advice from a male point of view?

[Matty_vtr_02]

i know you lot aren't agony aunts but i've been with my girlfriend around 16 months and i found out yesterday that she cheated on me when we'd not been together so long? i was like what? i know it was a long time ago but it still feels shit lol any advice?

[Spanky]

like you said in your first sentance, we aint agony aunts ;)

[Netsky1991]

Sleep with someone then your even

[Sophia_Bush]

spiderman her

[pjm300]

she got a sister?

[wickens07]

do nuthin :)

[wickens07]

haa ye unless she has a sister or buff arse mum .... then well u no wat to do

[gd16]

spiderman her

Angry Pirate FTW!! :y:

[hellonpluto]

has she done it since or looking to do it again?

How did you find out did she tell you?

Ask her to marry you.

[Chico999]

Get your own back, makes you feel a lot better

May ruin the relationship at the same time.....

[KrisJ]

If you can forgive and still want to be with her then just forgive, forget and move on.

Can you expand on the cheating?

At the end of the day its up to you

[bonesvtr]

Angry Pirate FTW!! :y:

pmsl!!!!:y:
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[McGuire86]

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[Matty_vtr_02]

has she done it since or looking to do it again?

How did you find out did she tell you?

Ask her to marry you.



no she didn't even have the decency to tell me, i heard off one of my mates :n:

[Matty_vtr_02]

If you can forgive and still want to be with her then just forgive, forget and move on.

Can you expand on the cheating?

At the end of the day its up to you


slept with my best mate while i was on holiday last year

[littleracer]

It's obv bothering you,that's why you made the thread.

you got to ask yaself,can i forgive and forget and trust her 110%.

if that's yes,then you must make sure you do,you can't bring it up,or make little diggs etc,you made the decision.

if it's no,tell her you what you think and call it a day.

at the end of the day do what your heart says.

what one person does or think is different to another.
If had a ex who cheated,i couldn't possibly trust them again.
other people can take there cheating partner's back all the time.

[KrisJ]

slept with my best mate while i was on holiday last year

:fcuk: Don't think i'd be able to forgive that!

Ultimate betrayal...

Up to you though mate, what you currently thinking?

[Colin]

slept with my best mate while i was on holiday last year

IMO, even though it was ages ago, that is unforgiveable. 1 coz she cheated and 2, its with your mate!

She has shown her true colours and people never change. I dont want to put ideas in your head, but are you sure she ent done anything since???

I think your trust has been broken now mate.

[Liam_LFC_VTR]

Give her sister/mother an anal creampie,take a photo of it, then show your gf. That should hurt her feelings!

[VTR_SCANTY]

slept with my best mate while i was on holiday last year

sounds like a great best mate, all you can do is talk to her and discuss if its worth carrying on with the relationship

[Matty_vtr_02]

:n::n::fcuk: Don't think i'd be able to forgive that!

Ultimate betrayal...

Up to you though mate, what you currently thinking?

i don't know what to think tbh i just....
i don't know thats why i asked you lot, i still love her lots but like everybody says i don't know if i can forgive her or him :n:

[littleracer]

id ditch both of them,you still best mates with the bloke?

[VTR_SCANTY]

have you both discussed it or did you just hear it from a mate?

[Tontsy]

personally, kick ten bells out of "best mate"
and make her watch it! tell her she is next, and as she runs off crying like a bitch, you say your going to slit her throat in her sleep...

now she is shit up... she wont mess you around again.
and you win.

nahhh
can you believe what you heard?
you need to talk to her about it . . . sleeping with a mate is too far!

[Mr_X]

slept with my best mate while i was on holiday last year

FIN

end that shit

[KrisJ]

:n::n:

i don't know what to think tbh i just....
i don't know thats why i asked you lot, i still love her lots but like everybody says i don't know if i can forgive her or him :n:

When did you find out?

Just take some time out to think about it, and you'll know what to do in the end.

If you haven't already, confront her about it, and see what she has to say about it...

Edit: You found out yesterday

[Matty_vtr_02]

i've spoke to her about it and she denys it but i heard of a very good friend of mine who i know wouldn't lie, i haven't seen my 'mate' yet as he is on holiday but i think thats the way forward from hear cos if i talk to him and he had the decency to admit it then he might be able to tell me stuff like who came onto who etc?

[Mr_X]

How long were you together when she cheated?

