Gettin over your ex...how long?

[Mochachino]

How long were you together?

Why did you split?

How long did it take you to get over them?

How did you get over them?

[J222JRA]

4 Years

Caught her in bed with someone else

1 month

Spent alot of time with my friends.

[-Alex-]

Jesus James hope you tried to smash his melon :|

[VTomR]

2 years

Because we started arguing alot

Tbh about a year :(

Sex drugs and rock and roll

[iSlayeR]

How long were you together?
4 months

Why did you split?

i will never know lol

How long did it take you to get over them?
we were on a break 2 weeks ago? found out about an hour ago were not getting back together lol

How did you get over them?
Going to take a while to get over her, but i'm better off without her, she has... many problems

[Saxo-Will]

Together a year
Jealousy and paranoia
About 4 months
Alcohol, mates and other females

[Rob-6]

3 years
Drifted apart
about a year
just got into cars again as i had more spare cash

[J222JRA]

Jesus James hope you tried to smash his melon :|

I did nothing of the sort lol

Public forum yo lol

[swampy]

7 years
she tried it with one mate, he knew what would happen if ifound out
so she moved on to another, he would shag any thing he could.
Caught them togeather in a pub

nailed her boss and a work collegue
as for him he got taught alot of lessons, he wasnt the big man he thought.

[Mochachino]

Rahhh i wish i had a reason to hate my ex lol. But when they say they just loose feelings for you..its hard to understand and i wonder why all the time..i always stay optimistic hold my head high and think maybe in 6 months or whatever or a year she wont keep loosin and gettin feelings for me and maybe things will happen..

anyone think im wasting my time or think i should stay optimistic and happy hoping for the best.

I dont mind waiting out a year for her, but its if that year is wasted.

Its 8 months since we split up and i feel no further from her, ive been given the chance to move on, but i cant do it, feels like im cheating still and i just think of the chance i can have with her that id ruin.

Im kinda stumped :(

[TheDanBurgess]

1 Year
She cheated on me on Holiday
5 Weeks.

[Rob-6]

just move on mate dont waste your life waiting for something that might not happen

[J222JRA]

just move on mate dont waste your life waiting for something that might not happen

This is the best advice imo Db_sax

[nicole_]

was with 3 guys 18+ months each, not at the same time obvs.
easiest way to get over it is go out and find someone else.
my first proper serious thing still comes back to haunt me sometimes and i know hes not over it and it was nearly 4 years ago

[Ryan]

True feelings never die, you just find another hole to burrow into ;)

[Mochachino]

just move on mate dont waste your life waiting for something that might not happen

Exactly, might lol if it did happen you dont understand how happy id be would be worth wating a year for the girl id be with for many many years and grow old with lol

But if it dont then yeh a year wasted of shagging around or finding another girl, but i can move on after then!

I dont mind being single for a year, il just miss the closness and knowing i got someone to love and have love back from, you know the feeling that proepr comfortable feeling that you get from nothing else.

[Rob-6]

she would be more likely to want you back if she sees you getting on with your life, but even if she did want you back chances are that you will have met someone else by then.

[saxo-parts]

14 years, split was a 50/50 fault-wise, i was more interested in partying and she was more interested in going on hols with her mates and spending beyond our means, didn't take me long to get over her tbh, only upset was the hurt it caused my kids, all happens for a reason though, been living with mandy for 2 years now and happier then ever. don't dwell on the past, it's gone but after any split you'll find who your true buddies are, i did!!

[Mochachino]

This is the best advice imo Db_sax

Its easily said though aint it!

was with 3 guys 18+ months each, not at the same time obvs.
easiest way to get over it is go out and find someone else.
my first proper serious thing still comes back to haunt me sometimes and i know hes not over it and it was nearly 4 years ago

i hope i dont end up 4 years on like this :panic:

True feelings never die, you just find another hole to burrow into ;)

They never go nahh, i dont wanna fill another hole though its like im cheatin!

she would be more likely to want you back if she sees you getting on with your life, but even if she did want you back chances are that you will have met someone else by then.

True on the getting on with your life. But findin sumone else is hard, like ive met other girls since her but i just dont make the effort i just dont have the encouragment to do so.

