want her, chill the fuck out.

[AdamW]

Yellow card Cal

[srcnix]

Also, you're having these thoughts because you generally care about her and your relationship -- otherwise you wouldn't give a fuck.

[Cal]

Yellow card CalI like yellow a lot. Prefer blue though

[Gordzilla]

Can I just add, that I've seen these threads before and people jump on the wagon and start slating whoever makes the thread. Nice to see the community come together on this one !

[gozzy-vtr]

Can I just add, that I've seen these threads before and people jump on the wagon and start slating whoever makes the thread. Nice to see the community come together on this one !

i agree, i normally get a shit response but this is really helping me guys. maybe sax-p isnt f*cked after all

[Audrey_D]

Seriously your caging her, and then she's going to get pissed off because she never goes out anymore and will do it behind your back.

Most the proper lads on here who are in serious relationships you'll find go out with "the lads" and let their missus out to do their own thing.

May I suggest going out too, instead of staying at home or whatever it is you do.

Jealousy ins't always a bad thing, dont get too upset if she chats to guys etc it happens it always will happen just go to the bar.

Honestly though as ive said.

You cage her and she will break free!


Excellent advice! :y:

As its already been said, if she's going to cheat there aint alot you can do about it. Yes its shit and it has probably happned to us all but you cant keep this hold on her.

Yes you love her but everyone needs time with their friends, whether it be male or female friends. If you stop her from doing it you'll push her away hun.

[gozzy-vtr]

i am pushing her away. i can see that already. thats why i feel trapped, i cant be happy with this situation, im on a no winner

[Audrey_D]

You feel trapped?

Imagine how she's feeling if she cant go out.

She is not your ex hun! Not all us lassies are like that! :)

If you love her like you say you do you need to try and let her do her own thing :)

[gozzy-vtr]

You feel trapped?

Imagine how she's feeling if she cant go out.

She is not your ex hun! Not all us lassies are like that! :)

If you love her like you say you do you need to try and let her do her own thing :)

but i feel she will make a habit of it, at the moment she rarely goes out, going out on the town is like a bug, once shes started that will mark the end of us. i dont want her to fall for that way of life

[Audrey_D]

She probably doesnt go out so she doesnt upset you though :)

It's only one night, telling her she cant do something will make her want to do it even more (im a woman, i know :P )

[Peejous]

but i feel she will make a habit of it, at the moment she rarely goes out, going out on the town is like a bug, once shes started that will mark the end of us. i dont want her to fall for that way of life

How will it mark the end of you, just because she goes out.

Seriously mate you might as well just break up because as fair as I can see your been too over protective of her and its never going to work.

[gozzy-vtr]

How will it mark the end of you, just because she goes out.

Seriously mate you might as well just break up because as fair as I can see your been too over protective of her and its never going to work.

:( shit, rarrr i dunno what to do

[Peejous]

If you want it to work, you have to just relax a little.

As already said, dont be so paranoid.

Or as Adam said

Out of sight out of mind.

Go and do your own thing.

Get an Xbox

[Tupps]

has anybody requested pics yet?

[Peejous]

has anybody requested pics yet?

Yeah been there.

[gozzy-vtr]

has anybody requested pics yet?

was wondering when king tupps would arrive with his mature comments as usual

[Rich_Black_VTS]

You gotta sit down and talk it over with her chap.

[CazLad]

Get an Xbox

Best advice anyone will ever give you!
Just let her have her space to enjoy going out with her friends, Im sure she wont cheat on you because she loves you. Just relax with her and let her show that she can be trusted, thatll be the easiest way for you to start rebuilding your trust with women.

[Rich_Black_VTS]

I second that, get an XBOX 360 and get XBOX LIVE:clapping: u will never know shes gone out

[cooper-44]

mate sh*t happens, you have to get up n try again tho pal. forget the past thats history. think to the future. i agree wit evry1 who says talk to her. she will understand and respect u more for telling her how you feel. honest m8

[CazLad]

Play Sax-P Hardcore Search and Destroy on COD4. After that you wont even remember her name lol

[gozzy-vtr]

Play Sax-P Hardcore Search and Destroy on COD4. After that you wont even remember her name lol

ill prob go to the lakes, problem is when ur sat around waiting for a fish all u do is think

[cooper-44]

is that a pic of your car caz lad?

[CazLad]

ill prob go to the lakes, problem is when ur sat around waiting for a fish all u do is think

Take a friend and talk it out? I knwo you said they all crack heads, but there must be someone?

is that a pic of your car caz lad?

its a photoshop, but Im pricing up quotes from companies for the wheels. Should be like that by christmas :) *sorry for the thread hi-jack gozzy*

[Chico999]

Mate, you sound like you shouldn't be in a relationship atall.

Be single for a while!

You only have to think about yourself!

Im a selfish guy what can i say.

[gozzy-vtr]

Mate, you sound like you shouldn't be in a relationship atall.

Be single for a while!

You only have to think about yourself!

Im a selfish guy what can i say.

i was single for a year, n now im not, that i dont wanna change

[Peejous]

Seriously now, if you cant deal with the fact she's gone out, and cant go out yourself get an xbox.

You will forget she's even gone out, and she'll be calling you asking "why have you not text her" / "why have you not washed up" / "why wont you reply to text" / "where are you"

She'll soon come home to check up on you, then you can have the meaningfull conversations I have with my missus while on playing the xbox:

Her - "Did you miss me today baby?"
Me - "Yes, ah ffs I shot that guy"
Her - "Doesn't sound like it, did you have a nice day?"
Me - "Yes, anyone got a UAV"
Her - "You had food?"
Me - "Yes, OMG guis ROFLCOPTER"

You see where this is going?

[cooper-44]

ye my bad gozzy. is it this week end she going out?



ps them wheels look awsome

[gozzy-vtr]

Seriously now, if you cant deal with the fact she's gone out, and cant go out yourself get an xbox.

You will forget she's even gone out, and she'll be calling you asking "why have you not text her" / "why have you not washed up" / "why wont you reply to text" / "where are you"

She'll soon come home to check up on you, then you can have the meaningfull conversations I have with my missus while on playing the xbox:

Her - "Did you miss me today baby?"
Me - "Yes, ah ffs I shot that guy"
Her - "Doesn't sound like it, did you have a nice day?"
Me - "Yes, anyone got a UAV"
Her - "You had food?"
Me - "Yes, OMG guis ROFLCOPTER"

You see where this is going?

well i dont even have internet at my house,. so x-box live is out the window

[CazLad]

Seriously now, if you cant deal with the fact she's gone out, and cant go out yourself get an xbox.

You will forget she's even gone out, and she'll be calling you asking "why have you not text her" / "why have you not washed up" / "why wont you reply to text" / "where are you"

She'll soon come home to check up on you, then you can have the meaningfull conversations I have with my missus while on playing the xbox:

Her - "Did you miss me today baby?"
Me - "Yes, ah ffs I shot that guy"
Her - "Doesn't sound like it, did you have a nice day?"
Me - "Yes, anyone got a UAV"
Her - "You had food?"
Me - "Yes, OMG guis ROFLCOPTER"

You see where this is going?

LOL
Id rep you if i could, That is a daily process for every guy who has an xbox lol
Seriously, youll be fine if you bought one ;)

[alanrichie]

after 4 pages of advice you seem the same as you were when you posted the first post...

i think your just going to have to realise, you love her, you care bout her, dont force her out worrying about something that aint happened yet.

think about what you are doing to her.

[starkie]

Seriously now, if you cant deal with the fact she's gone out, and cant go out yourself get an xbox.

You will forget she's even gone out, and she'll be calling you asking "why have you not text her" / "why have you not washed up" / "why wont you reply to text" / "where are you"

She'll soon come home to check up on you, then you can have the meaningfull conversations I have with my missus while on playing the xbox:

Her - "Did you miss me today baby?"
Me - "Yes, ah ffs I shot that guy"
Her - "Doesn't sound like it, did you have a nice day?"
Me - "Yes, anyone got a UAV"
Her - "You had food?"
Me - "Yes, OMG guis ROFLCOPTER"

You see where this is going?

So True! I can relate to that! :clapping:

[Crunkers]

Gozzy, how old are you lad? You say you wanna settle down into a relationship but you're never gonna get this opportunity with the way you're treating her. Even if she does go out and speaks to a bloke, does that automatically mean she is gonna cheat? NO...

Let her do what she wants, if you go out with her and bloke look at her then you can be proud to say that you're going out with a hottie. Or go out with your mates and meet up with her later on

[gozzy-vtr]

after 4 pages of advice you seem the same as you were when you posted the first post...

i think your just going to have to realise, you love her, you care bout her, dont force her out worrying about something that aint happened yet.

think about what you are doing to her.

i no mate i no :( jesus this sucks

[gozzy-vtr]

Gozzy, how old are you lad? You say you wanna settle down into a relationship but you're never gonna get this opportunity with the way you're treating her. Even if she does go out and speaks to a bloke, does that automatically mean she is gonna cheat? NO...

Let her do what she wants, if you go out with her and bloke look at her then you can be proud to say that you're going out with a hottie. Or go out with your mates and meet up with her later on

19 year old going on 90 going on 11. im very mature in some ways but i can be very immature.

[Crunkers]

19 year old going on 90 going on 11. im very mature in some ways but i can be very immature.

Yeh I can see that. At the end of the day you're both young, take it easy, get to know each other. If she has never done anything to warrent your feelings then you need to trust her.

If you can't do that then she will be calling it a day before the week is out. See the light quick!

[CazLad]

19 year old going on 90 going on 11. im very mature in some ways but i can be very immature.


how old is she dude?
A relationships all good at 19, but dont set your heart on settling down and sticking your slippers on infront of the fire!
Your both young, go out and party together if you dont think you can trust her alone. Just dont let her think your checking up on her, just show some interest in wanting to spend time with her and her friends maybe.

[Crunkers]

how old is she dude?
A relationships all good at 19, but dont set your heart on settling down and sticking your slippers on infront of the fire!
Your both young, go out and party together if you dont think you can trust her alone. Just dont let her think your checking up on her, just show some interest in wanting to spend time with her and her friends maybe.

She's 17. So they're both young,

[Rich_Black_VTS]

ROFL @ PEEJOUS.

Mate I am like that everday,

[lisa]

This will create a mixed response i guess but i need help.

15 months ago my ex gf cheated on me, I was in love with her for over 2 years. she ran rings round me and destoyed my life, its taken a year to get over her but ive now moved on and fallen in love again. but i cannot explain to anyone how much its hurting me. i feel so insecure, i expect her to cheat on me, i expect it to go wrong. shes a lovely sweet girl but im still paranoid beyond belief.
this weekend she is going out on the town with her friends, dressed in somethin she calls a dress. its more like a top it doesnt even cover here whole arse. the thought alone is making me sick to the stomach, i cant sleep and cant go to work, im shaking as im writing this. in my head shes gonna be chatting ppl up, accepting offered drinks, dancing with lads and may even cheat.
i dont know what to do, everyday is so painful even tho she is 99% perfect its not enough for me due to my insecurity. ive asked her not to go out dressed like that but she told me im being unreasonable.

im stuck guys i feel trapped

HELP

hiya well from a womans point of view...... i have been shit on from a great height a lot of times and in does make you insecure and paranoid even though i have been with my partner for nearly 2 and a half years i still get moments of doubt. but you have got to think that she is with you for you and loves the person you are, if you try and change her and stop her going out you will eventually push her away because to her it will seem that you don't love her for her. all i can say is give her a chance huni coz if not you could end up losing what could be the best thing to ever happen to you, and plus its not worth the heartache. good luck. sorry bout the essay lol always here though

[gozzy-vtr]

Yeh I can see that. At the end of the day you're both young, take it easy, get to know each other. If she has never done anything to warrent your feelings then you need to trust her.

If you can't do that then she will be calling it a day before the week is out. See the light quick!

the first week we was together she went camping and i found out out she slept alone with another boy all night, she went out a few months back and i had 2 ppl tell me she was flirting

[gozzy-vtr]

hiya well from a womans point of view...... i have been shit on from a great height a lot of times and in does make you insecure and paranoid even though i have been with my partner for nearly 2 and a half years i still get moments of doubt. but you have got to think that she is with you for you and loves the person you are, if you try and change her and stop her going out you will eventually push her away because to her it will seem that you don't love her for her. all i can say is give her a chance huni coz if not you could end up losing what could be the best thing to ever happen to you, and plus its not worth the heartache. good luck. sorry bout the essay lol always here though

the essay is welcome. thankyou :) i did this to my ex and she eventually ran off with another guy. i no i shouldnt be doing it but i feel i need to :( i dont wanna be under the thumb, but i am!

[Peejous]

I had 2 ppl tell me she was flirting

Flirting is nothing mate.

People flirt all the time.

Seriously your too paranoid

Seriously I need to stop saying seriously.

[CazLad]

flirting is nothing mate. Everyone does it. Shes young and so are you, just calm yourself a little because getting yourself worked up will push her away far to much, especially as shes only 17 (thatll be why her dress doesnt cover her bum, she doesnt want to be id'd ;))

[Peejous]

Flirting is nothing mate.

People flirt all the time.

flirting is nothing mate. Everyone does it.

Oh hai bruva x

[gozzy-vtr]

hmmmmmmmm grrr lol, bloody women, is it all worth it at the end of the day?

[CazLad]

Oh hai bruva x

LOLz oh hai!


hmmmmmmmm grrr lol, bloody women, is it all worth it at the end of the day?

depends how long you can last without sex :P

[Robb]

You will push her away if you try and control her.

Cant you take up a hobby to keep your mind off it...

Like seagulls?

[Raz]

hmmmmmmmm grrr lol, bloody women, is it all worth it at the end of the day?

if you think it is then yes...but your going about it the wrong fucking way...like people have said 10000000000000 times already...

flirting is nothing imo (hug me peej :)) people do it all the time...people do it naturally...

if she was flirting by talking to them...knock it on the head...if it was by touching them, ass grinding on the dance floor...knock it on the head...if she kisses them...over the top...

chill out...let her go out...if you get a text at the end of the night saying she cheated or whatever...you can fuck peej in the ass...you can always trust him :hug:

[AdamW]

Prank calls to the RSPB all night.....

[Raz]

You will push her away if you try and control her.

Cant you take up a hobby to keep your mind off it...

Like seagulls?
HAHAHAHAHA @ seagulls

[Shellz]

I got cheated on. Made me really insecure and now i don't trust a Lad when i'm with him!! :(

[kcsaxo]

if theres any of those feelings that make you paranoid then leave her and get someone else, no point making yourself sick over some girl. weve all been there and even though i would like me ex back theres no way i would do it.

[Peejous]

I love my girlfriend, can you tell?

http://i174.photobucket.com/albums/w110/Da_Peej/ended.jpg

[kezz]

the first week we was together she went camping and i found out out she slept alone with another boy all night, she went out a few months back and i had 2 ppl tell me she was flirting

my ex cheated on me when i was pregnant, it was awful, cant discribe the feeling!!!
my partner now is really flirty and i feel sick to the stomach when he goes out with his mates but i also trust him!!
I still feel like this after 7yr of being with him but i never have and never will tell him he cant go out or anything!!!

[SAXOSi]

i had 2 ppl tell me she was flirting

How do you think women go out and spend only a tenner and blokes spend £100?

Everybody flirts it's healthy imo

As for in the first week of your relationship she shared a tent with a bloke ALONE! Blimey I've shared beds with female mates who are going out with people, it doesnt mean anything has happened.

[saxodan]

sort her out with a chastity belt

but being serious the more you try and stop her or make her change the more she will be annoyed and go behind your back.

just tell her your a bit jelous, but let her go out

[daisax]

Look mate ive been with my GF now for a year and we've had our ups and downs as every couple do, but i went through a stage of being jelous insecure. e.g. wanted to know where she was all the time who shes with, who shes talking to on msn, any boi went near her i would be so angry! well basically i almost lost her due to my childish behaviour! i love my GF more than anything in this world and i would give my life for her. i trust her more than anything and relationship is amazing! and you know what the funny thing is! now i dont ask whats shes doing anymore i just trust her to get on with whatever shes doing, she tellls me everything were as before she use to say nothing! so trusting your GF and just forget about it! itll be the best thing that will happen to you mate! trust me. For instance my misses is going to a works xmas party in this massive club and theres aloud of young bois my age that work with that are going and always try hitting on her! but i now my misses loves me wouldnt cheat on me! so i think that over and over and just say look shes going out for a nice time let her enjoy! before she goes pull her to one side and say, have a nice night baby, then joke and say "dont get to drunk" and just give her a kiss and let that be that! then shell be texting you all night missing you trust! cause everytime she sees a couple or another boi she wont be able to stop thinkin about you! :D so its a win win situation! the more your trusting the better your life together will be! i used to bring myself down alla time and be depressed and shit but no more!

if your going to be with her mate, trust her to what ever she wants! and what ever she does you support her init and shell be the best GF to you in the world! so toughen up soldier and forget about it! treat her the way you want to be treated is my saying!

peace x

[JC-Furio]

Have any seagull responses been made?

If not, i've heard seagull stew really calms the nerves. Or if that fails, batter her like a seagull, and the RSPCA will be round. Better yet, dress up like a seagull and make squawking noises. Pics needed if you dress up.

DISCLAIMER: Not a personal attack.

[saxodan]

jc-furio is such a douche

[stompin-sarah]

speaking to someone over the internet is a real bad idea because some things that are said can easily be taken the wrong way....

speak to her face to face and explain how you feel, however if you carry on being like that with her you will lose her.....

its hard being able to keep quiet and let her go out and wear what she wants but im afraid thats what your gonna have to do. it takes time to build up trust

dont tar her with the same brush as your ex......

not all women are the same :)

[JC-Furio]

jc-furio is such a douche

Take it there were a lot of seagull responses.

Bah humbug.

[Ferg]

Still no pics?

LOL @ Peej ... You're on fire today man!

[Crunkers]

the first week we was together she went camping and i found out out she slept alone with another boy all night, she went out a few months back and i had 2 ppl tell me she was flirting

Those words say it all Gozzy, you were together a week, does a week mean you're married or something, how'd you know if after a week its serious?

If you felt uncomfortable or paranoid why not just end it there and then?

As for the flirting both Peej and the Welsh geeza have already said enough on that, flirting means bugger all at the end of the day. She is 17 you're 19, go out and enjoy yourselves, live life a little.

[Robb]

Oh and just a thought, this will get even worse when she turns 18 and is legally allowed to go out...

[Crunkers]

Oh and just a thought, this will get even worse when she turns 18 and is legally allowed to go out...

Good job Robb, this guy is gonna be slitting his wrists now this has come up :p

[SAXOSi]

Good job Robb, this guy is gonna be slitting his wrists now this has come up :p

If he does remember Do it downwards not across ;)

[daisax]

haha haha dont stress mate, my misses was all like i dont like town im never gonna go blady bla bla i was all like awesome! gota GF whos never gonna go partyin! then college came and she started geting invited to town and shit but shes only gone like 3 times this whole year so its orite :D i get boys asking her to goto the cinema with them on their own! to goto private house partys asking her number! some of them have got her number and some text her! but i trust her and let her carry on and if one of them sends an out of line text she tells me and ill go skits on that boi but if they texting her its fine cause i now she sees them as friends but if they thought other wise she would tell me! you need to TRUST thats what a relationship is based on isTRUST TRUST TRUST

[JC-Furio]

haha haha dont stress mate, my misses was all like i dont like town im never gonna go blady bla bla i was all like awesome! gota GF whos never gonna go partyin! then college came and she started geting invited to town and shit but shes only gone like 3 times this whole year so its orite :D i get boys asking her to goto the cinema with them on their own! to goto private house partys asking her number! some of them have got her number and some text her! but i trust her and let her carry on and if one of them sends an out of line text she tells me and ill go skits on that boi but if they texting her its fine cause i now she sees them as friends but if they thought other wise she would tell me! you need to TRUST thats what a relationship is based on isTRUST TRUST TRUST

Or secretly she's riding them all like sea biscuit.

[Jay_Saxo]

Or secretly she's riding them all like sea biscuit.

Nasty, but I liked it :y: Made me spit sprite out my nose lol!

[Mattt-VTR]

Another one of these threads, i suggest you read all the other threads on relationships that all say pretty much the same thing.

[Robb]

No offence but if I found out my mrs was texting another boy, friends or not friends I would bounce her skull off my knee...

[JC-Furio]

Nasty, but I liked it :y: Made me spit sprite out my nose lol!

My work here is done :afro:

No offence but if I found out my mrs was texting another boy, friends or not friends I would bounce her skull off my knee...

Then chokeslam?

http://accel23.mettre-put-idata.over-blog.com/0/08/06/68/wwe/prises-de-lutte/chokeslam.jpg

[James_Skylit]

I feel for you dude, its hard to trust again, you just gotta persevere and youll be just fine :)

[Paul]

Dont let her wear whatever she wants.

Tell her she looks like a slag.

Treat them mean. Keep them kean.

The end.

[Cal]

I wouldn't smoke them mate, could mean they fail the mot. Apart from that its looking pretty good, not sure about the colour of the rims though tbh

[Jay_Saxo]

If a guy tried to tell me I wasn't allowed to wear something that would just make me do it all the more! Been through all that when I was younger, never again!!

[SAXOSi]

No offence but if I found out my mrs was texting another boy, friends or not friends I would bounce her skull off my knee...

:lol: So you wont talk to any other females then?

[Kelly]

If you really like her then it's worth explaining how badly your ex hurt you. If she likes you enough she will understand

[AdamW]

Not so much texting......but SaxoSi said he has slept in bed with females who have boyfriends and nothing has happened. I still think that is out of order. I would kick off then.

Surely you should take it on yourself knowing she has a boyfriend to not even think about sleeping in same bed as her.....sleep on the floor you perv

[adamm]

haha haha dont stress mate, my misses was all like i dont like town im never gonna go blady bla bla i was all like awesome! gota GF whos never gonna go partyin! then college came and she started geting invited to town and shit but shes only gone like 3 times this whole year so its orite :D i get boys asking her to goto the cinema with them on their own! to goto private house partys asking her number! some of them have got her number and some text her! but i trust her and let her carry on and if one of them sends an out of line text she tells me and ill go skits on that boi but if they texting her its fine cause i now she sees them as friends but if they thought other wise she would tell me! you need to TRUST thats what a relationship is based on isTRUST TRUST TRUST

i can see your point but doing this could mean ur bird is fuking some bloke all the time and your to laid back to notice it.

[Gazzza]

tell her u demand sex when she gets in :) = u feel good she aint cheated and u get laid what more do you need??


oh yea sorry a beer :y:

[Chuffy]

Just stop being so gullible

"Fly high lesbian seagul"

[SAXOSi]

Not so much texting......but SaxoSi said he has slept in bed with females who have boyfriends and nothing has happened. I still think that is out of order. I would kick off then.

Surely you should take it on yourself knowing she has a boyfriend to not even think about sleeping in same bed as her.....sleep on the floor you perv

Why is out order? Can you not have mates that are the opposite sex to you? Bit of an archaic attitude.

Why sleep on the floor when there is a perfectly good bit of bed space going?

In my social group if we end up back at someones house its rare someone sleeps on the floor, the only time that happens is when we all cant fit in a bed. 3 or 4 in a bed male/females is nowt new.

[Crunkers]

Why is out order? Can you not have mates that are the opposite sex to you? Bit of an archaic attitude.

Why sleep on the floor when there is a perfectly good bit of bed space going?

In my social group if we end up back at someones house its rare someone sleeps on the floor, the only time that happens is when we all cant fit in a bed. 3 or 4 in a bed male/females is nowt new.

This group involving swingers by chance? ;)

[SAXOSi]

Haha, I was thinking how best to word that. Every way it sounded seedy haha

[Peejous]

Gozzy not that im going to start moaning etc.

But:
This isnt the first time you've had problems. (http://www.saxperience.com/forum/showthread.php?t=149065) Ever thought of been ghey?

Same Girl? (http://www.saxperience.com/forum/showthread.php?t=153705)

[Chuffy]

*hits new thread button*

"er....what to write about this time.... er...oh I know! relation ship problems!"


"and I run, I run so far away! I couldn't get away!"

Name the song for rep

[Peejous]

"and I run, I run so far away! I couldn't get away!"

Name the song for rep

HAHAHA

http://ec3.images-amazon.com/images/P/B000ERU3PG.01._SS500_SCLZZZZZZZ_V64884696_.jpg

[Robb]

*hits new thread button*

"er....what to write about this time.... er...oh I know! relation ship problems!"


"and I run, I run so far away! I couldn't get away!"

Name the song for rep

Flock Of Seaguls - I Ran.

Amazing song.

[Gordzilla]

Let us know what happens btw.

[Japman]

let her go mate,show her that your not botherd etc

she will come home to you

[PH4NT0M_BL4DE]

have you told her about your past, if not explain to her why you feel insecure and she will assure you she wont cheat on you which should make you feel better. but not being nasty mate but if shes gonna cheat shes gonna cheat theres nothing you can do. send a friend as a spy or suming to watch her in the clubs to see if she cheats but at the end of the day you have gotta have trust and your not gonna build trust in her if you constantly keep thinking shes cheating.

[HollyAnne]

if its that bad end it...if anyone tried to stop me having a laugh and didnt trust me id be done with them tbh.

[jacko87]

Let us know what happens btw.

I'd like to know what happens in the end too Gordzilla! :y:

[Peejous]

WOO is this thread bumped up for another day of abuse?

I THINK SO!

[Chuffy]

Wooo!

spread your wings and fly!

[SAXOSi]

Wooo!

spread your wings and fly!

Oh she will be