Yes or No?

[Matty16v]

Right, I'm going to keep it short but sweet as I feel a bit "raving" for doing this, however I'm in a predicament.

A girl I'm seeing has a bit of history, by a bit I mean a lot.

Does a girls history put you off? Does the past really make a difference?

This girl I've met is stunning and has an awesome personality, but I'm put off by her past. Am I being a tw@t or should I be right to be weary?

Cheers for the advice, cool story bro, brool story co etc...

[Barry123]

How many STD's has she had then?

[Ben121290]

Should be better at certain things though ....

[Matty16v]

How many STD's has she had then?

Should be better at certain things though ....

See, it's not just me thinking that then? ;)

[Prickle]

depends on history.

tell us what shes done.

[Giraffe]

Depends on said past.

Best thing to do is consider the worst possible outcome, figure out how you will deal with it, and there we go.

[Matty16v]

depends on history.

tell us what shes done.

I feel a bit harsh posting it on an open forum, but lets just say the magic number is 45+, threesomes, drugs..


Depends on said past.

Best thing to do is consider the worst possible outcome, figure out how you will deal with it, and there we go.

Worst possible outcome is cheating, despise it! So dealing with it, lets say 6 months down the line, would probably be a lot harder

[BONGO1733]

If she has a lot of history i dont think it will last long between u.
Just bang it for a bit and move on :y:

[Prickle]

I feel a bit harsh posting it on an open forum, but lets just say the magic number is 45+, threesomes, drugs..

dont feel harsh, you dont even know her.

go into detail.

also dread to think how wide she is.

[Giraffe]

I feel a bit harsh posting it on an open forum, but lets just say the magic number is 45+, threesomes, drugs..

What's she like now? I work with someone who has had 100+, multiple people in the same night, but she's a really amazing person who has really devoted herself to her current boyfriend/fiancé I dunno what the situation is. Depends why she has done what she's done and what she's like now.

[marcusd]

had a girl with history before once a slag always a slag never change em. fuck em n chuck em

[Matty16v]

dont feel harsh, you dont even know her.

go into detail.

also dread to think how wide she is.

Haha, I don't think she would appreciate it, and there are websites for porn ;)

If you search - Interracial gang bang, then I'm sure you will have the perfect image

[Giraffe]

dont feel harsh, you dont even know her.

go into detail.

also dread to think how wide she is.

Use your brain a minute to consider what you're saying.

If someone has had 45+ people but only had each one twice, she's had sex roughly 90 times.

By the end of a year, your gf should have had more than that, so by that logic, your gf has a bucket?

Doesn't just loosen up cos they've slept with more people, it's more to do with physical fitness and how strong the pelvic floor muscles are, jeezuz

[Matty16v]

What's she like now? I work with someone who has had 100+, multiple people in the same night, but she's a really amazing person who has really devoted herself to her current boyfriend/fiancé I dunno what the situation is. Depends why she has done what she's done and what she's like now.

Well, the drugs are still happening, literally rang me at 5:30 this morning to discuss how pretty the stars we're.

She did most of it at Uni about 3 years ago? and she said she did it to make herself feel better. She's told me she really likes me and wouldn't cheat on me, and to be honest I have no reason to disbelieve she has ever cheated or ever will.

But the whole curious for cock bit is a bit of a turn off

[Giraffe]

Well, the drugs are still happening, literally rang me at 5:30 this morning to discuss how pretty the stars we're.

She did most of it at Uni about 3 years ago? and she said she did it to make herself feel better. She's told me she really likes me and wouldn't cheat on me, and to be honest I have no reason to disbelieve she has ever cheated or ever will.

But the whole curious for cock bit is a bit of a turn off

Well, the woman I know used to do it to make herself feel better, didn't feel anyone paid any attention to her, used to get bullied etc, and she realised she could get attention through sex.

But, as she's doing drugs, avoid.

[Prickle]

Use your brain a minute to consider what you're saying.

If someone has had 45+ people but only had each one twice, she's had sex roughly 90 times.

By the end of a year, your gf should have had more than that, so by that logic, your gf has a bucket?