When im with my ex and we make plans i go mad and so everything and proper pull my weight to make things happen, when they aint good then i loose all enthusiasm!


Im Stuckkk, it feels good to talk about it, but i dont know if being told how to sort it out will actually make a difference, il probably ignore it all and still do what i want.

[J222JRA]

14 years, split was a 50/50 fault-wise, i was more interested in partying and she was more interested in going on hols with her mates and spending beyond our means, didn't take me long to get over her tbh, only upset was the hurt it caused my kids, all happens for a reason though, been living with mandy for 2 years now and happier then ever. don't dwell on the past, it's gone but after any split you'll find who your true buddies are, i did!!

Same here!

[Rogue_Shadow]

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[Mochachino]

14 years, split was a 50/50 fault-wise, i was more interested in partying and she was more interested in going on hols with her mates and spending beyond our means, didn't take me long to get over her tbh, only upset was the hurt it caused my kids, all happens for a reason though, been living with mandy for 2 years now and happier then ever. don't dwell on the past, it's gone but after any split you'll find who your true buddies are, i did!!

Thats a good point, after i came back from spain my true mates were there waitin for me, had a group hug lol.

[Rob-6]

So i take it you still spend time with your ex?

[Ryan]

They never go nahh, i dont wanna fill another hole though its like im cheatin!



At the end of the day shes probably enjoying some pork salad from another resturant so you need to go and see how good the local clams are ;)

[XStephyX]

Together 3 and a half years
Split because we argued alot he accused me of doing thing i hadn't doen didn't like me going out with my friends i had sort of outgrown him if thats the right word to use we had been together since we were 15/16.
I was sort of already over him anyway as i didn't love him anymore he was really upset got another g.f like a week later and got her pregnant within a month if that .
Went out enjoyed myself started seeing some one else.

[J222JRA]

At the end of the day shes probably enjoying some pork salad from another resturant so you need to go and see how good the local clams are ;)

Im sorry but this did make me laugh

[Mochachino]

At the end of the day shes probably enjoying some pork salad from another resturant so you need to go and see how good the local clams are ;)

Do you talk like this with your gf? Is your relationship ok? :p lol

Going for a shower, will reply to the other guys in a min!

Thanks guys :hug: good that a forums here for you really. Sounds kinda sad? lol

[Ryan]

Do you talk like this with your gf? Is your relationship ok? :p lol

Going for a shower, will reply to the other guys in a min!

Thanks guys :hug: good that a forums here for you really. Sounds kinda sad? lol

been with her 18months +

yes generally i will have a laugh with her and act how I do most of the time. No point acting differently as then its just false and you dont have fun. So she does have to put up with farting in bed indeed :D

[saxo-parts]

nah, not sad at all chap. sometimes feels like the emptiness isn't going to end but it will, take it from a fella who had 2 months of sharing his evenings with no-one apart from a staffordshire bull terrier lol, i just didn't want to talk, wasn't down,just how i dealt with it ! dog was a shit conversationalist and had bad breath, soon got me out and about!

[Tom5190]

shag her mam :afro::fcuk:

[nicole_]

i hope i dont end up 4 years on like this :panic:




you will be danny :y: lol
she lives in spain, just leave her to it and forget it :hug:
youre lucky you dont have to see her most days, would be even worse then

[shaunsvtr]

shag her mam :afro::fcuk:

ow tht would not go down to well lol:panic:

[adam_baker]

you sure do know who your mates are at the end, my best mate don't want to know me no more, oh well his loss i suppose, got lots of other mates.

[auds]

Awww bless ya soul, I feel for you mate, you are obviously smitten, it's a shame it didn't work out for you. I think though you know what to do deep down really, just hope you can face up to that, maybe right now you don't want to coz it hurts too much, so you're holding on and hoping things will change, but really you know you have to let go.....

Do you still see her and speak to her too? I have just gone through a split, we were together 1 year and a half, rather not say the reasons, a few, just not working really, and haven't begun to get other it yet, am finding it very hard as we still see each other and it feels like we havent really split up, so its a difficult one, slightly confusing really but hey I'll get over it.....

