Split with the girlfriend, help needed please.

[Moke]

Right, well I split with my girlfriend last night after being with her for over 2 years and 2 months.

It's a mutual split and we are still mates.

We split up because we both felt like we were going nowhere and we just kept arguing.

Thing is, I can't help but feel paranoid, because she really is a gorgeous girl *awaits pics of STFU* and I don't want anyone else to have her.
She said to me that she isn't going to move on as she is going to see how it goes, but I can't see us getting back together and it's worrying me.

Fair enough, I can spend more time with the lads and more money on the car now, but that's not the point. I actually love her.

Anyone know the best thing to do / best things to say to her to stop her losing feelings, etc?

All help is appriciated :y:

Mike.

[KamRacing]

if its going nowhere, did you two ever discuss what you both wanted from the relationship?

[Toms112]

Best thing you can do is talk to her. Tell her how you really feel. Tell her that 'splitting up' has made you realise how much you miss her and want to be with her.

[CampDavid]

Murder her, learn to cope or get back with her. 3 options, spoilt for choice.

I'd avoid the first one, it has downsides

[jw1325]

meh me and my man were the same, mutual split, i wanted him back, he didnt want me back, im up shit creek made a mistake, but i gotta live with it.

get smashed with the lads and shag a durrrtaayyy


oh, and pics ;)

[BazzaC]

What exactly was you arguing over?

Have a chat with her, it might be the smallest changes that would make a huge difference in your relationship.

[loz180691]

get back with her and see how it goes

[Dom]

Pics needed tbh.

Other than that, just let go mate, give it a few months and you won't even remember her name, good times ahead :y: Plenty more fish in the sea.

[nicole_]

Best thing you can do is talk to her. Tell her how you really feel. Tell her that 'splitting up' has made you realise how much you miss her and want to be with her.

ditto her,
or there was a reason for your agruing, and leave it a week and see if youre happier being single, then if youre not, go beg for her back :y:

[Moke]

Thanks for the advice guys.

Well we were both happy and merry in the relationship, but it was the same thing day in, day out.

We kept arguing because I kept getting annoyed and paranoid because every lad on earth who she knows want's some of her, it's so annoying. Fair enough, she can't help that which I understand, but it's when she does nothing about it, like she'll flirt back with them and then have a go at me for getting annoyed. Am I in the wrong?

Lol, thanks David - maybe option 1 will be used in the future :y:

ikid.

[Moke]

Pics needed tbh.

Other than that, just let go mate, give it a few months and you won't even remember her name, good times ahead :y: Plenty more fish in the sea.

It's easier said than done mate.

I am trying to see the good side of it, but I keep getting dragged down by thinking there is still hope of us getting back together.

[Dom]

It's easier said than done mate.

I am trying to see the good side of it, but I keep getting dragged down by thinking there is still hope of us getting back together.

I have been in the same position, it really does bring you down. All the thoughts run through your head, seems like there is no way out at first :n: All I can say is try and try again, it will eventually work out if you put enough effort into it. But if it all gets thrown back in your face then you will realise its best to let go, tbh I feel alot better getting out of a dead end relationship and I did enjoy the single life for 1 or 2 years until lately. Hope this helps mate :y:

Just avoid campdavid's advice of murder. There are only a few positives from that :p

[nicole_]

Thanks for the advice guys.

Well we were both happy and merry in the relationship, but it was the same thing day in, day out.

We kept arguing because I kept getting annoyed and paranoid because every lad on earth who she knows want's some of her, it's so annoying. Fair enough, she can't help that which I understand, but it's when she does nothing about it, like she'll flirt back with them and then have a go at me for getting annoyed. Am I in the wrong?

Lol, thanks David - maybe option 1 will be used in the future :y:

ikid.

unless she was actually getting with them, you should be happy if shes as good as you say she is, and shes happy and merry to be with you, its just harmless talking after all. maybe you needed to work that problem out before you split up?
hate it when people split up rather than talking through and sorting a problem?

[KamRacing]

Thanks for the advice guys.

Well we were both happy and merry in the relationship, but it was the same thing day in, day out.

