relationship help anyone??

[chrisni1986]

wasnt sure where to post this but anyways here goes...

not last friday but the friday before me and the gf were due to go to a family party of mine.. she wasnt able to make it due to work so i went by myself.. at this point we were fine.. that sunday she txts me sayin she doesnt think were as close anymore etc... i called to her house later that week and we talked and we seemed ok... she went over to a hen party in oxford last weekend there and now is basically sayin she thinks we should have a break and is now pretty much ignoring me and wont answer my calls or reply to my txts... shes not the kinda person to cheat and if anything happened i think she would tell me but it just seems like summit has happened and she hasnt the balls to tell me.... ive been rining her and txtin her to try and get her to talk but im not gettin anywhere.... on one hand i dont wanna keep txtin and ringin only to be ignored but at the same time i dont want her thinkin im not interested anymore... my question to you guys is what do i so???

[saxodan]

Ignore her

shes loving the attention, use it for some time to chill out, have fun with your mates etc

she will come back when shes ready or feels shes getting no attention from you

Edit- I love this sentence about being close "hat sunday she txts me sayin she doesnt think were as close anymore etc... i called to her house later that week "

[chrisni1986]

im just afraid that she'll take it that im not interested anymore and will move on... will i send her a txt to let me know when shes ready to talk?

[saxodan]

im just afraid that she'll take it that im not interested anymore and will move on... will i send her a txt to let me know when shes ready to talk?

nooooo! Shes winning then, just leave it

she will come back when shes ready or txt you

but my guess is shes cheated and feels guilty.. or met someone else

sorry dude lol

[chrisni1986]

im confused at the edit dan.. wot ya mean? yes thats what im thinkin aswell like

[saxodan]

im confused at the edit dan.. wot ya mean?

shes says "were not close"
you then write- I called her later that week... lol

[chrisni1986]

she sed that on a sunday.. i went and seen her on the wed nite as that was the earliest i could due to work commitments..

[mason001]

just leave it a while matey. she'll realise and start contacting you, just give her some space and not any attention for a while.

hope it works out for ya fella.

[benski310]

how long you bin together ?

[saxodan]

she sed that on a sunday.. i went and seen her on the wed nite as that was the earliest i could due to work commitments..

yeah but you know what I mean :wink: lol

as above ^^^

leave it for a while

all the best

Jeremy Kyle

[chrisni1986]

we've been together nearly 2 years...

[Reef]

Mate relax, take a step back for a bit, anything could have happened, relationships are funny like that, it all depends on how long you have been with her, and how much you feel for her (its obvious you feel a lot). Stop trying too hard to get in touch with her, wait for a few days or even a week, see if she texts or calls back. In the mean time keep your self occupied with friends and family.

If she doesn’t, then there’s something wrong, something which she cant face you with, in that case mate, you’re the better person and I would just start to get over her.

[Chris]

Majority of the time if a girl wants to cool things off completely straight after a holiday/nightout/party/hen do etc, that means that she has done something and feels guilty, but doesn't wanna tell you, so she uses the "We're not close" or "I think we need a break" route to cover it up.

Chris :)

[djrem]

just buy a new girlfriend.

[chrisni1986]

Majority of the time if a girl wants to cool things off completely straight after a holiday/nightout/party/hen do etc, that means that she has done something and feels guilty, but doesn't wanna tell you, so she uses the "We're not close" or "I think we need a break" route to cover it up.

Chris :)

those are my thoughts exactly chris...

[saxodan]

just buy a new girlfriend.

very nice, how much?

[benski310]

haha this could turn into "Sell your girlfriend"....lol

[Mitchell]

you were eventually gonna get cheated on anyway, they get bored easy.

these women are nothin but bad news.

thats why i let them know i aint afraid to wrap a bat round there face or run them over if they cheat, seems to work.

i have to stop spacing my words out like this.

cant help it though.

[rey]

just buy a new girlfriend.

my thoughts exactly rem :y:

[chrisni1986]

you were eventually gonna get cheated on anyway, they get bored easy.

these women are nothin but bad news.

thats why i let them know i aint afraid to wrap a bat round there face or run them over if they cheat, seems to work.

i have to stop spacing my words out like this.

cant help it though.


her dads quite a big fucker so he'd prob run over me lol

[Jaffaa]

thats why i let them know i aint afraid to wrap a bat round there face or run them over if they cheat, seems to work.

lmao.

You'd want to get woman blood all over your car?

I'd stick to the bat tbh.

[Japman]

Ignore her mate,she will come in her own time

If she doesnt then you know that she doesnt love you
If she does love you she will get back to you

[johnny_vts]

She's cheated - nail her best mate and then her sister.