You need to deal with this pain and hurt, and then you can move on and have fun and start to see other girls, there's no point doing that now, as you say it doesn't feel right and feels like you're cheating, it's because you still believe you should be with your ex, it takes time but you will get there :hug:

If you need to chat anytime mate I'm here :) and having your true mates around too will be good for you, that's part of what mates are for isn't it, to help you through the rough times and put that smile back on your face.....

Hope you work through this and find happiness in the future :y:

[jeffchiz]

god this thread is making me feel down and loosing any hope in women now lol ive been single for almost 2 years, i dumped my gf before i went to uni and i got asked out by about 3/4 girls i turned them down as i didnt want a gf at uni, but im feeling pretty lonely now like wat db_sax said its nice to know some one is there for you, and feels good to love someone but all the girls that were interested have moved on, i did see one old friend with benefits over xmas but she has a bf :P but now i really want a gf but all the girls in oxford seem stuck up and the girls at home are too far away to go out with now im at uni i dunno what to do :( and over the two years all i ever hear is this girl cheated on me that girl cheated on me from loads of people and it makes me think why do i want a gf cus by the sounds of it they are all cheating whores! i need a girl to show me that all women arent turning in to guys and sleeping around a lot

[ash_sx125]

How long were you together? 2 year 7 month

Why did you split? She met someone else, later id found out she'd cheated on me the night before we went on holiday..

How long did it take you to get over them? a while, and i still do miss her.. but im over the relationship breaking up

How did you get over them? did things i wouldn't usually do (clubbing etc) hung around with my mates alot.. id be lost without them now!

[CHIP]

If i'm honest...

-3 years on & off
-I'm a pain in the arse, she's a pain in the arse lol
-Haven't
-As i said, haven't... but still see plenty of each other (few times a week), plus i keep myself busy with car, motorbike and pushbike. They help abit.

[auds]

god this thread is making me feel down and loosing any hope in women now lol ive been single for almost 2 years, i dumped my gf before i went to uni and i got asked out by about 3/4 girls i turned them down as i didnt want a gf at uni, but im feeling pretty lonely now like wat db_sax said its nice to know some one is there for you, and feels good to love someone but all the girls that were interested have moved on, i did see one old friend with benefits over xmas but she has a bf :P but now i really want a gf but all the girls in oxford seem stuck up and the girls at home are too far away to go out with now im at uni i dunno what to do :( and over the two years all i ever hear is this girl cheated on me that girl cheated on me from loads of people and it makes me think why do i want a gf cus by the sounds of it they are all cheating whores! i need a girl to show me that all women arent turning in to guys and sleeping around a lot


We aren't all cheating whores :( I'm certainly not, I'm the one who got cheated on in previous relationships, not the last one, he was a nice guy. You just haven't found the right one yet mate, you're looking, they come to you when you're not looking apparently :)

[nicole_]

and over the two years all i ever hear is this girl cheated on me that girl cheated on me from loads of people and it makes me think why do i want a gf cus by the sounds of it they are all cheating whores! i need a girl to show me that all women arent turning in to guys and sleeping around a lot

and you men think you're all so innocent lol

[CHIP]

they come to you when you're not looking apparently :)

Amen to that. I've never 'pulled' (for want of a better word) intentionally. Always met someone when i've not really been looking for a lass or even thought about looking for one.

[Mochachino]

Most of the q's aimed at me are the same so i wont quote them all.

Hard to say that i still see her. She live sin spain but from London, so she isnt spanish before you question that lol. Last time i saw her was week before christmas.

We fell out on new years eve over a pathetic thing, she blocked dleted me etc. 4 weeks later shes at her mates and uses their msn as an excuse to talk to me, later on we admited to each other we hate eah other but love each other. She even told me shes been slaggin me off to her family and mates to try n make herself move on but it didnt work and she jus cnt live without me, and im the same to her.

We made plans like her coming over once a month as part of some business we hoping to do, a mix of laods of stuff. And also possibly 'benifits'. Eventually moving in togetehr in a flat in london as she might have one there for us.

