Dilemma......

[AdamW]

What do I do.....

Not really car related but could do with advice....

I have been living in flat with my mate for past 18 months and it has come to the time where I am unhappy at the moment.

Just feels like im pouring money into an empty hole when I really could be saving the amount I pay out each month for living in a rented flat.

I pay out about 350 quid a month in total at living in a flat with my mate.

Past couple of months his missus has kind of moved in but not officaly....she is there 4 nights a week average now and it pisses me off....I have mentioned to him about this and he never gives me a decent reply to what the situation is.

Do I go back home and live with my Mum and little brother? She said I could come back but would it be a big affect from living in my own place. I get on well with my mum and she keeps my business my business...she doesnt stick her ore in at all.....fareplay:thumbup: .

I want to live a little and go on holiday and not be scraping into my overdraft to find money for a night out after forking out for bills.

Its either have a flat or a car.......But I really like driving so losing a car would be out of the question

Has anyone else moved out and then moved back in so to speak?

Adam:wink:

[Clouds_mate]

I want to get my own place but atm i want to live how i want.

Blow 300-400 on an xbox. Pay stupid ammounts car insurance, go on holiday whenever i please.

All that i couldnt do if i got my own gaff.

Everything has its ups and downs but if i was you i would move back home. Sort yourself out do what you want then think about moving out.

[saxodan]

Give your mate an ultimatum (spelling) and say she can start paying rent or im out of here.. then she will soon bugger off

If not move home.. but then suffer the insults down the pub

[hesslevtr]

id love to move out as my mam is pissing me right off and need my space but i also like having no bills and no worries

[AdamW]

Not really fussed about the insults......as I am the only one who does not live at home apart from my flatmate of course.....

So going back home would mean I had more cash to do things with my mates.

Not really all her fault......its my cash flow aswell...but she seems to want to move in...maybe I will do him a favour when I move out

[saxodan]

How old are you? And what job do you do.. if you dont mind tellin

[saunders]

Not really fussed about the insults......as I am the only one who does not live at home apart from my flatmate of course.....

So going back home would mean I had more cash to do things with my mates.

Not really all her fault......its my cash flow aswell...but she seems to want to move in...maybe I will do him a favour when I move out

Yea go for it, i was in the same situation the other year, i just didn't have enough money then xmas came and i was completly fuked. You will hate bein home, but havin extra cash is great!:thumbup:

[Clouds_mate]

id love to move out as my mam is pissing me right off and need my space but i also like having no bills and no worries


See im a bit lucky with how my house is set up, Im on the third floor of the house. At bottom of the stairs i have a lock so i have the full floor to myself.


In my room i have a stella fridge. Sky, TV, Phone and interent.

I could live in my room and never see my mum.

[James]

I wish i still lived my old man... thing's are so easy, i'd go home and save up for a bit adam. If your mates bird is moving in you know what they say, 3 is a crowd.

[hesslevtr]

See im a bit lucky with how my house is set up, Im on the third floor of the house. At bottom of the stairs i have a lock so i have the full floor to myself.


In my room i have a stella fridge. Sky, TV, Phone and interent.

I could live in my room and never see my mum.


can i move in id love that here but i have an anoying brother and my mam who just wants to know everything i do

[Clouds_mate]

i only see my mother when i walk through the door and when she makes me some food. All the other times im either locked up out of the way or out and about from the house.

All its like my own little flat in a way

[hesslevtr]

so lucky does your mam want another son

[Clouds_mate]

i hope not the old bitch lol

[hesslevtr]

i hope not the old bitch lol


shame ;)

[AdamW]

How old are you? And what job do you do.. if you dont mind tellin

Im 20....And an Architectural Technoligist......well training at mo....

No my mum is pretty cool with me....she knows what I get up to....she wasnt bothered when I was done for assault and affray.....Pow:wink:

I pratically live at my mums house anyway as I look after my little bro.....:thumbup: Moulding him into a Villa thug fan....shame he supports Arsenal

[saxodan]

Im 20....And an Architectural Technoligist......well training at mo....

No my mum is pretty cool with me....she knows what I get up to....she wasnt bothered when I was done for assault and affray.....Pow:wink:

I pratically live at my mums house anyway as I look after my little bro.....:thumbup: Moulding him into a Villa thug fan....shame he supports Arsenal


still a baby! Go home and get a free ride.. plus you sound like a great role model for the little kiddy haha

[Clouds_mate]

cracking result for the ARSEnal at the weekend

[AdamW]

Good result for Villa........Pow.....

O'Neill magic......

Good result for Boro aswell........

Think I may go home then....will have a chat with Landlord tonight and see what kind of notice I have to give

[potatopete]

When I was 19 I moved out cos I got a good job 120 miles from home. Then the job ended 2 years later, and I moved back!! And I loved all the home comforts which I had forgotten about! Ace!

[AdamW]

What kind of notice do I have to give the landlord? Any Ideas.....the landlord is my flatmates dad

[Clouds_mate]

dont think you would if your mate is still having the flat as it wont effect the landlord as long as he gets his money for the flat.


Maybe you should talk to your mate about his money situtation and if he can afford to do it hiself then if he isnt able then speak to the landlord about moving on out.....mpeople

[Chris_VTS]

haha leckie

[oz_borne]

yeah mate get out soon

get saving and then buy your own place.

i put up with my parents for 3 years to save enough to get my plpace best thing i ever did.

:A:

[Robb]

See im a bit lucky with how my house is set up, Im on the third floor of the house. At bottom of the stairs i have a lock so i have the full floor to myself.


In my room i have a stella fridge. Sky, TV, Phone and interent.

I could live in my room and never see my mum.

Same...

Apart from those awkward moments where you cross your mum on the way out....

:P


Maybe your flatmate is sorta trying to force you out by having his bird round all the time, and when you do leave she will move in?

[Ryan21]

I moved out when i was 16 years old, On my tod... and managed, moved back in at 18, moved back out at 21....

I'm now 22, Got an 110k mortgage, Saxo VTR, Insurance etc etc etc...

I manage easy, its called budgeting your dough, be lighter on the pedal....

Just cut back where u can, Stop smoking a 20 bag of weed per day and cut it back to every two days...

It soon adds up, but no matter what....i would never move back home independece is the key!!!

[Yates]

I hardly ever see my mother, im either in my room, at hers, in the garage or at a mates, i live in my room, saves alot of money, also hardly use car so money saved there, doesnt arse me living at home

move back in

[Ryan21]

Thats what id say, I have a daughter on the way so moving back is not an option, but if i was in your position i'd be straight back

Free meals
No ironing
No cleaning
no bills

But, You have to smoke out the bedroom window and a towel closing the gap at the bottom of bedroom door, specially if its green your smoking on!!!

[Clouds_mate]

But, You have to smoke out the bedroom window and a towel closing the gap at the bottom of bedroom door, specially if its green your smoking on!!!


LOL too true

[Ryan21]

You know it leckie, Many a time she's smelt it when i was a youth, and its very distinctive that green stuff....

Specially if its a little sticky.................mmmmmmm

[scook]

i would move out, wont get any better unless he splits up with his missus.

[Robb]

Leckie do you not pay your old dear anything for living at home?

[saxodan]

I live at home rent free :D: and get £25 a week for petrol of the father for getting to college.. haha loving it

[AdamW]

I do have money saved already but I dont wont to dig into that to line someone elses pockets

[Amiee]

oooh go back home hun, i would for sure :P who cares if u not going to have your own place if your mum lets you get on with what you want there isnt much problem :P

[saxodan]

You know it leckie, Many a time she's smelt it when i was a youth, and its very distinctive that green stuff....

Specially if its a little sticky.................mmmmmmm

haha my mate tried to tell his mum it was a "herbal ciggerate" wtf lol we got caught red handed

[bullit]

go back and doss for a year, see hoe it goes. when your trainings done just get your own place

[Clouds_mate]

Leckie do you not pay your old dear anything for living at home?


Yes mate 25 a week. But i get most of that back with stuff she gets me. She does all my washing ironing and cooking on demand ;)

[saxodan]

Yes mate 25 a week. But i get most of that back with stuff she gets me. She does all my washing ironing and cooking on demand ;)


WTF! Im 17 wash/dry/iron all my own clothes and cook all my own meals everyday! Lucky git

[Clouds_mate]

what can i say....;)


Shes going on holiday tomorrow so i have to defend for myself. Going to get the missus to stay everynight to look after me

[Leo]

If i was you i would move back in with ur mom for a while and enjoy having that extra cash. U may as well live at home now while ur younger cause if ur 40 years old u wont really want to... so id move back in now for a bit and enjoy the cash and save up etc etc

i live at home still and am nearly 22, aint planning on moving out until im 50 hahahahah

[bullit]

lol at leckie, when my mum went on holiday she cleaned up, washed every single item of clothing so i didnt run out and stacked the freezer up with microwave food.

[Clouds_mate]

sounds like whats going to happen here. lol

[saxodan]

sounds like whats going to happen here. lol

lol are you lot really that undomesticated!?

[Clouds_mate]

i chose to be lol

[bullit]

ive never used the washing machine, ironed but ive wash the pots maybe 3 times a year lol

[Luke]

I would move back home Adam, at the end of the day you are 20 and still got to live your life..

Time to save money, blow some when you feel like it and at least you get left alone.

It's like that at my house, I pay £80 a month. I get my ironing, cleaning and cooking done from all that. I have wireless internet in my room, TV, DVD, Hi-Fi, PS2.

Do it mate...

[bullit]

luke you need a beer fridge to finish. mine sits under the 42inch plasma haha

[Luke]

I wish I had room mate, my bedroom is full as it is..

[Clouds_mate]

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[Yates]

get all that shit alcohol out and other shit, fill it with lucozade!

im tempted to get a fridge, probs will when in the navy

i pay fuck all board and i get everything done for me!

got to learn how to use washing machine and ironing board someday tho...

[bullit]

good man, mines a wife beata one

[Luke]

Been smoking quite a lot Leckie?

[Clouds_mate]

missus, honest

[hesslevtr]

that classic colas shite

only 3 bottles of alchol and 2 are wkds im not impressed

[Clouds_mate]

Nah im hooked on that classic shit from sainsburys. Well i say that its been int he fridge for about 2month but i find it much better then proper coca cola. Doesnt leave that dirty feeling on your teeth. Everyones a winner ;)

Who needs alchol in the fridge when you can go to the pub. ;)

[hesslevtr]

i prefer the dirty feeling

yes true about pub bit shit sat by yourself though

[Clouds_mate]

my point. they are there for a backup when getting ready..