We kept arguing because I kept getting annoyed and paranoid because every lad on earth who she knows want's some of her, it's so annoying. Fair enough, she can't help that which I understand, but it's when she does nothing about it, like she'll flirt back with them and then have a go at me for getting annoyed. Am I in the wrong?

Lol, thanks David - maybe option 1 will be used in the future :y:

ikid.

You need to deal with your own insecurities then see how things are. Its worth telling her you are jealous and cannot currently control that..

[Chuffy]

There comes a point in every sax-piers life (except me as I've never made one)when they make their first "Relationships Thread"

[Moke]

unless she was actually getting with them, you should be happy if shes as good as you say she is, and shes happy and merry to be with you, its just harmless talking after all. maybe you needed to work that problem out before you split up?
hate it when people split up rather than talking through and sorting a problem?

There isn't anything wrong with the relationship as in we have issues, paranoia, etc..

It's just very repetative all of the time.

I really liked her talking to other guys, because she's happy, has plenty of mates and can have a laugh/flirt with the guys (obviously not too far).
And also, if a lad took it too far, I'd get the chance to flex my muscles ;).

It's just that only being 17, I think the 2 years has taken a toll on us.

[Moke]

You need to deal with your own insecurities then see how things are. Its worth telling her you are jealous and cannot currently control that..

It's not that I'm insecure mate, I'm not.

It's the fact that whenever she does flirt with a lad and I say like "you seem a bit too keen" and just express my feelings, she threw it back in my face and we argued.

It's like I had no say in the issue.

[moxy89]

pics or your lieing..

[Moke]

get back with her and see how it goes

I can't exactly say "your back with me now, muahahaha" can I?

[nicole_]

she missing you?

[Moke]

pics or your lieing..

My work has blocked Facebook, sorry mate ;)

[Moke]

she missing you?

Yup, she said she just wants to be with me because she misses me and misses us as a couple, but then again, she is being really off with me and showing no emotion when I try to speak about it.

Doesn't help being in work when I can't speak face to face :n:

[moxy89]

no mate totally agree i have been with my girlfriend for 3 years if we split would kill me, however my vts would become boosted a hell of a lot quicker

[Killeybh]

Thanks for the advice guys.

Well we were both happy and merry in the relationship, but it was the same thing day in, day out.

We kept arguing because I kept getting annoyed and paranoid because every lad on earth who she knows want's some of her, it's so annoying. Fair enough, she can't help that which I understand, but it's when she does nothing about it, like she'll flirt back with them and then have a go at me for getting annoyed. Am I in the wrong?

Lol, thanks David - maybe option 1 will be used in the future :y:

ikid.

mate i literally had da same thing, together for 3 yrs, all da arguing and the others guys and shit. She was too naive and thought they all just wanted to be mates. in the end i left her, she got fuked by some dirty druggy who led her on and i got a new gf who iis sound and alls good. better than ever was wid the over one. just tym to move on!

[deans2k8]

been here a few times..there must of been a reason for you two arguing..either go out get smashed and forget her, or go beg her to take your meat in her taco

[nicole_]

Yuo, she said she just wants to be with me because she misses me and misses us as a couple, but then again, she is being really off with me and showing no emotion when I try to speak about it.

Doesn't help being in work when I can't speak face to face :n:

least you have hope that she cares..
was it really mutual?
cus i think one person has to sort of push it to say thats it lol

[Dom]

If I were you mate, book a few days, maybe a week off work and try and spend as much time with her as possible. Every little helps :y:

[nicole_]

If I were you mate, book a few days, maybe a week off work and try and spend as much time with her as possible. Every little helps :y:

noooo dom
you need space so she misses you and wants you back ! lol
always works

[Moke]

least you have hope that she cares..
was it really mutual?
cus i think one person has to sort of push it to say thats it lol

Well I was the one to push it and say that's it because she clearly wasn't happy with me due to all of the arguing.

I pushed it because I love the girl and just want to see her happy. She hasn't had it easy since we have been together with others things like family and friend troubles.

