parents

[Hannah_VTR]

:wall::wall:ok im a girl and my mum doesnt get why i like cars wanna go to car shows and spend most of my time and money on cars and car forums and shes doing my head in about it because she dont like cars all she cares about is getting from a-b and when i talk to her about cars she gets moody anybody else get this? how can i make her be more interested in what im interested in im still learning to drive and i take her out in my car so shes doesnt do all the driving because she dont like driving and she stil moans are women not happy unless there moaning or naggin about something?:wall::wall:

[wobble_vtr]

thats women for ya lol

[Kelly]

You can't make someone be interested in something that's of no interest to them at all. My mum doesn't understand why I modified my car so I just don't speak to her about it.

You'll sort your problem of her whinging about it if you just stop talking to her about it. Speak to her about something else that you both enjoy instead

[stu-n-shell]

my dad is like that he thinks that i do it to please stuart but i love playing around with my little car. tbh before i was with him i wasnt interested in cars but now ive got the bug.lol

[-Alex-]

My mums generally just turns off and just says ahaaa, yup, really...Dameee woman.

[steviee90]

lol emmm im lucky.... i think my mum liked cars in her youth, although she doesnt admit it, i know this becuase she had a Ford Capri laser back in the day, very nice car imo. She doesnt mind me doing stuff to my car, its more my dad, he sees it as a waste of money because it is not what he is interested in. I dont think there is much you can do to get them interested, i doubt you would really want to invite your mum along to the shows and unless the two of you take up a mechanics class or something then id say just let it go.... i dont care what my dad says... its my money and ill do what i want with it.... sensibly though :)

[Pat_Vts]

mine complains my exhaust too loud

tough shit lol

[MrHouston]

None of my mates or family understand why I spend so much on the car and goto shows etc.. I just ignore them

[Hannah_VTR]

lol emmm im lucky.... i think my mum liked cars in her youth, although she doesnt admit it, i know this becuase she had a Ford Capri laser back in the day, very nice car imo. She doesnt mind me doing stuff to my car, its more my dad, he sees it as a waste of money because it is not what he is interested in. I dont think there is much you can do to get them interested, i doubt you would really want to invite your mum along to the shows and unless the two of you take up a mechanics class or something then id say just let it go.... i dont care what my dad says... its my money and ill do what i want with it.... sensibly though :)

nah wouldt wanna take her to a show that defo more my thing just would be nice for her 2 atleast act like shes listerning

[Hannah_VTR]

mine complains my exhaust too loud

tough shit lol

what exhaust u got?

[Kelly]

nah wouldt wanna take her to a show that defo more my thing just would be nice for her 2 atleast act like shes listerning

If your mum was into knitting and you found it the most boring hobby on the planet then would you be willing to listen to her banging on about it?

You can't make her listen to you lol

[stompin-sarah]

im not too bad with my mum! shes as bad as me.... in fact her last car before she got the st was that loud it used to set car alarms off in the multistorey car parks!!!!!

as fpr my fella thats a different matter! i try talk to him about car this and car that and hes just not interested at all.... but then again im the same with his music prodution stuff!

[steviee90]

nah wouldt wanna take her to a show that defo more my thing just would be nice for her 2 atleast act like shes listerning

i dont like it when they dont listen, i dont necessarily want them to agree with me about what im doing, i do it anyway, im 18, nearly 19, and i still feel the need to ask my parents permission when it comes to big things like that,although i pay for the mods myself, i still feel an obligation to seek approval, all i need is an " i dont agree but you can do it". But as most will say, you can't make someone interested in something that doesnt interest them, im sure you and your mum must have other things in common ??

[Liam_]

Get a lad who's interested in cars tbh... problem solved. :)

[Hannah_VTR]

If your mum was into knitting and you found it the most boring hobby on the planet then would you be willing to listen to her banging on about it?

You can't make her listen to you lol

iv actually tryed knitting to be more interested in her things lol haha sucked even my nan listerns tho can tell she dont give a f*ck but she listerns dont care if she dont wanna listern just wish she would leave me to it and not bug me about why i spend money on my car i dont bug her about her reading or knitting lol

[Hannah_VTR]

i dont like it when they dont listen, i dont necessarily want them to agree with me about what im doing, i do it anyway, im 18, nearly 19, and i still feel the need to ask my parents permission when it comes to big things like that,although i pay for the mods myself, i still feel an obligation to seek approval, all i need is an " i dont agree but you can do it". But as most will say, you can't make someone interested in something that doesnt interest them, im sure you and your mum must have other things in common ??

not really no haha i get what ya mean tho she does take me to buy cars and stuff so guess thats summink ay

[Kelly]

iv actually tryed knitting to be more interested in her things lol haha sucked even my nan listerns tho can tell she dont give a f*ck but she listerns dont care if she dont wanna listern just wish she would leave me to it and not bug me about why i spend money on my car i dont bug her about her reading or knitting lol

The more you speak to your mum about cars and your next mod the more she will moan at you for the amount of money you're spending on your car. If she's not aware of what money you're spending on your car then she can't complain can she?

[GirlRacerSian]

Just ask her would she perfer you going out and doing what you like doing with cars now,or sleeping around like some girls would be doing at your age.
She may understand you a bit more after that.

[Hannah_VTR]

The more you speak to your mum about cars and your next mod the more she will moan at you for the amount of money you're spending on your car. If she's not aware of what money you're spending on your car then she can't complain can she?

great point!!! il just keep things on the low lol thanks :y:

[Hannah_VTR]

Just ask her would she perfer you going out and doing what you like doing with cars,or sleeping around like some girls would be doing at your age.
She maybe understand you a bit more after that.