[Jacko]

get over it, she has moved on so stop actin like a wet lettuce and move on yourself.

simple solution is get a new bird pronto ..preferably better lookin that the last one! problem solved and a bonus is you have a newer fitter bird to parade about with!

[Jamie]

just buy a new girlfriend.

lol.

I think you should cool it too. She knows where you are if she wants you.

If she doesnt ring or text you and it is over then it shows her true colours. Upsetting it may be but you have to draw the line sooner or later you dont want to look a mug by texting her ringing her and getting sweet fa back because shes doing her own thing so should you.

on the other hand;

If she says she wants space ect well maybe thats why she isnt texting back. She wants space, If you leave it to settle for a little while maybe she will come back to you. Clingyness when she wants space is not good im afraid.

I can see from reading you love her & she owes you an explanation.

Either way she is or isnt comming back, by showing her you can get on with it without her... just may prompt her to want you back.

If she does come back to you depending on if shes cheated or not and how much you love her it may not be such a good idea to ask for that explanation just take it as it comes.

Hope this helps a little,

Good luck!

[emalou]

give her some space, if and when shes ready she'll come back.
if not its not the end of the world. it'l be alot to let go of at first but you will get through it. just give it a while and see. good luck hun. x

[jennifer1987]

this sort of happened to me my other half wanted a break but turned out to just be that he was getting so tired from work and just needed to chill for a while i texted a lot at first then waitihng he texted me after a while and everything worked out ok 4 years later still together.
i think you should give her some time you texted her already so she know you still care, just wait for her to get in touch with you now, if she does what to be with you she will.
also don't just guess that she has cheated because chances are she propbably hasn't not if she loves you like you love her.

wish you all the best. ;)

[Steve]

wasnt sure where to post this but anyways here goes...

not last friday but the friday before me and the gf were due to go to a family party of mine.. she wasnt able to make it due to work so i went by myself.. at this point we were fine.. that sunday she txts me sayin she doesnt think were as close anymore etc... i called to her house later that week and we talked and we seemed ok... she went over to a hen party in oxford last weekend there and now is basically sayin she thinks we should have a break and is now pretty much ignoring me and wont answer my calls or reply to my txts... shes not the kinda person to cheat and if anything happened i think she would tell me but it just seems like summit has happened and she hasnt the balls to tell me.... ive been rining her and txtin her to try and get her to talk but im not gettin anywhere.... on one hand i dont wanna keep txtin and ringin only to be ignored but at the same time i dont want her thinkin im not interested anymore... my question to you guys is what do i so???

relationships suck, my girlfriend left me about a month ago for a reason i really dont understand, said i didnt make her happy anymore as i hadnt been around much (i was having family and personal problems) now she just wants to be without me, but everytime i seen her since shes always smiling and seems happy to see me :n:
Text her all time but got text saying please just stop........
Nothing you can really do mate but leave her be i am still trying to accept it! :(

[Steve]

Majority of the time if a girl wants to cool things off completely straight after a holiday/nightout/party/hen do etc, that means that she has done something and feels guilty, but doesn't wanna tell you, so she uses the "We're not close" or "I think we need a break" route to cover it up.

Chris :)

My girlfriend did this, was on night out, then pissed off on holiday a few days after leaving me :homme:
She says she doesnt care for me but misses me, am so confused and she said shes keeping busy so doesnt have to think of me.......... trying to move on its been a month nearly now!

[Graham]

i reckon shes cheated on you. or shes seeing someone else and seeing how it goes with them and if it doesnt work out she'll come back to you

[Kelly]

Tell her you will give her a few days to think then talk to her about it and see what it is you both want. It might just be that she doesn't see you enough

[platty]

fuckin women mate, do my nut in, their all the same one way or another.

tell her straight how you feel, dont brown nose, put her in her place and say that you aint waiting around if shes cant decide if she wants you. i think that she feels she has control and can mess you about to how she wants, show her who's boss and she'll realise that she has to make a decision.

[Jamie89]

Just go do some other bird, and take pictures and then send them to her phone with the caption of "Look what your missing out on" If she don't come back to you after that then just shit on her door step! :y:

[ChrisandKerry]

dude if she is saying that she has either done something or really feels like she wants to do something chances are she is playing about already get a few of your mates and go out for a good laugh dont pull the first thing you see as that will give her an excuse to end everything and if she doesnt want to if you pull she then will so fucks you up that way just give girls a rest by the time you have manage to stop thinking about it that is when you will get your answer !!

[platty]

Just go do some other bird, and take pictures and then send them to her phone with the caption of "Look what your missing out on" If she don't come back to you after that then just shit on her door step! :y:

yes, i'd definatley go back to my ex if she sent me that.