[Prickle]

Locate her and give her the '3rd' leg. :y:

[Moke]

mate i literally had da same thing, together for 3 yrs, all da arguing and the others guys and shit. She was too naive and thought they all just wanted to be mates. in the end i left her, she got fuked by some dirty druggy who led her on and i got a new gf who iis sound and alls good. better than ever was wid the over one. just tym to move on!

Erm, thanks?

Thanks for sharing one of your stories but my ex isn't a slag who gets fucked by druggies after she splits up with a boyfriend.

By the way, text talk is hated on the forum mate.

[Moke]

Locate her and give her the '3rd' leg. :y:

Best idea so far! ;)

[katie_02furio]

Give it a couple of days and then text her saying you miss her. and ask if she wants to meet up and have a chat maybe?

i wouldnt txt her 2day if u only broke up last night u may seem desperate.

[Moke]

Give it a couple of days and then text her saying you miss her. and ask if she wants to meet up and have a chat maybe?

i wouldnt txt her 2day if u only broke up last night u may seem desperate.

Well I was texting her before, we are just speaking about it and I asked her if she is OK and stuff and she said no, etc.. Will update when I can.

[brianS]

17? and you are worrying. htfu mate and get on with life, someone else said that you wont remember her name in a few months, thats maybe not completley true but @ 17 you have so much to look forward to in life i wouldnt worry that much, jeez i was in love @ 17 and its taken another 13 years to find the actual person i want to be with.

[brianS]

oh and that still being friends etc... load of bollocks in the long run

[Prickle]

oh and that still being friends etc... load of bollocks in the long run

Yeah, next thing she will be telling you how her night was with her new fella etc etc..

[Peter_D]

Thanks for the advice guys.

Well we were both happy and merry in the relationship, but it was the same thing day in, day out.

We kept arguing because I kept getting annoyed and paranoid because every lad on earth who she knows want's some of her, it's so annoying. Fair enough, she can't help that which I understand, but it's when she does nothing about it, like she'll flirt back with them and then have a go at me for getting annoyed. Am I in the wrong?

Lol, thanks David - maybe option 1 will be used in the future :y:

ikid.

Sorry lad but she sounds to me like shes a bit of a slag who loves the attention and isn't 100% serious about you

Thats a harsh way of putting it, but if she cared about you she would tell these other guys to stop flirting, as it's their interest in her thats the initial cause for your arguments with eachother

She tells them to stop, they stop flirting with her, you stop getting paranoid, you both stop arguing...simple

Or she continues flirting back with them, you get para, you tell her that you're uneasy about it, she gets all rowdy with you as if it's your fault and you argue and split up

Tell her to fuck off you can do better lad

[hellonpluto]

*awaits pics of STFU* and I don't want anyone else to have her.


This is simple and you have three options where one is mandatory:

a) kill her
b) kill everyone in the world
c) post PICS of ex-girlfriend on sax-p.com

[Moke]

Yeah, next thing she will be telling you how her night was with her new fella etc etc..

Sorry lad but she sounds to me like shes a bit of a slag who loves the attention and isn't 100% serious about you

Thats a harsh way of putting it, but if she cared about you she would tell these other guys to stop flirting, as it's their interest in her thats the initial cause for your arguments with eachother

She tells them to stop, they stop flirting with her, you stop getting paranoid, you both stop arguing...simple

Or she continues flirting back with them, you get para, you tell her that you're uneasy about it, she gets all rowdy with you as if it's your fault and you argue and split up

Tell her to fuck off you can do better lad

Just to clarify to everyone. She is NOT a slag.

I know everything about her, past and present, so don't go down that road.

NOTHING is final yet and we might give it another shot.

[Prickle]

Wasnt saying she was a schlagg at all.. just other things that may occur. ;)

[Gary-VTR]

Girls always give the "I'm not going to move on for a looong time!" line...

They will.

Go out an pump everything, it's the only option. :y:

[adam_baker]

oh and that still being friends etc... load of bollocks in the long run

+1 this never works, ever. sooner or later it will really bother you.

[Sharky-VTR]

Get out the night and pick up a really nice,funny girl to be with girl:y:












ehhhh no get out and empty your muddy water!