I need her to move on lol like get with another boy so it kicks me in the face and ruins me so i realise and finally move on. Untill that happesn im gonna be chasing and chasing.

Im not pushing her or anything we just chat as mates, never anything more tbh, so taking it easy not annoying her or pushing.

[Ryan]

id never do a business venture with an ex that i was screwed up over.

Business is best left seperate.

[hellovts]

How long were you together?

Why did you split?

How long did it take you to get over them?

How did you get over them?

1 year or so

she cheated on me, bit of a complicated thing technically you could say she didnt but she said it felt like she did and to me it felt like she did hurt like hell.. and not spoken or seen her since november.. (shes tried texting me happy birthday/xmas and talking to me via email but to no response from me...) have a feeling shes not over me as shes still trying to contact me but its fading now she doesnt want another bf or anything i hear things via people and im sure she hears things via people about me

im not over her tbh although i have been into other holes.. a few LOL

dont know whats going to happen tbh im just living life for now.. not going to dwell on her or anything but i do think about her.. i dont know why! wish i didnt tbh

any of you get that?:n:

[jeffchiz]

We aren't all cheating whores :( I'm certainly not, I'm the one who got cheated on in previous relationships, not the last one, he was a nice guy. You just haven't found the right one yet mate, you're looking, they come to you when you're not looking apparently :)

yea i know exactly what you mean it annoys me when my mates say oh i cant wait to pull tonight im like shut up have a good time with us your mates! and watever happens happens lol i never ever go looking for anything i just partyyy with my mates and something usually comes along but at uni that means fuk all you never hear from them again god girls at uni are worse than the guys! lol but then again do i really wanna start a relationship with some girl who ive taken home after a night out in a nightclub lol

and you men think you're all so innocent lol

and you women think your all so innocent! lol

[hellovts]

nicole_ has a good point i did make a few mistakes aswell i admit :) not so innocent

doesnt stop the hurt though lol ...

[Chloeex]

18 months
Drifted apart didnt take me long to get over it he found a new gf after a week
spending time with friends helps getting over an ex, true colours show through as well.. Ex still respects me?!? Confused but Im not interested lol

[sam2kk8]

Together a year
Jealousy and paranoia
About 4 months
Alcohol, mates and other females

+1
You said it all for me
:y:

[auds]

yea i know exactly what you mean it annoys me when my mates say oh i cant wait to pull tonight im like shut up have a good time with us your mates! and watever happens happens lol i never ever go looking for anything i just partyyy with my mates and something usually comes along but at uni that means fuk all you never hear from them again god girls at uni are worse than the guys! lol but then again do i really wanna start a relationship with some girl who ive taken home after a night out in a nightclub lol



and you women think your all so innocent! lol


Exactly people nowadays always go on about pulling, everyone is sex mad haha, I mean don't get me wrong I love sex, but one night stands are just meaningless sex if you know what I mean, no love there is there.....
And no guy with give you any respect really if you shag him after just meeting him, so don't think many one night stands develop into a relationship do they.....

[Mochachino]

Exactly people nowadays always go on about pulling, everyone is sex mad haha, I mean don't get me wrong I love sex, but one night stands are just meaningless sex if you know what I mean, no love there is there.....
And no guy with give you any respect really if you shag him after just meeting him, so don't think many one night stands develop into a relationship do they.....

True storiesss..

I hardly go out into town so 'pulling' on a night out would be wrong as she would expect to go out in town all the time and it aint really my thing every weekend.

Also if they pull that easily and u get sex in one night it kinda shows how easy they are and somthing about their reliability and how trust worthy they are loyal and all that.

My ex is perfect in everyway, shes the girl i described to my mate a week before i met her even down to clothes, accent..silly things, when i told me mate he goes "you met your perfect girl lol"

Thing that annoys me though is she tells me im amazin, i got my head on my shoulders, im a true guy not a cheating twat one im loyal and everything a girl wants, and that she wishes she had feelings for me. Thats the annoying bit, why tell me that :( it makes things worse not complimenting me and makin me better nahhh. But then if she told me ima cunt and all harsh things then id be thinkin, i had a good girl there i need her back couse i wont get a gil as good as her again.