She seems a bit of a slag tbh, no offence. Better off moving on imo, get your mates and so out. After 12hours of clubs/strippers/alcohol/coke you would have forgotten all about her. Then one day you will find someone truly worth being with.

[KrisJ]

Get her on Jeremy Kyle for a lie detector, LOL, only messing

But on a serious note, your plan sounds good, talk to your 'mate' and see what he says :y:

[bonesvtr]

woah! with your best mate! thats harsh! birds come and go but mtes are supposed to be there for you, sound like hes not much of mate if he did that to you!:n:
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[VTR_SCANTY]

its not looking good if she's denying it, i hope your friend was joking wen he told you, hopefully your 'mate' will enlighten you wen he gets back

[Matty_vtr_02]

i hope so!!

[Tontsy]

like said, talk to mate, if he has the decency to tell you the truth . . . take it from there.
but would a best mate, really be worth that title, if he did?

just dont get yourself hurt!
sax-p one for all, all for one!

[VTR_SCANTY]

sax-p one for all, all for one!

:y::drink:

[xkissthestarsx]

maybe you should take a relationship break untill you decide what you really want to do as only seeing her will keep you thinking and will drive you mad!!

[Matty_vtr_02]

haha thanks guys appreciate it

[machevelli7777]

Id talk to your best mate when he get off his hols, watch his reaction closely could tell you alot more if he denys it.

It hurts when you know your best mate will be seeing this girl if you decide to ditch her, its your call brother. If it was me id stay with her, just because you said.. you love her.

[Matty_vtr_02]

Id talk to your best mate when he get off his hols, watch his reaction closely could tell you alot more if he denys it.

It hurts when you know your best mate will be seeing this girl if you decide to ditch her, its your call brother. If it was me id stay with her, just because you said.. you love her.




i know and i do still love her, but is it worth goin back and bein unhappy all over again if it doesn't work out? at least this way i only have to do it the once

[machevelli7777]

i know and i do still love her, but is it worth goin back and bein unhappy all over again if it doesn't work out? at least this way i only have to do it the once

Well id make my decision over what does make you happy mate. Personally if my misses cheated on me i would leave her, even though i love her and weve done really everything together, were so happy infact, the happy memories take over the bad ones.

[VTurboR]

i've spoke to her about it and she denys it but i heard of a very good friend of mine who i know wouldn't lie, i haven't seen my 'mate' yet as he is on holiday but i think thats the way forward from hear cos if i talk to him and he had the decency to admit it then he might be able to tell me stuff like who came onto who etc?

she must have done other things in the past for you to believe a good mate over your misses of 16months??

[Matty_vtr_02]

no thats why i'm so fucked up in my head, cos i really trusted her but i really trust him aswell

[KrisJ]

You should be able to tell if your 'mate' is lying or not when you ask him, you never know could be your mate who lied about the whole thing....

[bullit]

when y0u see y0ur mate. say, y0ur n0t g0nna believe this but i f0und 0ut she slept with s0mene and watch his reacti0n.

why did the 0ther mate tell y0u?

if a mate did that t0 me i w0uld kill him

[b0t13]

id find out if its true, if so fuck her off mate, once and cheat always a cheat tbh

and smash the shit out ur 'best' mate too

staying with her is just the weak option and youll never get over it in your head.

[stumac77]

id find out if its true, if so fuck her off mate, once and cheat always a cheat tbh

and smash the shit out ur 'best' mate too

staying with her is just the weak option and youll never get over it in your head.

agree with B0t13

[Cammy]

From first hand experience, cheaters dont change. My x cheated on me with my best mate :/ i forgave them both, within 4 days, she did it again with another guy. sacked it and for 4 months i was getting begged to go back - but no thanks, eventually she gave up and i was scott free, one of the happiest days of my life...

Its really painful to know that they have done that, and whats worse is that i found it out by accident when i was staying at hers.... that just made the shit hit the roof.

[1991Tom]

dump her ass. The fact is she was open and honest early on in the relationship and most likely will do it again if she gets the chance. Now granted things might of changed but the best thing is to just talk it out with her what you want to do.

[Mike-VTR]

My x cheated on me with my best mate :/ i forgave them both, within 4 days, she did it again with another guy

nahahaha sucks to be you, you must jizz your pants or have a small penix

these threads are gay and hardly amuse me anymore

[VTRelite]

cunt punt

[xxpinkyxx1991]

if shes done it once, then she can most likely do it again?