[Moke]

Thanks for the help and advice, I'll see how it goes :y:

Wish me luck! :)

[JoshWestCoast]

mate this sounds exactly like when me and my ex broke up, its was such a fun relationship at first then through the year and a half things just got routine and arguments were so often id end up going round hers , then leaving in a bad mood half an hour after arriving... in the end we called it a day, it took me ages to get over her , but she did make it easier by turning into a complete slag , which was a shame as she wasnt like that at all before. If its not going to work mate then leave it and be strong otherwise youl only get hurt more in future boi. :D

[potatopete]

oh and that still being friends etc... load of bollocks in the long run

^^^ Very very very true........hardly ever works out like tat. Never has done for me.


This is simple and you have three options where one is mandatory:

a) kill her
b) kill everyone in the world
c) post PICS of ex-girlfriend on sax-p.com

^^^Made me rofl lol pmsl !!

[Chin]

mate this sounds exactly like when me and my ex broke up, its was such a fun relationship at first then through the year and a half things just got routine and arguments were so often id end up going round hers , then leaving in a bad mood half an hour after arriving... in the end we called it a day, it took me ages to get over her , but she did make it easier by turning into a complete slag , which was a shame as she wasnt like that at all before. If its not going to work mate then leave it and be strong otherwise youl only get hurt more in future boi. :D

Have i been cloned or something ?

[Bound]

Fix my car and I'll tell you what too do.

[Bound]

Get out the night and pick up a really nice,funny girl to be with girl:y:












ehhhh no get out and empty your muddy water!

Not gonna happen. Scientifically proven girls aren't funny.

As much as it pains me, we have to live with this fact.

[ash_sx125]

Sounds like my previous relationship, lots of arguing, over nothing mainly.

She had enough and ended it over the phone the day after we got back off holiday.. We tried being mates, didn't last long and ended up hating each other.

She had another fella within 2 weeks (who she is still with) and i decided i couldn't be arsed anymore and decided to look after myself.

I was down in the dumps for a while, hit rock bottom, but slowly got over it.

I shagged around, played the field for a few month and now i've met a girl who makes me feel good about myself again, we get on like an house on fire!

[jonathon5]

Get yourself a playful import

http://www.hotrussianbrides.com/?ppc=g&gclid=CJOs4Oq2r6ECFYJi4wodVSrE-w

[Chin]

My ex is russian, don't go there lol

Mint in bed though ;)

[hellovts]

its hard but the best thing to do overall is move on and forget about her.

i finished with my x back in november, it hurt like hell we probably broke up around august but were still kinda together for a long time... until that is she took advantage of the fact we were not 'officially' together cue me binning her and refusing to talk to her ever again as it wasnt the first time this had happened, was the second but events after the first one made me think she was geniune.

bitch lost me the chance of a focus rs :wall: i ended up selling my st + moving to ireland to work for a few months until i decided to come back when the dust settled (was with her for a year or so and i thought it was love)

now... 6months or so down the line... it doesnt hurt me anymore, i just think it is a shame how its all ended thats about it but earlier i was looking through my fb back to november / august and it was WEIRD seeing comments from her and everything.. just gotta move on fella.. your only 17! this happened to me when i was 19. now im 20 and been single since and alot happier! :boxing:

just fuck and bin birds ftw dont fall in love bruvs!

[jonathon5]

I have had the same partner for 16 years, we are now married.

It doesn't always run smooth but you just need to work on it.

I was single for a year before meeting my life long partner , I just stayed well away from ex & never spoke to her again.

The beings friends thing is just too complicated, as jealousy creeps in whenever someone new comes along.

Clean break is the best option as hard as it is.

[Moke]

I have had the same partner for 16 years, we are now married.

It doesn't always run smooth but you just need to work on it.

I was single for a year before meeting my life long partner , I just stayed well away from ex & never spoke to her again.

The beings friends thing is just too complicated, as jealousy creeps in whenever someone new comes along.

Clean break is the best option as hard as it is.

You talk sense!

I know I'm only 17 but this is the girl I want to be with, it really is. I'm not someone who loves his girlfriend after 3 days, it has taken time, effort and alot of energy to keep her and she feels the same as being young it's hard to have a very long, grown up relationship but we both want it to work (I've been speaking to her over the weekend).

