Marriage, whens right??

[Goldsax]

hi guys....

Just a random question me and the misses have been talking about....

What age is right for marriage?? imo, once your 18 when ever your ready, aslong as your both ready, and know what finacial and supportive needs are needed....whats your opinion???
Right im being thick, its ment to be 30-39, its to early (or late lol) cant figure out how to change it....

[Barry123]

yeah do it

[Gazzza]

for me i dont want to get married untill at least im 25+
but thats me...

[Barry123]

People jump into marriage as if it's some sort of fashion accessory, much like a baby. Marriage is meant to a once in a lifetime thingy, not something you jump into and then out of a few weeks, months or years later.

yeah fair do's, albeit rarely, some kids meet in school when they're 12 and stay together then eventually tie the knot. most don't though. In this day and age, kids are made to grow up fast when really they're not mentally prepared enough to settle down properly - pretty much down to our culture and the garbage we're fed through our TV's, a bit of promiscuity appears to be ok, drunken nights out, lads out on the pull, ann summers nights etc etc

when I was 14 I had my first girlfriend, yee haa, she was the one alright, in my head I was going to marry her the following year and this nice £100 ring from Argos and all that. anyway split up four weeks later.
when I was 16, yee haa met another lass, marry time going through my head again (budget upp'd to £200 though, still Elizabeth Duke mind)
17 met another girl, stayed in a relationship for 5 years, kind of reluctantly discussed the whole marriage thing about 4 years into it. split up the following year.

I'm 23, no way in hell am I even thinking about getting married yet, I'm still a kid.
One, I need to be financially stable.
Two, I need my own love nest (house)
Three, I need a girl I totally trust and do not worry about going on a night out with her mates or something (never really bothered me anyway but some lads get mega mega wankerish over that sort of thing)
Four, I only getting married once, so I'm not going to spend the best part of 5 mins deciding she's the one for me, it's going to take a while until I'm 100% sure she's right... if I ever find her.


So to your question. You're 18... no way do you think about popping the question. Enjoy life a little without any major commitments, there's no need to rush things really :)

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[Goldsax]

Lol im not thinking of popping the question at 18 lol....we said if every thing stays how it is and we have no majour fall outs, or nothing happens a year, maybe a year n a half down the line then i should get down on the ole knee, then no get married for 8-10 months after by then we will be 20 odd etc etc...but we will have to wait and see, somthing might crop up, we might fall out, who knows, we were just talking and wondering, but the above is how we would go about it....

[wobble_vtr]

i get bored in a relationship after like a year, so theres no way ide pop the question untill ide been with somwone at least 3 years, 21 now so not going to get married until 27+

[pink-lady]

i met my hubby when i was 13!!!! best mates at school, we got married when we were 20, still quite young but seeing as we had been together for so long it seemed right, tbh i think as long as you dont rush into it, then only you can make that decision, we have been happuily married for nearly 12 years and have 2 wonderful kids, wouldnt change it for the world, but thats just my opinion x

[peeweelp]

i think so long as both of you are ready for marriage then you should go for it.

[wobble_vtr]

pink-lady, thats impressive

dont hear of many couples who got together really young lasting. big respect

[HollyAnne]

I'm a sucker for tradition really...I want to be atleast in my 20's to get married, will not have children out of marriage (although I doubt I'll have them anyway), I refuse to divorce, especially if there are kids involved.

But yeh, to many people just jump into it now. Rich was going to propose when I got to 18...but I can see why that would be stupid, we met when I was 15...to young to be making big decisions like that IMO. Everyone who has divorced in my family married before 20 and there are a lot of divorced people in my family...dont think I'll be making the same mistake.

xXx

[evans1089]

mid twenties ftw, wait till your after 21, to see if she still wants to when you've been to Vegas and lost everything :P

[smiith]

dont think id get married untill after 25, just so i knew i had a steady job, good income, and had done a fair few years of all night party and sleeping around :A:

EDIT: cant believe she has talked you into wantin to pop the question at 20. sure you have been in america all summer, so must have only been with her for a few months....

Fail if anything

[trcygrdn]

Been with my bf since we were 18. 11 yrs later we're still together. Been engaged 2 years but no wedding date as yet. Marriage should be a one time shot. Committed to spend the rest of your life with that person.....so make sure you're emotionally and financially ready. :y:
xx

[alex19]

I like how people are some good morals about marriage and it being something special :y: That's cheered me up abit :)

I voted 20-29 but seen the whenever your ready option afterwards >_<

Like people have said, there's no time limit to it. There's nothing at all wrong with being with someone for 15 years without being married.

+1 for no kids out of marriage aswell ;)

[boz]

you need to get your head right and make sure it what you want.

i wouldnt even think about getting married until you have a place together and have some money behind you.

i popped the question to my lass after being together 4yrs.
3yrs later we are not married and wont be for another year or so.
but we have been living together in our house for nearly 3yrs and have been saving up.

its scary how much it costs to get married, even if its just a small do!!

look into it and you will get a shock.

last thing you want to do as a couple is to rush into it and get into debt for a wedding and a house and shit.

i got a shock when me and the missus tallyed up some pricing!
my mate got married this year, just a church wedding and an evening meal and do, not too many peeps there. still cost over 20k without the honeymoon and his wasnt a flash wedding!!

but if you are all loved up, get engaged, you dont need to get married straight away lol

[boz]

fook, just seen the poll results, i better pull my finger out!
im 28 next year and my lass is 29!! (toy boy for ftw)

hope she dosnt see that.

