Bound
16th July 2011, 14:28
Slightly strange thread cause I don't know where I'm going with it yet, but still.
I think one of the my favourite things I like about my family is how welcoming they are, contrary to what you may think about me (i'm the odd one out and the strongest willed in my family, but I'm not actually a dick if you met me :P). Now I still live at home for a few more months but looking back when I used to have loads of mates round all the time before they all went to uni and that and I was thinking every member of my family is really easy going and easy to get along with, for example I'd happily leave my friends/girlfriend in the company of any family memeber be it sister, grandparents, mum, dad - whatever while I was doing something or if I had to pop the shops for example, I'd say they are all welcoming and happy to meet my friends.
On the contrary I go round my friends houses sometimes and if their mum/dad answers the door they are very much "you're my sons friend, you're nothing to do with me I won't talk to you or make any contact" etc, well not quite as bad as I phrased it but like, they would say come in and that's it and not make any effort at a conversation for example. My girlfriends family are pretty awkward to get on with as well. Whereas my mum will happily chat with anyone that comes round, and I can only think of one friend who I would happily sit and have a drink and a chat with their parents without that friend there and not feel like they are trying to distance themselves from "their sons friend"
Is this a transition that comes with maturity? Your friends/girlfriends parents treating you like a adult rather than their "kids friend" if you know what I mean.
What about you? Is it a social faux pas to leave your friends in the company of your family they may not know? Am I leaving them in the lurch to let them feel uncomfortable I wonder? Cause to me that's just normal. But some people are pretty funny about it, say you're at theirs and they want to nip to the shops for something but will only be gone like 20 mins, they won't leave you at their house because they feel funny about leaving you there with their family without them being there.
What about your family? Are they welcoming to friends and girlfriends?
I think one of the my favourite things I like about my family is how welcoming they are, contrary to what you may think about me (i'm the odd one out and the strongest willed in my family, but I'm not actually a dick if you met me :P). Now I still live at home for a few more months but looking back when I used to have loads of mates round all the time before they all went to uni and that and I was thinking every member of my family is really easy going and easy to get along with, for example I'd happily leave my friends/girlfriend in the company of any family memeber be it sister, grandparents, mum, dad - whatever while I was doing something or if I had to pop the shops for example, I'd say they are all welcoming and happy to meet my friends.
On the contrary I go round my friends houses sometimes and if their mum/dad answers the door they are very much "you're my sons friend, you're nothing to do with me I won't talk to you or make any contact" etc, well not quite as bad as I phrased it but like, they would say come in and that's it and not make any effort at a conversation for example. My girlfriends family are pretty awkward to get on with as well. Whereas my mum will happily chat with anyone that comes round, and I can only think of one friend who I would happily sit and have a drink and a chat with their parents without that friend there and not feel like they are trying to distance themselves from "their sons friend"
Is this a transition that comes with maturity? Your friends/girlfriends parents treating you like a adult rather than their "kids friend" if you know what I mean.
What about you? Is it a social faux pas to leave your friends in the company of your family they may not know? Am I leaving them in the lurch to let them feel uncomfortable I wonder? Cause to me that's just normal. But some people are pretty funny about it, say you're at theirs and they want to nip to the shops for something but will only be gone like 20 mins, they won't leave you at their house because they feel funny about leaving you there with their family without them being there.
What about your family? Are they welcoming to friends and girlfriends?