Doesn't just loosen up cos they've slept with more people, it's more to do with physical fitness and how strong the pelvic floor muscles are, jeezuz

wouldnt of thought so mate. ;)

[Giraffe]

wouldnt of thought so mate. ;)

Wouldn't have thought what? That you can't fuck your gf 90 times a year or you just wouldn't be able to make her slack?
joking, of course

[Prickle]

Wouldn't have thought what? That you can't fuck your gf 90 times a year or you just wouldn't be able to make her slack?
joking, of course

:zainy:

[Fulch]

I'm with someone who is properly in the 30+ and threesome club but once she is in a relationship thats it. And thats how I was. We been together 9 months yesterday and its flown by but we met 4 years ago for a one night stand and now we just cant be apart.

I'd say give it a try and if at any point you think she is wondering off or cheating then walk away.

[Matty16v]

But, as she's doing drugs, avoid.

I've spoken to her about this, she attends a class 2 times a week to help her with it, and it seems she does it when she's had a drink, which let's be honest a few people have tried cocaine or ecstasy etc... when drunk.

I can sort of see that the addiction itself will be difficult to break, but my BIGGEST concern out of all of it is, when she rang me this morning she was at her ex's house.

Obviously told her to f**k off hearing that at 5:30am but she said nothing happened and he supplies the drugs.

I see two options, call it a day OR help her and make the ex disappear.

Sounds like a pain in the Arse though to be honest

[Prickle]

you could guide her to the light.

make her a decent lass.

get a progress thread up!

[bobthebuilder]

To even post this on a forum answers your own question lol

no <

[BONGO1733]

I've spoken to her about this, she attends a class 2 times a week to help her with it, and it seems she does it when she's had a drink, which let's be honest a few people have tried cocaine or ecstasy etc... when drunk.

I can sort of see that the addiction itself will be difficult to break, but my BIGGEST concern out of all of it is, when she rang me this morning she was at her ex's house.

Obviously told her to f**k off hearing that at 5:30am but she said nothing happened and he supplies the drugs.

I see two options, call it a day OR help her and make the ex disappear.

Sounds like a pain in the Arse though to be honest

Sounds like bad news to me do u need all that shit in ur life ?

[Matty16v]

you could guide her to the light.

I'm not that kind of lad though, I'm not there to be her life and saviour, I'm here for a relationship with her.

The rest she has to do herself:hug:

[Giraffe]

I've spoken to her about this, she attends a class 2 times a week to help her with it, and it seems she does it when she's had a drink, which let's be honest a few people have tried cocaine or ecstasy etc... when drunk.

I can sort of see that the addiction itself will be difficult to break, but my BIGGEST concern out of all of it is, when she rang me this morning she was at her ex's house.

Obviously told her to f**k off hearing that at 5:30am but she said nothing happened and he supplies the drugs.

I see two options, call it a day OR help her and make the ex disappear.

Sounds like a pain in the Arse though to be honest

Sounds like a lot of hassle you can do without. Not being funny, but do you really want to be with someone who needs to go to rehab twice a week to help with drugs and goes to her ex's and still does drugs?

Set your standards higher I reckon mate. I've not touched drugs once, ever. I don't hold it against people who have, but if someone was still doing them, even occasionally, I'd tell them to do one. You might help her and it still go tits up, just find someone else and start fresh from a decent base.

Think of it this way, if you start to build a house on really shit foundations, doesn't matter how nice the house it, it's still going to fall down. Think Monty Python and the Holy Grail...

[nicole_]

i was about to say i have a history and now im settled down so it can work, but then i saw the number and the drugs and changed my mind. sounds a little bit like a lost cause not worth chasing..

[Prickle]

I'm not that kind of lad though, I'm not there to be her life and saviour, I'm here for a relationship with her.

The rest she has to do herself:hug:

jokes aside.

give her the benefit of the doubt.

i cant see it being easy though.

[Matty16v]

To even post this on a forum answers your own question lol

no <

True that :)

Sounds like bad news to me do u need all that shit in ur life ?

Not really, which is why I'm asking if it's worth it:panic:

[Giraffe]

jokes aside.

give her the benefit of the doubt.

i cant see it being easy though.

Makes it even more pointless and a waste of this lads time...

Let her sort herself out, if she gets sorted and falls within your standards, go for it.

[Matty16v]

Sounds like a lot of hassle you can do without. Not being funny, but do you really want to be with someone who needs to go to rehab twice a week to help with drugs and goes to her ex's and still does drugs?

Set your standards higher I reckon mate. I've not touched drugs once, ever. I don't hold it against people who have, but if someone was still doing them, even occasionally, I'd tell them to do one. You might help her and it still go tits up, just find someone else and start fresh from a decent base.

Think of it this way, if you start to build a house on really shit foundations, doesn't matter how nice the house it, it's still going to fall down. Think Monty Python and the Holy Grail...

i was about to say i have a history and now im settled down so it can work, but then i saw the number and the drugs and changed my mind. sounds a little bit like a lost cause not worth chasing..

jokes aside.

give her the benefit of the doubt.

i cant see it being easy though.

Right, that settles it! I need to stop thinking with my penis and move on:clapping:

[McGuire86]

Atleast fuck her if she's that 'stunning'..

[bobthebuilder]

my BIGGEST concern out of all of it is, when she rang me this morning she was at her ex's house.

Obviously told her to f**k off hearing that at 5:30am but she said nothing happened and he supplies the drugs.



Bollox lol, give it a few months you'll be on jeremy kyle.

[Matty16v]

Atleast fuck her if she's that 'stunning'..

Nah that's a bit harsh lol, that's the reason she is how she is, because lads fuck her about. I'm not about to make it worse :homme:

[jw1325]

Well, the drugs are still happening, literally rang me at 5:30 this morning to discuss how pretty the stars we're.

Pfft. I phone my boyfriend up to discuss pointless things like that and I don't even take drugs.

Sure I phoned a mate up at 4am one night because Edinbugh had their Xmas lights up and it was November and I wanted to know her opinions on this.

Girls change. Don't judge her too much on it. If she is prepared to stay faithful then I'd see nout wrong with it.

and... you think 45+ is bad?

There is a girl that goes about the Edinburgh car scene that shares her name with a woodland plant that rhymes with 'learn' - once admitted that she had written a list of her conquests and that her hand had gotten sore at 156... so she stopped writing.....

[BONGO1733]

Nah that's a bit harsh lol, that's the reason she is how she is, because lads fuck her about. I'm not about to make it worse :homme:

Got to bang it :homme:

[Giraffe]

Pfft. I phone my boyfriend up to discuss pointless things like that and I don't even take drugs.

Sure I phoned a mate up at 4am one night because Edinbugh had their Xmas lights up and it was November and I wanted to know her opinions on this.

Girls change. Don't judge her too much on it. If she is prepared to stay faithful then I'd see nout wrong with it.

and... you think 45+ is bad?

There is a girl that goes about the Edinburgh car scene that shares her name with a woodland plant that rhymes with 'learn' - once admitted that she had written a list of her conquests and that her hand had gotten sore at 156... so she stopped writing.....

You don't think her doing drugs and going to her ex to get them is bad?

[delux]

You don't think her doing drugs and going to her ex to get them is bad?


Id be more concerned about how she paid for these drugs ;)

[lee_saxo]

I feel a bit harsh posting it on an open forum, but lets just say the magic number is 45+, threesomes, drugs..




Worst possible outcome is cheating, despise it! So dealing with it, lets say 6 months down the line, would probably be a lot harder

Dirty bitch, that would put me right off. Good for one thing and that's a bit of fun. But on the other hand people do have 'fun' when they are younger and as they mature and get older they change. Some girls who have slept with high numbers and get to that age of settling down can be the most genuine, loyal, caring and happy girls.

[jw1325]

You don't think her doing drugs and going to her ex to get them is bad?

People who take them recreationally now and again I don't have a problem with, if it's not affecting their lives and they are still working and taking care of their responsibilities, and not racking up lines in front of me then no.

And as for going to her exes house.... I often stop by mines if I'm any where near Newcastle to catch up with him and his family so no for going to exes

and if she is only going to her ex for drugs and not sex etc... the no also.


but if it was Martin, then I don't think I'd be happy about him taking drugs. I know some of his friends do, and hey if he did and I never found out then who am I to care?

[bobthebuilder]

This basically is a stupid post.

NEVER TRUST A HOE

[0rang3peel]

Who cares about drugs, drugs are for cool kids.

Just go with it but don't get too attached.

[lee_saxo]

and don't get willy warts

[Matty16v]

This basically is a stupid post.

NEVER TRUST A HOE

Do you mean the thread, or your comment?

[lee_saxo]

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Il put you in the fucking bin
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Originally Posted by lee_saxo
hahaha I thought we were friends :(

Haha just seen this, epic !

[bobthebuilder]

Do you mean the thread, or your comment?

The thread..

:drink:

[Stissy]

OP, this is my advice to you :) personally mate, I would chuck, but it depends how you are too, I mean could you ever imagine settling down with such a girl?

I’m a bit old fashioned though, I want my girlfriend to be mine, not that I’m jealous or worried that she’d cheat or anything, I know her well enough that she wouldn’t. But she’s mine, and I still wouldn’t want her hanging about with a group of lads, or going out just her and one other lad, and definitely not hanging around with her ex boyfriend..

I once had an ex who’d slept around a bit too, I was never too serious on her so I didn’t care but its still not a nice thought to picture her exs. I was the same and I’ve got a bit of a past so it takes the edge off it and makes you think “yeah I’ve been a bit of a slut too so I cant judge her”, but occasionally I’d see one of her exs out or something, one was also of my close mates (it was years before we got together) but just hanging around with those two together eats away at you inside, knowing that your mate has had sex with your girlfriend and seen her naked and that – so if you’re ok with that and that sort of stuff doesn’t bother you mate then you’ll be sound :y:

As for the drugs mate it’ll just be a phase, as long as she’s not binging on them every day in order to feel normal then she’ll be alright, especially since she’s at uni. I went through the same phase about a year back and i’ve grown out of it now. A bit of coke or fet on a night out never really hurt anyone, she’s just enjoying herself, I’m guessing she didn’t decide to go to the meetings herself? Someone made her

What I’d do (this is what I did and it worked for me) would be to get your average up a bit, sleep around a little and have some fun, then when you’re ready, find a nice girl, with hardly any past, who you know you will want to spend the rest of your life with, and stick with her :y:

[Bound]

Drugs and sex?

Sounds fun as fuck.

[nicole_]

the fact she goes to help groups twice a week suggests to me its more than just a line of coke once in a blue moon on a night out..
maybe thats just me? lol

[Giraffe]

the fact she goes to help groups twice a week suggests to me its more than just a line of coke once in a blue moon on a night out..
maybe thats just me? lol

Same impression I got, and I also thought the uni days were 3 years ago according to this lad, and it doesn't sound as if it's working...

[Matty16v]

Same impression I got, and I also thought the uni days were 3 years ago according to this lad, and it doesn't sound as if it's working...

Yep, that's exactly why it's so off putting!

She's coming round tonight to "speak" to me, so I'll get it in the open, if she wants to carry on being immature with no real goals or aspirations, then she can leave peacefully

[lee_saxo]

you'll fuck her I bet

[Matty16v]

you'll fuck her I bet

Haha I won't! I need to get rid of this red blotching first:homme:

[0rang3peel]

she'll be loading up your cock full of heroine in no time sonny

[Matty16v]

she'll be loading up your cock full of heroine in no time sonny

Apparently that's a bad drug and she doesn't do that, she got addicted because she did Mcat before it was made illegal! Now she's hooked

[lee_saxo]

Ask if you can snort some coke of her tits

[Bound]

Ask if you can snort some coke of her tits

Or her arse.

[Piggie]

Or her arse.

Do it of her fanny then rub it in.

Makes it go numb and feels shit hot

Joke btw

OP. You seem like you already know it aint worth it?

If its meant to be let them go and then youll see :y:

[Matty16v]

Thanks for all the advice ;) at least I have achieved something and that it's more to do with the drugs as oppose to the history.

I'll talk to her about it tonight and fill you all in tomorrow, so it may be picture time, or depression wank ;)

[DeanAngell1234]

don't let the past put you off, see how it goes, and backing some of the guys posts, if she hurts you, walk away :)

[G_Vtr123]

fuck her, sell her drugs, then tell her to do one

[saxo-parts]

if its her past then its just that, the past,over and done with. both myself and mandy have histories of partying hard and in my case, serious drug abuse but thats long since over and done with. since we got together its all come to a stop and we're 110% loyal to each other in every way.

[Graeme]

Yeah people change I just think I need to stop thinking about the past and live for now!

She's not even doing hardcore drugs from the sounds of it!

Sleeping with 45+ is normal these days, alot of people like to have fun when there young and single then settle down when there older

As for her being mates with her ex, what's the problem? Sounds like alot of people have trust issues

[saxo-parts]

the only thing that'd bother me is that i know couples who are jointly drug dependant usually have some sort of wierd bond, if one quits and the other doesn't they soon start again. has her ex given the gear up as well? if not and she still sees him, i'd be giving it a swerve tbh, its an easy scene to get dragged back into

[Giraffe]

the only thing that'd bother me is that i know couples who are jointly drug dependant usually have some sort of wierd bond, if one quits and the other doesn't they soon start again. has her ex given the gear up as well? if not and she still sees him, i'd be giving it a swerve tbh, its an easy scene to get dragged back into

She hasn't even given it up yet...

[saxo-parts]

She hasn't even given it up yet...

oh dear, then take it from me, if its anything heavy, shes about as trustworthy as a racoon with aids

[Mr_X]

I wouldnt let a past put you off, it has already happened.

Okay so 45+ people, probably 10 years of sexual activities.

That's 4-5 people a year, which isnt that usual.


However, drugs can lead to serious problems.

[MiniGibbo]

so your saying if two birds turnt up on your door step with a bag of chop youd turn them away.. get a grip dude :homme:

[Manu]

SaxP is definitely the place to ask and find out if you fancy a crackhead slut or not. Where's the poll?

Wouldn't touch with a barge pole etc...

[MiniGibbo]

SaxP is definitely the place to ask and find out if you fancy a crackhead slut or not. Where's the poll?

Wouldn't touch with a barge pole etc...

Whos to say she'd touch you brad :homme:

[slimwiltaz]

my ex gf was like this and it never botherd me at the time but when we split up i found out she had cheated now i have a wife and a a child i think back and makes me wounder why i was with her so if it was me now it would bother me just my apinon tho :D

[Viper]

4 pages and nobody has asked for a photo of the lass to base heir judgement on :S

Get a photo up and I'll tell you if you should bother

[Manu]

4 pages and nobody has asked for a photo of the lass to base heir judgement on :S



speaks volumes.

[Chr15]

4 pages and nobody has asked for a photo of the lass to base heir judgement on :S

Get a photo up and I'll tell you if you should bother

beat me to it

cunt

[motocrossjord]

A photo would deffo help us to give you an answer.

Just split up with my ex two days ago.. she had a fucked up past at only 18. Stuck with her though as i thought she could/have changed, how wrong was i! 7 months of my time wasted and money, she will never change. Once a slag, allways a slaaag. Just bang it for abit then move on imo.

[Manu]

Just bang it for abit then move on imo.

make a crackhead preggies, yeah.

[Stissy]

help her and make the ex disappear.

do this...

If it doesn't work out, then it doesn't work out. You've got nothing to lose mate

She could be a really nice girl and just needs a lad to help her sort herself out

[Yates]

Past is past, one of birds I was with was exactly same as what you have said, what's 45 people? I don't think its many now days, bird I was with didn't do drugs when we started going out, was only thing that put me off, go for it, i was with bird two years