[Jamie89]

yes, i'd definatley go back to my ex if she sent me that.

What if it was her and another girl? Lesbo style! You deffo would then if the caption was "You, me and my new friend?"

[Clouds_mate]

i could say loads of bullshit that you wouldnt read or try to be funny like other people have but that doesnt really help the situtation...

Everything happens for a reason. If you finish you finish. Chin up and move on. Dont waunder about feeling sorry for yourself.

If its not ment to be.

[Rocko]

you were eventually gonna get cheated on anyway, they get bored easy.

these women are nothin but bad news.

thats why i let them know i aint afraid to wrap a bat round there face or run them over if they cheat, seems to work.

i have to stop spacing my words out like this.

cant help it though.


I know it can be hard, but dont be a gay :y:

[ChrisandKerry]

What if it was her and another girl? Lesbo style! You deffo would then if the caption was "You, me and my new friend?"

some one has seen way to many of mummy and daddies films

lmao sorry :P

[Saxy1]

i could say loads of bullshit that you wouldnt read or try to be funny like other people have but that doesnt really help the situtation...

Everything happens for a reason. If you finish you finish. Chin up and move on. Dont waunder about feeling sorry for yourself.

If its not ment to be.

well said leckie, i totally agree with you !!!

[Steve]

i could say loads of bullshit that you wouldnt read or try to be funny like other people have but that doesnt really help the situtation...

Everything happens for a reason. If you finish you finish. Chin up and move on. Dont waunder about feeling sorry for yourself.

If its not ment to be.

makes sense good advise :y:

[Barry123]

stop texting and ringing her for a start... you'll appear like stalker or mega desperate.

hold back, watch porn, go out with your mates, play playstation anything to keep your mind off things. and wait until she rings.

if the mofo dont ring, ask her straight up... 'did something happen at the hen/stag/whatever party?'

[platty]

stop texting and ringing her for a start... you'll appear like stalker or mega desperate.

hold back, watch porn, go out with your mates, play playstation anything to keep your mind off things. and wait until she rings.

if the mofo dont ring, ask her straight up... 'did something happen at the hen/stag/whatever party?'

damn right, thats how you should be, dont fuck about waisting your time ringing and txting her, even if its hard not to.

[Scooba]

Think of it this way;
Every thing happens for a reason...... so maybe its a good idea if your not with her.

And to get over her do as most of the comments before. Or you could just picture sitting on the shitter picking her nose?!?!

[Barry123]

damn right, thats how you should be, dont fuck about waisting your time ringing and txting her, even if its hard not to.

they call me Dr Lover-lover.

[Mitchell]

And to get over her do as most of the comments before. Or you could just picture sitting on the shitter picking her nose?!?!

lol works like a charm that

[boz]

SNAKES WITH TITS.

give her a few days, then say "here pet, i really need to know whats happening with us, you either want to be with me or you dont" then say you dont want to waste time sitting around the house unhappy. do this just before friday night, if she say i dont know what to do, just say, ok pet, im off out on the lash tonight then with my mates. she will be thinking about what you are up to when you are out.

she may be testing you, wanting attention etc. stuff that shit.
just dont text back, that way you win, she will be thinking why is he not texting me, then she will text you.
all the same, i told steve the same last week.

unless, she has been snaking about with someone.
if thats the case, just forget it and walk away.

lifes to short to spend time being unhappy and chasing around after people.

if she really does love you, she will be back.
if she decides not to come back, get your glad rags on and go sniffing matey ;)

all the best

[boz]

or just roast her best mate with a few of your pals ;)

[Steve]

or just roast her best mate with a few of your pals ;)

boz's advise is the best lol ;)
you missed a good meet, not this sunday but next we are having bbq at derwent if that falls through then my house it is :y: :hijack:

[boz]

i may be home then bud.
get your lasses best mate around and we will all take turns ;)

i think i will be back for a while, need to tie things up with current company and get everything sorted out with new one, medicals, visa's etc.
will hopefully get a few weeks out of it ;)

[Steve]

i may be home then bud.
get your lasses best mate around and we will all take turns ;)

i think i will be back for a while, need to tie things up with current company and get everything sorted out with new one, medicals, visa's etc.
will hopefully get a few weeks out of it ;)

nice one get some moddifying done :y:

[Leo]

accept the fact shes met someone else on the hen night and move on. dont look like a twat keep texting her. delete number and sort head out.

just a quick code transformation..

A girl says "lets have a break" = im bored of you and found somebody better, i'll say break just incase it fucks up with this new guy and then i can call you back like a little doggy

might be a bit cold advice but theres nothing worse than hearing about a lad bombing a girl whos moved on with texts etc.