[Mr_X]

cunt punt

http://img2.moonbuggy.org/imgstore/cunt-punt-still-hurts.jpg

[tinytim6666]

fuk her off
sax-p love :hug: ftw

[readie]

slept with my best mate while i was on holiday last year

F**K that kill the B**CH lol not the best advice but come on ur best mate tht it just harsh and stupid on her part

Kill them both leave them at the bottom of a river job done! think like a pikey when it comes to matters like this lol

that is just too far in my eyes to do it in the first place and then not tell you either and your mate you call him a mate he slept with your girlfriend and didnt even say a word

there both not worth it loose them and love the SAX!!!! FTW

[MarkyG]

Exactly the same thing happened to me fella when i was 18. I was on holiday and my mate got in with my missus (now long time ago ex) two days into my holiday when i phoned her to chat for a few mins, her mate ripped the phone off her and blurted it out. I was in Florida for 2 weeks at the time, so wasnt best pleased. Confronted her when I got back, used her phone to ring home as mine was out of battery power, she left her inbox open and I noticed loads of messages from my best mate. Thought I'd open one to see what he was saying, and I found pure dirt in their. She denied it all, for about an hour. Rang my mate from her phone after ringing home, he denied, then told me the truth. He travelled 40 miles to see me face to face to apologise. Naturally I reacted, breaking a few bones:boxing:, then ringing him an ambulance, he apologised to me.......then I drove home. He didn't press charges against me, said he was deeply sorry for what he had done. I'd only reacted out of pure anger as I couldn't believe she would do it, let alone him!!
Never spoke to him again.............thank god.

I know it's rather contradictory but I don't condone the violence side of things, what I did was a long time ago and all is forgotten, even though he deserved it in my eyes, but I was young, a poor excuse, but it's an excuse.

Have a long hard think about it. Don't make any rash decisions on the spur of the moment. Like you said, can you trust her not to do it again and would getting back with her be ok only for a while? You need to have a word with your mate also I think about what he meant in detail about what he told you and find out any info that he knows of. A true friend would tell you what you needed to know, no matter how harsh it sounds when you hear it. But do confront your other mate who is on holiday about it once you have got enough so called "facts" to warrant it. Don't go in guns-a-blazing, just be calm.

It can go either way fella. But I live by the motto "Once a cheat, always a cheat"

If you're going to doubt the relationship if you stay with her, all I can say is don't let it eat you up from inside, been there and done that and it fails.

I'm going to stop typing now I think, just realised how much I've just garbled out. Sorry about that guys:oops:

[MarkyG]

...and whats worse is that i found it out by accident when i was staying at hers....

How the hell did that happen? (accidentally finding out whilst at hers)

...that just made the shit hit the roof.

Hope it was runny shit. But would have been better hitting her in the chops:y:

[Liam_LFC_VTR]

tbh she obviously wan't happy with you or with the relationship :n:

Dump the ho'

Plenty more fish in the sea :y:

[jinx]

once a cheat always a cheat.

Same this i told my girlfriend, if she cheats then its over vise versa.

[Paul]

if a mate did that t0 me i w0uld kill him

srsly?

[Boothy_UK]

if i found out My bird slept.with.my.best.mate.
no no no, i couldnt forgive that, and even your best mate has some explaining to do.
not sure on the circumstance but thats bang out of line imo!
get them both together, sit them down and tell them you know what happend. get them to talk to you. best thing you can do bud.
if you heard it from another one of your mates then what are the chances is even true?
J x

[kool_tg]

People who cheat will never change and there are so many of them. To make youeself feal better who go shagg her sister or mum if she is a milf

good luck mate

[Lloydie]

If you love her. then forgive, if not get your own back

[MarkyG]

Loving someone doesnt necessarily mean forgive them. How could you forgive someone who does something like that to you? No point in forgiveness, she did it once, she will do it again.

[pr0xibus]

if i were you id say Get to Fcuk i ken if my bird had cheated on me at any point in our relationship she would be out the door i say once a cheater always a cheater, but as someone else said people take back there partners that have cheated all the time.....

Im going to apply for jeremys job next

[Craddock]

Fuck her off. As many have said once a cheat, always a cheat.

Get on Jeremy Kyle mate!

[chris_ph2]

tell her you're going on holiday again. last minute deal etc. then tell your mate he's going to try it on with her while you're 'away' or you'll chin him for his crimes. see do her knickers come down again and there's your answer