She's agreed to go for a meal with me a day before my birthday so hopefully, it'll all work out :).

Again, thanks for your help and advice everyone :y:.

[Mochachino]

Goodluck mate, i know how shit it feels, and i dont think being mates works either, you have to fully cut off if it comes to it..

Youve split up in the worse way tbh, i dont know how you can agree to split up lol. Its the hardest way to move on from someone in your situation. Id much rather to split up with somone becouse they cheated on me, id rather they hurt me, so i can move on, at least you have a reason to hate them then. But just agreeing to split up n be friends, nooo way!

Youll get back with her mate, stay positive and be happy, being happy attracts poeple, so dont be clumb if you are.

:)

[Cal]

I've just split with mine mate :n: come round for a few pints.

[Netsky1991]

You don't realise how much you love something untill it's gone mate. Meet up with her and explain everything! If she still has feelings for you then it's likely she's willing to give it another go but take things slowly and enjoy it!

[x-marshie-x]

Oh man i can feel a sax-p rom com coming on!:oops:

When i was with my ex for over 1 year, i was totally in love, ditched my pals and everything for him and i thought he was amazing. Once he finished with me i was heart broken cried constantly and what not but now im happy with ma bf who ive been with for 3 years :D

its ok to argue in a relationship but at 17 WOW!

get yourself out there and enjoy yourself..

Happiness will get you one day..

There is always hurdles to jump first!

If she is the one for you she will wait for you. But if its down to your "jealousy" thats something you will need to tackle for yourself

[Moke]

Goodluck mate, i know how shit it feels, and i dont think being mates works either, you have to fully cut off if it comes to it..

Youve split up in the worse way tbh, i dont know how you can agree to split up lol. Its the hardest way to move on from someone in your situation. Id much rather to split up with somone becouse they cheated on me, id rather they hurt me, so i can move on, at least you have a reason to hate them then. But just agreeing to split up n be friends, nooo way!

Youll get back with her mate, stay positive and be happy, being happy attracts poeple, so dont be clumb if you are.

:)

Thanks for that mate and I know, we both didn't want the split but it felt like we needed to as a 2 year relationship took its toll on us.

Like said, I'm taking her out for a meal, the day before my 18th birthday and I'm hopefully going to get everything back on track then.

Thanks for the kind words mate :y:.


I've just split with mine mate :n: come round for a few pints.

:n: It's horrid splitting with someone, especially if you have been with them for a long time :(. I'd come round, but I'm not allowed to talk/meet up with strangers ;).

You don't realise how much you love something untill it's gone mate. Meet up with her and explain everything! If she still has feelings for you then it's likely she's willing to give it another go but take things slowly and enjoy it!

That is so true mate. You obviously realise you love them, but once they are gone, it hits you so hard!

As said above, I am meeting with her on 17th May for a meal :y:


I also forgot to add that I went round to hers on Saturday, had a talk, bit of a kiss and cuddle and that seemed to help things :y:.

[makaveli144]

I did a similar thing last year.split up with my gf as I thought it was for the best.we split for 6months and I missed her like crazy but I didn't do anything as I thought it was for the best.but then I found out she had found someone else and after 6 years of been together I couldnt accept that I had lost her completely and we started talking again,meeting up for lunch etc and in the end I got her back.

Moral of the story,if you really do want her back just stick at it and if you do get back together the relationship may be better than it ever was.

[Moke]

I did a similar thing last year.split up with my gf as I thought it was for the best.we split for 6months and I missed her like crazy but I didn't do anything as I thought it was for the best.but then I found out she had found someone else and after 6 years of been together I couldnt accept that I had lost her completely and we started talking again,meeting up for lunch etc and in the end I got her back.

Moral of the story,if you really do want her back just stick at it and if you do get back together the relationship may be better than it ever was.

Well she's said to me that there is no other lad on the scene, which i do believe, because she'll randomly text me saying "I miss you. I love you x" and she rings me to tell me that she misses me, but at the moment it's all about having space and time apart.

I do feel like we will work it out and get back together :)

Good on you by the way mate :y:

[Steve]

Right, well I split with my girlfriend last night after being with her for over 2 years and 2 months.