[hellovts]

But then if she told me ima cunt and all harsh things then id be thinkin, i had a good girl there i need her back couse i wont get a gil as good as her again.

thats the boat im kinda in... and its just got complicated... MEH

cant be arsed with all that!

[Ryan]

her saying she still has feelings is often an easy way to control you and have you where she wants.

Had an ex do it to me, in the end i ignored her as realised she was full of shit

[sam2kk8]

Exactly people nowadays always go on about pulling, everyone is sex mad haha, I mean don't get me wrong I love sex, but one night stands are just meaningless sex if you know what I mean, no love there is there.....
And no guy with give you any respect really if you shag him after just meeting him, so don't think many one night stands develop into a relationship do they.....

totally agree, then again some do develop into relationships but will soon finish, think if that other person is that easy to have sex with right away then how easy is it for them to repeat it whilst in a relationship.
call me an idiot but im just not attracted to those girls rubbing their ass up me and that want a fuck. would rather go the old fashioned way :)

[Ben]

Dan I know exactly how you feel mate. Split up with my ex about 5 month ago, not done anything with anyone since splitting (had several chances). I'm just not fussed about anyone else, shes not got with anyone either. We still talk like all the time, and I see her once every few weeks or somethin just go shopping together and we get on great. Just like when we were together. I proper miss her and she knows it, I just don't understand women and why we can't just get back together?

[sam2kk8]

True storiesss..

I hardly go out into town so 'pulling' on a night out would be wrong as she would expect to go out in town all the time and it aint really my thing every weekend.

Also if they pull that easily and u get sex in one night it kinda shows how easy they are and somthing about their reliability and how trust worthy they are loyal and all that.

My ex is perfect in everyway, shes the girl i described to my mate a week before i met her even down to clothes, accent..silly things, when i told me mate he goes "you met your perfect girl lol"

Thing that annoys me though is she tells me im amazin, i got my head on my shoulders, im a true guy not a cheating twat one im loyal and everything a girl wants, and that she wishes she had feelings for me. Thats the annoying bit, why tell me that :( it makes things worse not complimenting me and makin me better nahhh. But then if she told me ima cunt and all harsh things then id be thinkin, i had a good girl there i need her back couse i wont get a gil as good as her again.

wasn't meaning to copy :oops:

[birchybalboa]

nearly 2 years
uni/college drifted apart
still gettin over her m8s goin out keepin ur mind ocupide chasin new womenn:p

as theyy say life waits for no man! :cool:

[Mochachino]

I dunno, shes the most genuine girl ive known hense being with her for so long and wanting to keep hold of her.

Im thinkin maybe like avoid her, not ignore her but only talk to her when she does to me, let her make all the effort. Even if it dont bring a relationship at least itll make our friendship stronger. Better than nothing i guess.

[sam2kk8]

I dunno, shes the most genuine girl ive known hense being with her for so long and wanting to keep hold of her.

Im thinkin maybe like avoid her, not ignore her but only talk to her when she does to me, let her make all the effort. Even if it dont bring a relationship at least itll make our friendship stronger. Better than nothing i guess.

if your wanting to forget her, dont even chat to her, forget the friendship pal!
some women can easily controll a man by making him think he may have one little chance and then the balls in their court,

imo just get out and say to her if you dont have feelings for me i dont think we should be talking anymore

[nicole_]

Thing that annoys me though is she tells me im amazin, i got my head on my shoulders, im a true guy not a cheating twat one im loyal and everything a girl wants, and that she wishes she had feelings for me. Thats the annoying bit, why tell me that :( it makes things worse not complimenting me and makin me better nahhh. But then if she told me ima cunt and all harsh things then id be thinkin, i had a good girl there i need her back couse i wont get a gil as good as her again.

girls never want the 'perfect gentleman' i guess

[hellovts]

Dan I know exactly how you feel mate. Split up with my ex about 5 month ago, not done anything with anyone since splitting (had several chances). I'm just not fussed about anyone else, shes not got with anyone either. We still talk like all the time, and I see her once every few weeks or somethin just go shopping together and we get on great. Just like when we were together. I proper miss her and she knows it, I just don't understand women and why we can't just get back together?

be careful... i went through similair thing and she was fucking someone else :wall:

[Mochachino]

Dan I know exactly how you feel mate. Split up with my ex about 5 month ago, not done anything with anyone since splitting (had several chances). I'm just not fussed about anyone else, shes not got with anyone either. We still talk like all the time, and I see her once every few weeks or somethin just go shopping together and we get on great. Just like when we were together. I proper miss her and she knows it, I just don't understand women and why we can't just get back together?

