Simo
10th April 2004, 21:52
Anger management tips</font>
Everyday we are faced with problems, and usually within that day we are confronted by someone that we feel anger towards. It could be a co-worker, a sibling or maybe a perfect stranger.
When put in a compromising position, one must remember to keep his cool. If not, you can cause yourself more problems. In the work place, it is difficult to maintain sometimes because of the high level of stress already present. But in order to keep your job you must maintain a professional manor, even when you are very angry.
Counting to ten usually doesn't work, arguing back or trying to explain your side at the time of the argument doesn't work either. During an argument nothing said is ever really heard, your emotions are to high, and no matter what your going to think you right, same with the other person, which would explain the high tension.
Time outs may seem childish, but they are the only way to organize your thoughts. Walking away from the argument for ten to fifteen minutes just for some quiet to really clear your head is a healthy way to deal with your anger. It can give you the chance to think rationally, and if you have to talk to this person again you will be able to talk and listen a lot better.
Perfect stranger can really get under your skin when in a heated argument. And one always wants to get over on the other. We know this gets us no where. Don't give the other person the satisfaction by stooping to their level of annoyance. Turn around take your time off and forget them. Easier said than done. Imagery is a great way to forget about that annoying person. Picture somewhere you would rather be, someone you'd rather be with. Anything to make you relax.
A final idea for dealing with your anger is exercise, when tense with anger nothing gets that tension out faster than a work out. If available, go punch the punching bag for a while, or do a vigorous work out. If time does not permit, take a nice ten minute walk, you will be amazed how much better you feel when you return. Exercise is a great way to deal with stress, and should be a part of your everyday routine.
Everyday we are faced with problems, and usually within that day we are confronted by someone that we feel anger towards. It could be a co-worker, a sibling or maybe a perfect stranger.
When put in a compromising position, one must remember to keep his cool. If not, you can cause yourself more problems. In the work place, it is difficult to maintain sometimes because of the high level of stress already present. But in order to keep your job you must maintain a professional manor, even when you are very angry.
Counting to ten usually doesn't work, arguing back or trying to explain your side at the time of the argument doesn't work either. During an argument nothing said is ever really heard, your emotions are to high, and no matter what your going to think you right, same with the other person, which would explain the high tension.
Time outs may seem childish, but they are the only way to organize your thoughts. Walking away from the argument for ten to fifteen minutes just for some quiet to really clear your head is a healthy way to deal with your anger. It can give you the chance to think rationally, and if you have to talk to this person again you will be able to talk and listen a lot better.
Perfect stranger can really get under your skin when in a heated argument. And one always wants to get over on the other. We know this gets us no where. Don't give the other person the satisfaction by stooping to their level of annoyance. Turn around take your time off and forget them. Easier said than done. Imagery is a great way to forget about that annoying person. Picture somewhere you would rather be, someone you'd rather be with. Anything to make you relax.
A final idea for dealing with your anger is exercise, when tense with anger nothing gets that tension out faster than a work out. If available, go punch the punching bag for a while, or do a vigorous work out. If time does not permit, take a nice ten minute walk, you will be amazed how much better you feel when you return. Exercise is a great way to deal with stress, and should be a part of your everyday routine.