It's a mutual split and we are still mates.

We split up because we both felt like we were going nowhere and we just kept arguing.

Thing is, I can't help but feel paranoid, because she really is a gorgeous girl *awaits pics of STFU* and I don't want anyone else to have her.
She said to me that she isn't going to move on as she is going to see how it goes, but I can't see us getting back together and it's worrying me.

Fair enough, I can spend more time with the lads and more money on the car now, but that's not the point. I actually love her.

Anyone know the best thing to do / best things to say to her to stop her losing feelings, etc?

All help is appriciated :y:

Mike.

If its not working now then i cant see it getting any better in the future.
Best way of getting over a women you love is to not contact each other and sleep with loads of dirty slags.

Just read you express your feelings when she talks to other lads, don't. It will just annoy her, plus if you trust and love each other then it shouldn't bother you to the point of argument.

[Mochachino]

I did a similar thing last year.split up with my gf as I thought it was for the best.we split for 6months and I missed her like crazy but I didn't do anything as I thought it was for the best.but then I found out she had found someone else and after 6 years of been together I couldnt accept that I had lost her completely and we started talking again,meeting up for lunch etc and in the end I got her back.

Moral of the story,if you really do want her back just stick at it and if you do get back together the relationship may be better than it ever was.

lol i kinda live for these sort of storys :) full of hope haha

[Cal]

With mine it's her birthday this Sunday... I've already bought her a load of stuff.

Do I give it her or not?

[Bound]

With mine it's her birthday this Sunday... I've already bought her a load of stuff.

Do I give it her or not?

Can I have it?

Or...

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_YfWIdcd-Ke0/SuEX199T0eI/AAAAAAAABAw/7YH8TDPIISI/s320/cash+4+gold.gif

[Cal]

It's clothes and stuff, so no sorry.

[Mathias]

I've just split with mine mate :n: come round for a few pints.

Me too mate, few pints sounds good!!

and no....... take presents back and get your money back!!

[Bound]

It's clothes and stuff, so no sorry.

:(.

I know its a hard time for ya mate, but...

I'm a 38B if you're interested.

[jonathon5]

It's clothes and stuff, so no sorry.

ebay :y:

[Cal]

Can't take the presents back, few were off eBay weeks ago and one was from Japan.

Family are on holiday and my car isn't charging, so I'm stuck at home on my own which makes this hell. My mates all seem to be busy which sucks big time.

[valencia]

hi tell her how you feel, and hopefully she understands

[jonathon5]

Can't take the presents back, few were off eBay weeks ago and one was from Japan.

Family are on holiday and my car isn't charging, so I'm stuck at home on my own which makes this hell. My mates all seem to be busy which sucks big time.

And I bet the words to every love song you here on the radio now mean something ;)

Been there done that, its a killer !

But it passes believe me, time is a great healer..................


& so is fresh pussy LOL

[Cal]

Aye, even worse as we both like the same music...

I know, been there done that... but this one hurts more. I feel like shit.

[jonathon5]

Aye, even worse as we both like the same music...

I know, been there done that... but this one hurts more. I feel like shit.


and the cure is ....................

FRESH PUSSY:y:

http://www1.istockphoto.com/file_thumbview_approve/2565181/2/istockphoto_2565181_pussy_cat.jpg//

[Cal]

Will be a good while before I'm less of a miserable cunt to go out and get some, but yeah I hear ya mate. Cheers.

[jonathon5]

Will be a good while before I'm less of a miserable cunt to go out and get some, but yeah I hear ya mate. Cheers.

Mate when I was 19ish I split from my ex after 2 years, I thought my world had come to an end.

I blew her out, but as soon as I done it i thought ...........

what have I done :flush:

She was a prope rider as well .....................

But as hard as it was I made a clean break & stuck to it .

As time passed I had loads of fun as a single man with a fast car & then one day ............

:luff::luff::luff: I met my current wife when I was 20.

We have been together 16 years now, she puts up with me & my obsession with cars & stuff....

She is understanding even whenI spend the deposit we have saved for our first house on a GTi-R that I did not need LOL !:boxing: