online romance and dating

[vtrsarah]

i said i wasnt going too bother with another thread seeing has they keep being hijacked but oh well thought i would throw in a topic for discussion, right online dating and romance tbh im scepticle and dont see how anything lasting can come of chatting endless on a website then meeting up on a whim especially with the amount of fruit loops there is out there.
Has anyone got any stories too share and what are your opinions? NO SPAMMING AND HIJACKING PLEASE

[Gabbastard]

two of my mates met their current lasses through websites, match.com and smooch.com I think they were. Seems a bit weird at first, but they said that youre cutting through all the shite and meeting up with people that you already have a bit of common ground with, so easier to get on with them.

p.s. one of the lasses is a stunner, the other ones... alright LOL

[vtrsarah]

two of my mates met their current lasses through websites, match.com and smooch.com I think they were. Seems a bit weird at first, but they said that youre cutting through all the shite and meeting up with people that you already have a bit of common ground with, so easier to get on with them.

p.s. one of the lasses is a stunner, the other ones... alright LOL

oo first reply im shocked i suppose its true you do cut all the boring small talk out and shyness hmm

[Graeme]

i cant see what differnce it makes if people meet online or in a bar, i see what you mean about the nut cases out there though lol

iv met a girl of the net and as said once the 1st face to face chat happens its normaly all fine because you have chatted with said person online

a lad i know met his mrs online aswell and now there getting married this year lol

[Bodvts]

i met my other half online just started chatting then met up this was nearly 10 years ago we've been married 2 years in June

[hellonpluto]

Becareful of those sweetheart scams. If someone has been chatting with you for ages (like months) and then asks for money its a scam.

[vtrsarah]

ooooo so many good expereiances maybe i am wrong hmmmm note too self if ever single look online ;)

[vtrsarah]

Becareful of those sweetheart scams. If someone has been chatting with you for ages (like months) and then asks for money its a scam.

ha ha really i would never have realised ;)

[RJohnson]

I payed alot of mmoprg's when i was younger (prepare for abuse)

There where actualy alot of people you meet playing these games that have met partners on them and ended up getting married etc. This was the case with alot of world of warcraft players.

Somebody i knew from school met a girl on there from Norway i think it was, ended up flying over to see her after talking for a year or so and i think they are still in a relationship.

I would never personaly do anything like that, but i know that lad wouldn't have been confident enough too talk to a girl in a bar, but hes happy from that.

[vtrsarah]

arent you worried they might not be who they say they are?

[RJohnson]

arent you worried they might not be who they say they are?

I'd of been worried and I only ever played the games for fun not too meet people, he took a huge risk but was pretty happy, think they ended up talking on webcam etc before he flew over mind.

[vtrsarah]

I'd of been worried and I only ever played the games for fun not too meet people, he took a huge risk but was pretty happy, think they ended up talking on webcam etc before he flew over mind.

so at least he knew what she looked like then thats something

[J222JRA]

Me and my partner met on facebook.....2 years back.

[Graeme]

arent you worried they might not be who they say they are?

its only the same as if you meet somone in a bar, how do you know there not lying ;)

when most people meet up with people off line they norm speak on the phone 1st ect its not a case of chat online then just meet up

ill show you how it works if you want? :P

[vtrsarah]

so alot of you have met people then i am genuinly surprised tbh takes her blinkers of f

[RJohnson]

so at least he knew what she looked like then thats something

Yeh at least he could be 50% sure it was a girl around his age not some 50 year old man, think he would of only been about 14 when they first started talking

[Mattymcn]

i met you sarah you turned out alright ;) *runs*

[vtrsarah]

its only the same as if you meet somone in a bar, how do you know there not lying ;)

when most people meet up with people off line they norm speak on the phone 1st ect its not a case of chat online then just meet up

ill show you how it works if you want? :P

but at least you know there not a big sweaty overweight man tho that would be my only worry tbh i can handle murderers and weirdo's but a fat swety man urgh lol nah graeme ill pass ;)

[vtrsarah]

i met you sarah you turned out alright ;) *runs*

oi cheeky sod lol you was lucky ha ha :oops:

[Andy_K]

I think talking to someone online and meeting up doesn't really differ from meeting someone in a bar on a night out. Its kind of like that first night, where you find out a bit about them, and if you like them you carry on talking/seeing them.

Either way, that person can turn out to be a nut-job. I know plenty of people who have met partners in town (face to face as it were), seen them for a week or two and they have turned out not to be quite as the first impression seemed.

I also know a few people who have met long term partners via the internet, some of whom are now married.

[kristel10589]

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[vtrsarah]

i met my boyfriend on here. We're now living together, engaged and very happy :D

ON HERE????????????? omg my opinion is changing i think thinking about it i guess its not much differant at all

[Mattymcn]

most people nowadays use the internet.

one day on a forum chatting to the opposite sex. next min your buying a house with the missus with a bun in the oven and a family car.

i went to school with my missus but met up after chatting on facebook ;)

[RJohnson]

Anybody else find it abit scary how much the internet is taking over everything, including dating, I'm only 19 but I've noticed my 15 year old sister and all her friends spend more time socialising online than actualy going out and meeting each other, I don't think i was ever like that.

[vtrsarah]

Anybody else find it abit scary how much the internet is taking over everything, including dating, I'm only 19 but I've noticed my 15 year old sister and all her friends spend more time socialising online than actualy going out and meeting each other, I don't think i was ever like that.

yeah it is dominating everything even weekly shops are done online now

[vtrsarah]

most people nowadays use the internet.

one day on a forum chatting to the opposite sex. next min your buying a house with the missus with a bun in the oven and a family car.

i went to school with my missus but met up after chatting on facebook ;)

bun in the oven somthing you wanna share? ;)

[Gabbastard]

Ive thought that as well. Same as with phones, any time I see schoolies they are all walking about texting, all the time. I sound like an old cunt but I remember the days when you had to go out to find your mates, or go round their house to see if they were in.

Nowadays folk would post on facebook "u in ur house yeh?", "yeh,cm c me"

[kristel10589]

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[RJohnson]

Ive thought that as well. Same as with phones, any time I see schoolies they are all walking about texting, all the time. I sound like an old cunt but I remember the days when you had to go out to find your mates, or go round their house to see if they were in.

Nowadays folk would post on facebook "u in ur house yeh?", "yeh,cm c me"

Yeh I have to admitt I'm like that its just so easy to do now, but i think i'd actualy prefer having to go see my friends rather than just sending them a message, just doesn't seem to happen like that now though.

[vtrsarah]

Yups on here. We were talking for over a year as friends then we met at a track day and have been together ever since :D

awwwwwwwwwwwwww ok im sold on the idea although it is scary

[iSlayeR]

I've always met the girls irl, but at first the relationship begins mostly online via msn and facebook :P I've met mates on the internet though, through an online game, and i travelled across the country to meet them, after knowing them for years :)

[aksaxovtr]

coudnt be arse'd tbh ha, i woudnt fancy posting a heap of personal details on the web, i find it much easier to just ask the girl out if i like her, a bit forward i know but thats what i did with my curent girlfriend and we're together to years now :y:

[Gabbastard]

thinking about it, Ive a few mates who Ive met through Xbox Live.

[vtrsarah]

thinking about it, Ive a few mates who Ive met through Xbox Live.

oh yeah i have a few mates ive met on here like mattymcn but thats differant too looking for love isnt it?

[Mallyauto86]

Met the love of my life on a chat ... just got talking had shit loads in commun decided to meet up as she lived near my best mates cousins house, wich is about 6 hours from my old place in france lol ( this was 2 years ago btw ) first time we met got on like a house on fire and within 2 days we wer going out .... and EVEN SURVIVED me moving back to the UK for 12 months ... and only managing to see her once a month .....

now monday im moving back to france to be closer to her and our relationship is better than ever ... i just couldnt imagin my life without her yeh ok it was tough with me coming back to uk but still together ... so onwards an upwards

i will admit before this i would have never thaught about going online for dating but i guess this was purley unintentional just got bored one night and ended up talking to her and never looked back since ......

i reckon its worth the try even if you only try it once you never know you mite suprise yourself ....

[vtrsarah]

Met the love of my life on a chat ... just got talking had shit loads in commun decided to meet up as she lived near my best mates cousins house, wich is about 6 hours from my old place in france lol ( this was 2 years ago btw ) first time we met got on like a house on fire and within 2 days we wer going out .... and EVEN SURVIVED me moving back to the UK for 12 months ... and only managing to see her once a month .....

now monday im moving back to france to be closer to her and our relationship is better than ever ... i just couldnt imagin my life without her yeh ok it was tough with me coming back to uk but still together ... so onwards an upwards

i will admit before this i would have never thaught about going online for dating but i guess this was purley unintentional just got bored one night and ended up talking to her and never looked back since ......

i reckon its worth the try even if you only try it once you never know you mite suprise yourself ....

that sounds like a hugh grant movie good luck with the move back :hug:

[Mallyauto86]

that sounds like a hugh grant movie good luck with the move back :hug:

i know its gay isnt it even now i think feck how the hell do i do it .... and how the hell did i meet somone that lives 600 miles from me and end up going out with her after 1 nights worth of conversation on MSN .....

but i dont regret it and she's just amazing so i can't complain .... i like standing out from the crowd making a tit out of my self etc having a laugh but i've never really botherd asking girls out in person never really had too to be honest thinking about it lol so yeh guess somthing clicked :homme::homme:

oh and thanks sarah you can come visit if you wear your bikini :D

[vtrsarah]

i know its gay isnt it even now i think feck how the hell do i do it .... and how the hell did i meet somone that lives 600 miles from me and end up going out with her after 1 nights worth of conversation on MSN .....

but i dont regret it and she's just amazing so i can't complain .... i like standing out from the crowd making a tit out of my self etc having a laugh but i've never really botherd asking girls out in person never really had too to be honest thinking about it lol so yeh guess somthing clicked :homme::homme:

oh and thanks sarah you can come visit if you wear your bikini :D

oh dear lets hope your lovely ladie dont see that ;)

[Mallyauto86]

oh dear lets hope your lovely ladie dont see that ;)

she wouldnt say nothing she knows what im like i love pissing around and so does she so she wouldnt say anything about it ..... or she'd come up with somthing witty to make me look like a dick ... anyway lol

[vtrsarah]

she wouldnt say nothing she knows what im like i love pissing around and so does she so she wouldnt say anything about it ..... or she'd come up with somthing witty to make me look like a dick ... anyway lol

sounds like you have met your match

[Mallyauto86]

sounds like you have met your match

looks like it lol ..... i end up getting it most of the time lol ... i need to learn to control my thaughts and not let my self say the first thing that comes into my head all the time ...

though its verry funny somtimes ... she wasnt impressed with that song though . . . .tho i gotta admit i lolled ...

[saxo-parts]

all i can say is i met mandy through an on-line site and 2 years down the line its the best thing thats ever happened, fair point about the fruit loops though, i met a few rough old stones before i came across a diamond!!

[vtrsarah]

all i can say is i met mandy through an on-line site and 2 years down the line its the best thing thats ever happened, fair point about the fruit loops though, i met a few rough old stones before i came across a diamond!!

awwwww love that last line :y:

[Mallyauto86]

awwwww love that last line :y:

lol ya softy ... oh no wait your a chick its normal ...

[stevie_m]

First spoke to my missus online.


8 years, 2 kids and a marriage later .. I can't knock it.

[craig180]

A mate of mine recently married a girl he met on match.com

They had most of the wedding paid for as well. Makes me wonder why mine cost over 15 grand!

Other than that I've met loads of mates on line, quite a few on sax-p.

Sarah, is this an ASW thread? Are you on the pull, but testing the water first?

;)

[vtrsarah]

A mate of mine recently married a girl he met on match.com

They had most of the wedding paid for as well. Makes me wonder why mine cost over 15 grand!

Other than that I've met loads of mates on line, quite a few on sax-p.

Sarah, is this an ASW thread? Are you on the pull, but testing the water first?

;)

rofl no asw'ing just a discussion has i am fed up of the adverts so wondered what you lot thought im 5 years and countin with my fella :A:

[saxo-Richie]

I read most of this thread but skippd some of it..

Yeah i've met one or 2 lasses of the net, and a few in pubs/clubs on nights out. Only difference is you see the real other person/same with you as your more that likely not p*ssed to the high heaven and falling all over LOL!

Single at the min though, just havent round the right one yet ha!

Also met some friends over forums such as sports bike forums etc that i keep in touch with. Ended up going on holiday with a bunch of lads i bet of a bike forum and it was great fun :)

[craig180]

Counting up or counting down? lol

I think in this day and age where fewer people go out because of money or other reasons, or have less time to go out and meet because of work commitments, really the only options are to be set up by someone that knows someone else, or these dating sites.

I'm tempted to register me and see what mongs I get offered!

[vtrsarah]

Counting up or counting down? lol

I think in this day and age where fewer people go out because of money or other reasons, or have less time to go out and meet because of work commitments, really the only options are to be set up by someone that knows someone else, or these dating sites.

I'm tempted to register me and see what mongs I get offered!

rofl lol @ mongs :panic:

[Mattymcn]

naughty naughty craig. Mrs180 would not be pleased :P

[bide_furio]

i met my current missus on myspace, knew who she was from seein her out in town before so was sure who i was talkin to!

would not fancy using a dating site incase u got loads of stick from ya mates!

[Mochachino]

I met my ex/current on a forum 3 years ago.

She lived in spain but from peckham in london, and randomly added loads of poeple off this forum on msn, me being one of them. Never spoke for 4 months, then we started talking. Realised we're quite similar. Met each other loads of times, she aint a slag at all, far from it, lost our V with each other.

I moved to live in spain with her last year as a mercedes mechanic, was fine for a short while. But she said she lost her feelings for me after 2 years of being together.

Since Jul last year when i came back to England we've been talking but not loads just as mates. Had a big fall out in Jan, made us both realise now we're back on, and shes coming over here and we're moving out. Shes coming in April to sort stuff out.

Also made an online business with her. Tbh we do everything together if that sounds odd with it being abit of internet. Its nothing wierd as we know each other in person, she knows me more than anyone else any of my best mates.

All started with MSN lol

[nicole_]

ive met alot of amazinggggg people off here :)

[auds]

I met my last boyfriend on plenty of fish, and don't see anything wrong with online dating at all, you can chat to them, get to know them, go on webcam to make sure they are who they say they are, so no worries there, and only meet up when you're ready to and of course in a public place.

It is no different, in my opinion, to going out on the town and meeting someone.....it is a lot more popular than you'd think too.....and even though it didn't work with myself and my ex, he was the nicest guy I've ever been out with...so far lol

Oh yeah I also had already met him where he works, so knew who he was....

[Mochachino]

I met my last boyfriend on plenty of fish, and don't see anything wrong with online dating at all, you can chat to them, get to know them, go on webcam to make sure they are who they say they are, so no worries there, and only meet up when you're ready to and of course in a public place.

It is no different, in my opinion, to going out on the town and meeting someone.....it is a lot more popular than you'd think too.....and even though it didn't work with myself and my ex, he was the nicest guy I've ever been out with...so far lol

Oh yeah I also had already met him where he works, so knew who he was....

Exactly, you go to town drunk, meet a drunk girl/boy...i think thats hell of alot more frowned upon imo than meeting somone online and getting to know them. You havnt met them so you can be pretty honest (or lie completley which is the risk) without being embarressed etc. You get to know them in much more depth online, you can take your time and its easier to like fire them off if you dont like them.

Im more relaxed over the internet sorta thing, and not as shy. If i meet a girl on the internet il proper talk, if i meet a girl in person then im abit shy and dont even know where to start with talking. Unless im with other poeple i know then its awkward for me.

[craig180]

naughty naughty craig. Mrs180 would not be pleased :P

Not for Any reason other than my own amusement!

I would never cheat on my wifey :p

[vtrsarah]

has anyone had any bad stories too tell?

[auds]

Exactly, you go to town drunk, meet a drunk girl/boy...i think thats hell of alot more frowned upon imo than meeting somone online and getting to know them. You havnt met them so you can be pretty honest (or lie completley which is the risk) without being embarressed etc. You get to know them in much more depth online, you can take your time and its easier to like fire them off if you dont like them.

Im more relaxed over the internet sorta thing, and not as shy. If i meet a girl on the internet il proper talk, if i meet a girl in person then im abit shy and dont even know where to start with talking. Unless im with other poeple i know then its awkward for me.


Yes totally agree with you mate.....I get what you're saying about not being so shy over the net too, I'm not really shy, a little, depends, but it is so much easier to say what you want over the net, sometimes maybe be misunderstood lol but yeah agree, it's way less risky too than meeting someone on a drunken night out :y:

[Krys_23]

Thread reminds me of the guy who posted smelly socks for cash, Best thread ever!

[Mattymcn]

online dating is perfectly fine. aslong as you know its not a 50 yr old couch potato

[vtrsarah]

haha craig i know you wouldnt cheat on mrs180 :)

you got a great family bud!

awwwwww it must be love lol :A: :hug:

[JamesR]

Please keep this on topic people.

Jay

[vtrsarah]

thanks jay

[Krys_23]

Thought the general section was generally for a bit of banter and free posting, Wasn't even any swearing in our two comments :n:

[JamesR]

Even though there wasn't any swearing, the thread was starting to go off topic and the thread starter clearly said that she didn't want that, so please respect her wishes.

Jay

[vtrsarah]

Even though there wasn't any swearing, the thread was starting to go off topic and the thread starter clearly said that she didn't want that.

yes thats true they cant miss the big letters on my first post

[Krys_23]

Crystal clear boss..

[Peter_D]

Anyway, back on topic...

No i have not had an experience with online dating, and if one of my mates was found on an online dating site i think we would probably take the piss out of him for it.

Anyone else got experiences with online dating you would like to share? :oops:

[saxo-Richie]

I met i girl a few years back on the net that used it to stalk me for a few months after i decided she wasnt the girl for me ( 2 or 3 dates)... met a girl in town who became my girl friend (since broke up) and the internet girl some how got the town girls phone number and told her quite a few lies about me...

the internet girl even turned up at my work late one night to see if my car was in the car park and that i wasnt lying to her!! Scary!

so their can be good and bad.. ha!

[vtrsarah]

I met i girl a few years back on the net that used it to stalk me for a few months after i decided she wasnt the girl for me ( 2 or 3 dates)... met a girl in town who became my girl friend (since broke up) and the internet girl some how got the town girls phone number and told her quite a few lies about me...

the internet girl even turned up at my work late one night to see if my car was in the car park and that i wasnt lying to her!! Scary!

so their can be good and bad.. ha!

seethats what would worry me if i was going too do that

[saxo-Richie]

ha, it wasnt that bad! Never hear from her at all any more. Just think she liked me '2 much' and i wasnt as interested in her.

Then again i met another girl and we got on really well :) went out with her for a few months but circumstanes changed and we are just friends now.

[Ryan]

A friend of mine met her partner on an online dating site.

Shes been with him about 3years now and I think are now planning the 'big day'

[sarah000]

Met a lad on another forum....was a long distant thing, decided that i didnt want to do the long distant thing, and made my life hell on the forum via comment about my posts etc

Ended up falling out big time with him and thankfully left the forum that i was on

I will never use the internet to date anyone from long distant now, put off for life

[vtrsarah]

Met a lad on another forum....was a long distant thing, decided that i didnt want to do the long distant thing, and made my life hell on the forum via comment about my posts etc

Ended up falling out big time with him and thankfully left the forum that i was on

I will never use the internet to date anyone from long distant now, put off for life

oh dear sorry too hear that hunn he was a fruit loop imo oh well you have found sax-p no fruit loops here :A:

[Sam-]

I personally think relationships can FOAD. Because you put loads of effort in and at the end of it you just wonder wether it was worth it.

Maybe im just a bit bitter at the moment though who knows. . .

[sarah000]

oh dear sorry too hear that hunn he was a fruit loop imo oh well you have found sax-p no fruit loops here :A:

Aye was a fruit loop that one, told him no no no so many times, then he try and talk me into trying again, i was like nonono. then he just spat the dummy made so many remarks to me. So just rebelled and flirter more with the rest of the lads on there till he left

He was in love bless him........not my fault im so lovable :cool:

[kristel10589]

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[vtrsarah]

Oh no i dont wanna look for love i have a man was jyst a general queation

[kristel10589]

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[saxovtsmad]

i met my mrs on the internet 7years ago in may we now have a son who will be 6 in may and we got married 18 months ago and ive never looked back

[Fly]

i met my wife through a cruise website

[Sam-]

Sarah Its Peter, Kristel other half aka littleracer.

Do not go looking for love on the internet, If its meant to be it will be.

It was ages talking on here before me and Kristel actually met.

Is she lookin over your shoulder or something? :P

[kristel10589]

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[benkelsall]

Met Nicole off here and been together for around 2 months.

[vtrsarah]

Met Nicole off here and been together for around 2 months.

So are you too properly together ooooo

[saxo-parts]

has anyone had any bad stories too tell?
yes, met a woman who swore she often mistaken for gillian anderson off the x-files,pic was a bit dodgy she sent but i thought what the hell, she turned up,was almost dwarf like with a hunch back,grey hair and the most rotten skanky teeth i've ever seen. some wierd folk out there and its not just strange blokes lol

[Mochachino]

yes, met a woman who swore she often mistaken for gillian anderson off the x-files,pic was a bit dodgy she sent but i thought what the hell, she turned up,was almost dwarf like with a hunch back,grey hair and the most rotten skanky teeth i've ever seen. some wierd folk out there and its not just strange blokes lol

How long was u seeing her for after that? lol

[vtrsarah]

yes, met a woman who swore she often mistaken for gillian anderson off the x-files,pic was a bit dodgy she sent but i thought what the hell, she turned up,was almost dwarf like with a hunch back,grey hair and the most rotten skanky teeth i've ever seen. some wierd folk out there and its not just strange blokes lol

Urgh she sounds lovely :S

[Peter_D]

yes, met a woman who swore she often mistaken for gillian anderson off the x-files,pic was a bit dodgy she sent but i thought what the hell, she turned up,was almost dwarf like with a hunch back,grey hair and the most rotten skanky teeth i've ever seen. some wierd folk out there and its not just strange blokes lol

You sure she didn't say she was "often mistaken for something from the X-Files, you know the programme with Gillian Anderson in it?" :zainy:

[matt19]

they pop up all the fucking time doesnt matter what website im on , im allways offered a bird from 300 miles away :/ .. i can see the point , but cant at the same time.. hmm

[C4_Lew]

I met my gf from a facebook app lol, she just added me one day and... 2years later couldnt be happier

[Morgan_VTR]

You lucky feckers! Send some of that luck my way yeah? lol.... never 'got to know' a girl online and then meeting up - but I can see the attraction, as I'm a big wet willy when it comes to the confidence to waltz up to a girl and break the ice.

Cool thread and interesting read!

[vtrsarah]

You lucky feckers! Send some of that luck my way yeah? lol.... never 'got to know' a girl online and then meeting up - but I can see the attraction, as I'm a big wet willy when it comes to the confidence to waltz up to a girl and break the ice.

Cool thread and interesting read!

thanks bab i like too get us all talking :) maybe interne dating is the thing for you then :y:

[LSOfreak]

i know a girl who found a guy on one of these dating sites. apparently went really well at first but then he turned out to be a total nut job lol

[saxo-parts]

i know a girl who found a guy on one of these dating sites. apparently went really well at first but then he turned out to be a total nut job lol
plenty of nut nuts in the real world as well remember lol, i've had some bird lock herself in my old house threatening to burn it down while i stood in the garden, wasn't too bothered but my dog was inside as well

[LSOfreak]

lmao...

[bullit]

Met Nicole off here and been together for around 2 months.

really l0l

[craig180]

Saxp swinging sesh?