Thats the exact thing i think, like we aint no different to before when we were together apart from we dont get close in person like cuddling and i dont like invest as much in her anymore lmao. Also now we're both able to go off with another person, so its more worrying not knowing if shes gonna get with another boy or now.

if your wanting to forget her, dont even chat to her, forget the friendship pal!
some women can easily controll a man by making him think he may have one little chance and then the balls in their court,

imo just get out and say to her if you dont have feelings for me i dont think we should be talking anymore

I cant just forget her, shes a mate aswell as an ex which is seriously dodgy and i know alot of poeple will say that cant work or happen.

Shes an ex becouse she lost feelings for me, and she repeatedly tells me she wont have feelings for me in the future so i should move on. Yet when we argue about somthing and i say enough is enough why we wasting time knowing each other for us to fall out again, then she'll tell me she had feelings for me but now we argued she dont. Thats just amking m think, right if i avoid any opportunity of an arguemnt then she will get the feelings and not loose them. Why tell me she had feeligns lol

I dont want to not tlak to her forever but just a week or somthing so that she kinda thinks 'o, im gonna lose my best mate here'

We talk everyday which is probabaly too much so gettin on each others nures, talking from when we wake up till we go to bed. Its a hard life not having a job.

[Dom]

Some women are ASW's, Not saying this applies to your situation but sometimes women say things to make it more dramatic, and guys believe there shit :n:

[Mochachino]

girls never want the 'perfect gentleman' i guess

True like perfect gentleman, she gets everything easily and everything is taken for granted, create a few problems and she has to work for it and appreciates it more.

Like you know when you have an arguement, the next day we would just laugh about it and just cuss ourselfs about it and say shit to each other and nothing would be taken to heart and we would feel closer...at least i did anyway.

Its all a game as they say..

[Tommo87]

5 years

Don't know

Never will

[benkelsall]

Hi Danny.

[Moke]

2 years in Feb, still going strong! :D

Good for a 17 year old eh :)

[dannyhall]

How long were you together?
18 months

Why did you split?
I slept with her best mate

How long did it take you to get over them?
2 years - not really over her but the fact that I was such a dick.

How did you get over them?
Smoked abit of draw, got pissed and started tinkering with cars - keeping yourself busy is the key.

[Pixie]

6 Years

I didn't love him anymore, so i left him.

1 week!

I didnt love him anymore cause he was an asshole so it didnt take me long to realise i was better on my own :)

[Claireeyy]

A year and a half

There was a fair bit argue and he did a lot of lien.

not really sure about a month later I was going out with his best mate. Still love the ex i suppose but it didn't work so no point in it.

I got drunk and spend time with mate does the job.

After a while you will forget about them, first love or not.

[skeltan]

1 year on and off...

Think it was more lust as she was a horn ball and hot as fuck!

she was still going out with her ex but only like hanging out with him no sax or anything but i couldnt take it..

What got me over her was she put on weight...

I still sometimes would reminise bout the times with her.

[MR_N]

How long were you together?
2 Years

Why did you split?
No trust in the relationship. I wasnt allowed out near enough

How long did it take you to get over them?
6-7 months. Kept seeing each other on the side and worked together so was hard

How did you get over them?
a very hard thing to do. I went back to my friends and appologised to them for being a dick whilst i was with my ex and blanking them. Luckily all my friends understood and forgave me. So i got all them back and am loving every minute for spending time with them again.

Also found mindless sex orgys help

[stevenet15]

with her 4 years
split because i took her for granted, big mistake
took a good 3 months to get over her
got over her by meeting new girls and spending more time with mates

[Saxo-Wason]

True like perfect gentleman, she gets everything easily and everything is taken for granted, create a few problems and she has to work for it and appreciates it more.

