Am i being nasty [Archive] - Saxperience

pug_boe

2nd July 2006, 12:31

I need help lol. I finished with my boyfriend of 10 months 2 weeks ago. He was doing my head in and i realised that we had nothing in common what so ever.

He owes me money but keeps saying 'im sorting it', i have been hearing those words for the past 6 months so they mean othing to me now. So i turned around and told him he can have his stuff as soon as i get my money. When he said he cant afford to i said fine il sell your things on ebay and get my money back through that way.

He is constantly doing my head in, sending me text asking why i finished with him, why wont we get back, can we have soe 'fun' all i want is for us to be friends

What am i supposed to do - all in all he owes me rougly £200 however being nice that i am i just said just give me £70 back. He is saying i am black mailing him and he will come down my house today to get his things (he aint coming no where near my house).

Yates

2nd July 2006, 12:45

What stuff do you have of his?

You want it over yeah? Best way really is to give him the stuff and just forget about the money, think about it well spent...

Ive been in the same situation, but its been more money, i thought about it as goodbye money and i could just get on with life and not worry about it

pug_boe

2nd July 2006, 12:47

I got his dumbells (sp) some clothes, it wouldnt even come to that much. It's just a case where he knows how broke i am at the moment. I am getting wound up with him so i wind him up and its like a circle. He keeps texting me saying lets have a chat, lets try and sort us out but i keep telling him there is nothing to sort out. Its just over

Yates

2nd July 2006, 12:51

Well in that way i would just drive to his when you know hes out, give the stuff to his parents and leave it. Just think of it as money well spent, thats the only thing you can do if you want to break the 'circle' as you describe it. Like ive said ive been in the situation and its the best thing to do if you want rid.

hesslevtr

2nd July 2006, 12:53

get as much as you can off him and give him his stuff back its not worth the hassle and icant see you 2 being friends as you both want diffrent things

Bake

2nd July 2006, 13:02

He's probably just saying he can't afford it so you keep ringing him and keep in contact with him, he's probably hoping the longer it stays lke that the more chance you two will get back together! Just drop his stuff around his and forget about the money that way you have no reason to speak to him and he has no reason to speak to you, then just get on with your life.

James

2nd July 2006, 13:13

Could always take him to a small claims court... but for 70 quid its not really worth it... Just give him his shit and move on with your life.

Leo

2nd July 2006, 13:13

Its just an excuse for both of you to contact each other maybe, as yatesy said just give it all back to get out of the circle... then theres no need to contact each other, oh and if he still does then get a new number.

Yates

2nd July 2006, 13:15

u got a pic of the dumbells?! il have them

hesslevtr

2nd July 2006, 13:20

il have his clothes then

pug_boe

2nd July 2006, 13:21

lol Matt, we just run out of fizz you know, he didnt have a job for months then he got a job which only paid commision and i begged him to give up but he wouldnt. I kept telling him he was drivng me away the fact we didnt do boyfriend girlfriend things. Then 2 weeks ago i did something i though id never do and i ended up seeing this bloke and geting off with him. I had so much fun and it made me realise that i was really unhappy so i finished it with him. I have no told him this as i didnt want to hurt him, i just wanted to be friends with him but he is just being a mong. Yesterday i told him that i was snogging girls on the weekend (no im not bi) he just turned around begging to join in the dick lol

Yates

2nd July 2006, 13:24

Doesnt he ever come on here? cos he will find out.

I know what you mean, you get stuck in a rut and dont realise that you are unhappy.

Honestly Boe jsut forget the money and get on with your life, it sounds like its stressing you out all of this. Take the stuff to his so you can go when you please, if he comes to yours he might not leave when you want him to.

You dont want to give him any ideas that he might think hang on im back in.

Drop the stuff at his and drive back feeling great

pug_boe

2nd July 2006, 13:27

no - he hates cars, says as long as it got 4 wheels and moves he couldnt care

Yates

2nd July 2006, 13:28

no - he hates cars, says as long as it got 4 wheels and moves he couldnt care

What?!

hesslevtr

2nd July 2006, 13:29

as matt says this sounds like its fucking your head up just get rid of his stuff forget about the money and move on

any pics of the girls or can i join in

pug_boe

2nd July 2006, 13:30

What?!

lol like i said we didnt have much in common, every time we went to a meet he would moan and my head just cant be dealing with it lol

Yates

2nd July 2006, 13:44

Well like ive said go drop his stuff off and leave it at that.

Go do it now, its a nice day for a drive

tgazvtr

2nd July 2006, 16:21

i think you are being reasonable personaly id burn his clothes for fun!

saxx

2nd July 2006, 17:54

chick as his parents have confiscated his cards etc due to the debt hes in - drop his clothes off and mention you'd like the 200 quid he owes u while ya there..................if his parents are like mine, you'll get ya money back and he'll get grief

ChrisJ

2nd July 2006, 18:03

Make sure you get every penny back, then sell his stuff on ebay and make yourself a nice profit.

c8james

2nd July 2006, 18:20

pug_boe

2nd July 2006, 18:41

thats the problem, apprently my name was mentionedin the over draft conversation, his dad said its since he got with me.

I have given so much for him and sacraficed quite a lot

Yates

2nd July 2006, 18:43

Boe, forget the money, i know that you are struggling but its just not worth it, its a head fuck for you, and causing you stress, forget 70 quid move on and have your headfree from all this mess

c8james

2nd July 2006, 18:46

So times it it better to just walk away. So what if it costs abit, so long as it makes you happy. It might take awhile for him to come to terms but he will see that you were just being kind in the long run. You only have one life so if some thing is not working fix or dump and move on. One life, live it!!

Amiee

2nd July 2006, 18:49

nah hun, you should make him give u the whole lot back, he shudnt have borrowed it if he cudnt pay it back in the first place, 10months islong nuff time he could have gev u bits at a time or sumet... x

vtr_mandy

2nd July 2006, 19:32

boe, i was with a total twat for a year, spent every penny i had on his car and he repayed me by cheating on me then dumping me.

he then went on to get cheated on by her and his bessie mate, he rang me for "fun" i asked where is new bird was and he told me she slept with his mate..... my answer, even though i was still madly in love with the lad was, fair play to the girl, i would have slept with him too given half the chance!!!

he was gutted!!!!!!!!!!!!

dean_plunton

2nd July 2006, 21:32