[alex19]

I heard somewhere the average cost of a wedding is something like 16k, rather have a car when I'm young tbo lol.

[boz]

it isnt cheap.

[3cott]

im 22 an ive got the best wife an son(and another one on the way)you could ask for.

but i wish i was still single cos i cant do single things anymore witch is a bummer.

[scottyvtr]

I heard somewhere the average cost of a wedding is something like 16k, rather have a car when I'm young tbo lol.

our wedding was about that ..................be 4 years in june so it probs be a bit dearer now!!!! who says you have to get rid of the car??????? we got the saxo just after we got married :y:


well my lass is 23 soon to be 24 been together nearly 9 and married 4years come june, and we have a lil'un aswell.......................we are going through a real bad patch, due to one thing and another and we're coming through it but its taking its time let me tell you lol, but part of it jules feels she has settled down to early and is missing out...................so imo i would wait till you're a bit older!!!!

[Stickyjam]

few of my mates are engaged with plans to get married... maybe it should be done in steps like that... but theyve got to both WANT to get married not do it to please the other or because they feel they should, they should want to themselves...

[scottyvtr]

never haha

i said that!!!!! and ended up getting lol

[alex19]

our wedding was about that ..................be 4 years in june so it probs be a bit dearer now!!!! who says you have to get rid of the car??????? we got the saxo just after we got married :y:


well my lass is 23 soon to be 24 been together nearly 9 and married 4years come june, and we have a lil'un aswell.......................we are going through a real bad patch, due to one thing and another and we're coming through it but its taking its time let me tell you lol, but part of it jules feels she has settled down to early and is missing out...................so imo i would wait till you're a bit older!!!!

If that's her ass in your avatar your not missing out on anything :p

But if it was me going down the deep end young I'd always have that ^ on my mind. Not for me personally but the lady turning round and saying "Forget this.. I want to do wtf I want when I want..". Which wouldn't happen because you've got to have apsolute trust.:y:

[sksaxo]

you shouldnt have a certain age you should do it when your ready dont matter if its a year from now or 30 years as long as its what you both want

[Sophia_Bush]

when I am ready to loose my freedom. So good few more years yet unless the one comes along but i doubt it

[bullit]

our wedding was about that ..................be 4 years in june so it probs be a bit dearer now!!!! who says you have to get rid of the car??????? we got the saxo just after we got married :y:


well my lass is 23 soon to be 24 been together nearly 9 and married 4years come june, and we have a lil'un aswell.......................we are going through a real bad patch, due to one thing and another and we're coming through it but its taking its time let me tell you lol, but part of it jules feels she has settled down to early and is missing out...................so imo i would wait till you're a bit older!!!!

and how old were you when you met ;)

im not a relationship person so losing my freedom id have to meet the ONE. sayer turned me down though

[JC-Furio]

When she starts letting you plough her ass without asking, that's when you pop the question.

[Steve]

hi guys....

Just a random question me and the misses have been talking about....

What age is right for marriage?? imo, once your 18 when ever your ready, aslong as your both ready, and know what finacial and supportive needs are needed....whats your opinion???
Right im being thick, its ment to be 30-39, its to early (or late lol) cant figure out how to change it....

personally i wont be getting married if i ever want to till am nearly 30. Still too young at 22 etc imo and a lot can change.

[bullit]

personally i wont be getting married if i ever want to till am nearly 30. Still too young at 22 etc imo and a lot can change.

22 is way to young. still plenty of shagging to do. 28 and after for me

depends if you worked in a factory at 16 or live on a council estate :P, then your marry at 20 and lots of kids. if youve been uni etc youll do it later

[Steve]

exactly, you may be settled but after a year or so want to shag about, when i was in a serious relationship nearer the end i couldnt stop looking at other women.

[Jimmy-Boy]

way between 30 + 39 gotta live ya youth!!

[bullit]

way between 30 + 39 gotta live ya youth!!

youve got some cracking times a head of you. ;) its all down hill for me

[Mitchell]

only if shes rich so i can get half

[smiith]

when I am ready to loose my freedom. So good few more years yet unless the one comes along but i doubt it

id marry you sophia, you look hot as fook too bad your really called gav and have a penis :(

[Jimmy-Boy]

youve got some cracking times a head of you. ;) its all down hill for me

aww bless ya :P

[Jazz]

Thing is, there isn't really a single answer to the question. Its just one of those things which can depend on so many different factors.

For some, 18 might be the right time, for others, maybe 48. Everyone is different, and is ready for different things at different times.