Like you know when you have an arguement, the next day we would just laugh about it and just cuss ourselfs about it and say shit to each other and nothing would be taken to heart and we would feel closer...at least i did anyway.

Its all a game as they say..

You need to get a grip man, sorry but you cant just keep hanging on...at the end of the day, if she loved you she'd be with you mate. When you love someone theres nothing that can stand in the way of you both being together...just guess the love isnt mutual between you both.

[Craddock]

I'd wait until you got a definite answer. If your do love her, then you'll regret not knowing what could/could not have happened. Just try get a definite answer and see what happens from there.

[eoey]

no offence mate your probably being too nice...like the lynx add says woman get bored easy

[auds]

I'm thinking that from what you've said she cares about you but only as a friend, and I think it is really unfair of her to lead you on, saying she doesn't have feelings then she does, she is playing with your heart, it's so unfair.
I think you need to make that break, I really do, she doesn't want to hurt your feelings, she knows your a nice guy, she knows you feel a lot for her, and she is a good woman, a nice person, thats why she is finding it hard to tell you straight, it's probably breaking her heart too, as she probably wishes she did have feelings for you, it would so much easier that way.
The fact that she lives in Spain should make it easier for you too. You shouldn't waste part of your life chasing something that isn't going to happen, I'm sorry for you, I am, but you need to realise and pull yourself through this, there will be someone just as wonderful as her out there for you you know :)

[auds]

Also as for women not wanting 'the prefect gentleman' er yes we do, or I do at least, but he has got to have passion in him, you know that spark, fire, lol, treat you like deserve to be treated, love you for who you are, respect you, care, make you feel good about yourself and not rejected, all the things you would feel for them and do for them too, treat you as an equal, not as womens place is in the kitchen lol, I mean I will look after my man, no problem, I love cooking and stuff, but there has got to be some sharing, some give and take, not all take. You've got to do things together, experience new stuff, go out, have space from each other too, got to be your own person too, but yeah anyway I'm going off on one here and getting off the point lol, sorry lol, can't remember what else I was going to say now haha, oh well maybe it will come back to me later :)

[1991Tom]

1 year

Didnt want to commit to a rull relationship, needed to sort myself out (weightloss)

2 weeks.... to the point i never thought about her anymore

I excepted it and moved on, i spent more time with friends, generally started doing more things (Going to gym more often n focusing on my weight). TBH youve just got move on and not to dwell on the past, i mean its a waste of our brain/thoughts thinking over n over what you should have done or could of done etc

[Mochachino]

I'd wait until you got a definite answer. If your do love her, then you'll regret not knowing what could/could not have happened. Just try get a definite answer and see what happens from there.

Thats how i think im too optimistic. Shes given me the answer of no nothing will happpen and tells me to move on. Then she will tell me she had or got feelings for me since telling me that.

I'm thinking that from what you've said she cares about you but only as a friend, and I think it is really unfair of her to lead you on, saying she doesn't have feelings then she does, she is playing with your heart, it's so unfair.
I think you need to make that break, I really do, she doesn't want to hurt your feelings, she knows your a nice guy, she knows you feel a lot for her, and she is a good woman, a nice person, thats why she is finding it hard to tell you straight, it's probably breaking her heart too, as she probably wishes she did have feelings for you, it would so much easier that way.
The fact that she lives in Spain should make it easier for you too. You shouldn't waste part of your life chasing something that isn't going to happen, I'm sorry for you, I am, but you need to realise and pull yourself through this, there will be someone just as wonderful as her out there for you you know :)

Also as for women not wanting 'the prefect gentleman' er yes we do, or I do at least, but he has got to have passion in him, you know that spark, fire, lol, treat you like deserve to be treated, love you for who you are, respect you, care, make you feel good about yourself and not rejected, all the things you would feel for them and do for them too, treat you as an equal, not as womens place is in the kitchen lol, I mean I will look after my man, no problem, I love cooking and stuff, but there has got to be some sharing, some give and take, not all take. You've got to do things together, experience new stuff, go out, have space from each other too, got to be your own person too, but yeah anyway I'm going off on one here and getting off the point lol, sorry lol, can't remember what else I was going to say now haha, oh well maybe it will come back to me later :)