:y:yeah thanks good point actually:y:

[Mikey]

i just lie to wind my mum up. i told her my air filter was 1000£ lol.

she went mad.

[steviee90]

Just ask her would she perfer you going out and doing what you like doing with cars now,or sleeping around like some girls would be doing at your age.
She may understand you a bit more after that.

thats my excuse..... i dont go out all that much, occassionally i do, but i dont drink, smoke or do drugs, id rather spend money on car than that.... and my mum understands that and just lets me get on with it

[yorkie]

mine stopped wineing now after 9 yaers many cars and £1000's of pounds they given up!!! hahahhahahahaha

[Kerryc]

my mum usually changes the subject, she does ask all the silly questions too like:

'Why are you taking off the badges??'

or

'Why do you want more speakers'

'your ruining the car'

that sort of thing
She can never tell when ive done something to it unless shes there too id change car and she wouldnt no any better haha

[wobble_vtr]

my dad just moans about what happens when i come to sell it. 'nobody will want a boy racer car', theres just no explaining to some people though

[girlracer1597]

My mum loves my car, she wont drive it though because she thinks she is going to break it because it is lowered! My Dad was the same he encouraged me to modify my car and he fitted my cold air feed for me because he wanted to be involved, when I bought car magazines home he used to nick them before i had chance to look at them, then he would hatch all theses plans to modify his car when he retired!

[Hannah_VTR]

My mum loves my car, she wont drive it though because she thinks she is going to break it because it is lowered! My Dad was the same he encouraged me to modify my car and he fitted my cold air feed for me because he wanted to be involved, when I bought car magazines home he used to nick them before i had chance to look at them, then he would hatch all theses plans to modify his car when he retired!

wow your famiy sounds awesome lol:y:

[girlracer1597]

wow your foamy sounds awesome lol:y:

I suppose it was different for me because i was doing motorsport engineering at college so it wasn't just a hobby it was going to be be my career messing about with cars.

[Pat_Vts]

what exhaust u got?

loud one:y:

[vts_nico]

both my mother and father don't like the fact that i spend most of my money on my car.
they always complain about me not saving up for later, but i honestly do not give a shit.
i'll save up later, when i have finished work on my saxo :D

[James_Skylit]

your mum probably thinks your gunna start drving stupid and crash because your modding your car and intrested in it.

my parents think its a lil dumb but hey i like it so :)

[PETE-VTR]

yup, me mam thinks my exhaust is too loud and that i spend to much time and money on my car. she finds it really strange that i spend like 5-7hours cleaning my car.

my dad however likes to help when somthings broken, but he dosent care about the modding, he trys to make me justify everything.

i try not to talk to them about it tbh... my missus loves teh car tho lol

[djflipsaxo]

my mum was the same, id park it directly out side the door so everyone who come in saw it lol. i was proud when i ot my vts, she never undeerstood, but i didnt give a crap, i just got on with it. she never took me outdriving when i ws learning, only her husband did once and that was back from the shop lol.
but when my sister was learning she took her out.

[deannaed18]

my mum moans about the noise of my sub she says turn it off before you get in the street dont want the neigbours thinking ur a boy racer.

[EssexHoney]

My mum used to be the same with me, after i got my first saxo which was my 4th car she said she hoped this was the end of me spending my money on cars. But now im another 2years down the line and on my 8th car and she has got used to it now. She knows i got in loving cars through my Dad who had been a mechanic for my whole childhood. I dont bother telling her how much things cost because i know she will moan about it. But its my money and i will do what i want with it :P

[Natalie]

I've never had this problem with my parents luckily. I grew up in a car mad household. My dad was in the motor trade and he's a big ford fan. He got his first car, a Sunbeam Stiletto, at 15 and modified it so understood when me and my brother did the same. We spent our childhoods going to car shows and watching the track action at Goodwood. My mum is not as much as a car fan but she's had to be one because of the rest of the family. But she's had some nice cars. Her first car was a XR4i and she's had, RS turbo's and Toyota Supra's etc and now has a MR2 Roadster. My boyfriend is even more of a petrolhead than me and we've always got at least 4 or 5 cars at a time lol. We spent the weekends last summer going for drives in the countryside or to car shows as a family. Me and the bf in our Chimaera, dad and mum in their TVR Tamora and my brother and his gf in his MGTF 160. So I've been really lucky when it comes to sharing hobbies with my family.

When I went to uni though I found it really difficult. None of my mates were into cars and they just didn't understand at all why I was so protective of my car and spent money modifying it when I was a poor student lol. Luckily I met my bf not long after because I was missing just being able to talk to someone about cars lol.

The only problem we've got at the moment is that my mum and dad can't understand why we are insisting on getting a thirsty V6 as our family car for when the twins arrive when we have the saxo, a BX 16v and the TVR as well. But I just couldn't drive a boring car eveyday

[chris_ph2]

my dad's ok. shows a bit of interest and he used to help me out with mods before i had any tools. always lie about the cost though!

rest of my family aren't interested and they make it quite obvious, so i just avoid the subject now, even if they bring it up. they don't understand why i mess around and can't just leave the car as it is. so i just save the car chat for my mates who share the same interest

my mum moans about me spending money. i just explain that part of the reason i modify from the standard spec is because the car doesn't look/sound/perform how i want it to when it leaves the factory. her car has 19s, lower stiffer suspension, big brakes, leather seats, premium sound system, vented bonnet, twin exhausts etc etc but because that's how it left the factory, it's a completely different kettle of fish. even though upgrades tend to cost more from the dealer than getting them done afterwards

i could be spending my time and money on worse things and at least i've got something to show for it instead of pissing it all up the wall!