Two close family friends, both are sisters, they're both in mid/late thirties and they're getting a bit depressed because they don't have anyone and they aren't looked at by blokes as much as they were in their 20s. They had loads of guys after them then, but they didn't ever go far with any of them (wanting to avoid commitment to 'enjoy life') and now they're regretting it. Their younger sis got married at 20, that was 12 years back, now she is living in a nice big house with her husband and 2 sons, doing really well and is totally happy in life, same can't be said for them.

[bullit]

pics jazz?

[Prickle]

I reckon 20-29 tbh :) for me ermm 23 or 4

[kcsaxo]

its an impossible question to answer, all depends on the individual. these days all i hear are women wanting more and more. the house / cars / holidays / lifestyle / kids / man to work his balls off and still make time for the kids / the man works too much and doesnt keep the love life spiced anymore. after all that you still find out that shes bagning someone behind your back!

obviousely not all women are like that :) but make sure its what you want.

[Jazz]

pics jazz?

Haha, I'll get some just for you.

[boz]

When she starts letting you plough her ass without asking, that's when you pop the question.

thats the same thinking as me matey ;)

they get a ring on their finger when you get their ring ;):y:

[hard_corejoeboy]

Im 25....and a big fat kid!!! Okay not fat but the kid bits pretty spot on. Got a gf but still love women and cars lol

[Ryyy]

Whenever your both ready tbh imo ftw! Obviously don't get married until you have been together a while and have a place together..You find out what you partner is REALLY like when you spend 24 hours a day 7 days a week with them! Then you'll know!!
Some 18/19 Year old's are pretty mature in relationships and commited so therefore..Why not? Why Wait when you know you and your partner are ready..

[LittleDude101]

as said really, there isnt one answer for it, only the individual knows.

Being happy is the main thing. Personally, I've been with my gf for three years, I have a very stable job and have a great income for my age. We will more then likely be looking for a house soon... At 20 years old. It just depends. We know we will get married, but we arent going to rush into it as theres no point. We have our little plan of when we want to get married, but why rush it?
You know its the person you want to marry when you know what you want, but dont want to rush - as you know you will have the rest of your life for your to follow through

[Crunkers]

I wanna be financial secure before i settle down with anyone, i reckon 30+ for me

[CampDavid]

I'm 26, been with my Helen for 5 years. No plans on getting married, we're pretty committed to each other anyway, don't really want the headache of getting married (thats' her view too!)

[MikeCracknell]

I'm 27 knocking on 18, married when I was 25 (sax-p wedding that was too)

Not too early, and make sure you are getting married for the right reason

[rushy_23]

You cant put a number on it. Just when you know the other person inside and and can
110% trust them.

Hence why Im still not married... (jokes man jokes lolation)

[AlexB]

You cant put a number on it. Just when you know the other person inside and and can
110% trust them.

Hence why Im still not married... (jokes man jokes lolation)

shows shan that post and tels her you dont trust her

[rushy_23]

Awaits her to post and saxp and blast me to f**k lol

[bullit]

I wanna be financial secure before i settle down with anyone, i reckon 30+ for me

repped

[shieldy]

i think 40+ just before you go f*K ugly haha that way you have had all your prime lol,

[bullit]

i think 40+ just before you go f*K ugly haha that way you have had all your prime lol,

lol

i older i get the less i want to get married.

[Jazz]

lol

i older i get the less i want to get married.

Once a player always a player. ;)

[HayleyVts]

i think its best to move in together 1st and have been together a few years,
the old fashion way of doing it sucks cos u dont know what some1 is really like until u live with them!

[MarkyG]

Each to their own i say.

Just make sure you're ready! I got engaged on the 13th, but doesnt mean im gonna rush in a marry straight away!

[JamesR]

(Hijacked my boyfriends acount):P If your in love then i dont think age really matters, i love my boyfriend and would marry him tomorrow and were quite young lol:A:. As long as you've been together for a few years and love and care for one another then nothing else should really matter:y:

[J-Reid]

i wish i was still single cos i cant do single things anymore witch is a bummer.

dont let your wife read that lol

[MikeCracknell]

Don't forget when you do get married, it is her day and nothing else - you are just there for show ;)

[Craddock]

(Hijacked my boyfriends acount):P If your in love then i dont think age really matters, i love my boyfriend and would marry him tomorrow and were extremely young lol:A:. As long as you've been together for a few years and love and care for one another then nothing else should really matter:y:

Agree with you there, been with the missus for about 2 years, and would marry her tomorrow. I would get married when I'm 24-25 ish, when we're living together and that lol

[shooorn94]

Been with the girlfriend for 3 years now, our relationship continues to grow as does our trust for one another. She's the person I speak to the most, she goes out when she wants as do I, we have complete trust in one another. She's currently in france with a mate for new years and I've been left with the lads.

We personally, dispite being together for so long and loving each other as much as we do said we're far too young to be married now, plus we're both at uni now so no way in hell financially sound.

However just last night we went to our friends engagement party, they've been together 18months lived together a year and getting married in 2010, they're only 20 and 23... that to me seems too early, but they must both be ready :y:

It depends on your situation and whether you're both ready and your situation bud.