You should be the relationship Moderator for this forum lol :p

You speak the truth, but i dont think i willl ever let go until she has actually moved on tbh, thats when its gonna hit me..rahh just got to bite my lip i guess

[tinytim6666]

1 year
argued alot over cars and bikes.
1 month
worked more on my cars and bikes then found a new women while out at a meet :y:

[Chuffy]

Split up with an ex in 2003 - going out for 4 months

She was moving away from home and it wasn't working

Took ages to get over her esp when she moved back home. Over the years I would start chatting to her then we would go for months without speaking.

Had new relationships and good mates and have been 4 years with my current gf but I still think of her. Crazy.

Found out last year she had a little girl and moving in with new man. Now I've found out she is living herself and has split from last bf.
I want to talk to her again but know it's wrong to go crashing back into her life.

Crazy that an ex has stayed in my mind over 6 years! I don't think I will ever forget her and don't know what to do

:smoke:

[auds]

You should be the relationship Moderator for this forum lol :p

You speak the truth, but i dont think i willl ever let go until she has actually moved on tbh, thats when its gonna hit me..rahh just got to bite my lip i guess


Lol, you think they'd give me the job hehe :)
Honest and reliable me hehe, god that sounds boring, but I'm far from boring ;)
I understand where you're coming from and each person is different with how they cope, you'll be ok though mate :y: like I said, you know where I am if you need a shoulder coz we all need someone to talk to dont we :)

[blackvtrt]

Jesus James hope you tried to smash his melon :|

why does every guy, say hit the guy? tbf if u had a hot women crack on with you you wouldnt say no! Even if the lads knows shes got a fella its not them thats cheating. Go & drink some stella & give the bitch a swift back hand! (I JOKE)

Simple rule of life for me- "your only bothered until the next one comes along"

[Spanky]

been 8 months for me now and im still madley in love with my X, hard to break away when she was your soul mate and you split even though you didnt want to, but knew it was for the best.

life goes on, but it will be a while for me yet

[Hazmanscoop]

i was over it as soon as i'd sent the text....

[river]

db_sax,

You need to move on.

All the while this whole thing is kicking about in your head, your keeping it going. Your walking around with your eyes closed to any other chance to be happy that might (and will) pass you by.

All because of someone who has said 'I dont have feelings for you, nor will I'.

Girls, hell people, love attension. Not saying she's a bad person, thats just the way people are. Most people will take the attension of keeping someone around, even though they dont want anything more, over doing the decent thing and walking away.

Dont get shafted like that. The longer it goes on, the more damage it will to do you, the more time it'll eat up and the harder it'll be to move on.

[girlofthenight]

Ex before last =

split 4 years ago

split as he slept with someone he worked with and kissed a mate of mine and was violent

took around 2 years properly to get over it

revenge = mmm gay dateline with phone numbers, slept with hes best mate and stupidly got back with him briefly with gave him a criminal record too ;-)

[sam2kk8]

why does every guy, say hit the guy? tbf if u had a hot women crack on with you you wouldnt say no! Even if the lads knows shes got a fella its not them thats cheating. Go & drink some stella & give the bitch a swift back hand! (I JOKE)

Simple rule of life for me- "your only bothered until the next one comes along"

Why joke,
i Know i would if i knew she lead him on.

[sam2kk8]

i was over it as soon as i'd sent the text....

Smooth..

[Craddock]

Thats how i think im too optimistic. Shes given me the answer of no nothing will happpen and tells me to move on. Then she will tell me she had or got feelings for me since telling me that.

Tell her what's going on in your head. Explain to her that you've still got feelings for hr and that your feeling like this. Try and set a bit of guidance, try and get a clear cut (upto date) answer. :y:

[Hazmanscoop]

Smooth..


Not something i've ever done before but she was a premier c**t to me

always messing me about on off on off etc etc then other lads and stuff and i kept going back like a mug

decided id had enough and text her while i was warming up to play a football match

felt a huge weight lifted from my shoulders

Now my current g/f is awesome :y: