Mates always telling me to ''get involved''!!
 

I'm quite a shy / quiet person and whenever i'm out with my mates, I hardly say anything. When they're having a bit of banter and laughing and joking I'm usually very quiet and find it hard to join in cos of my shyness. They're always saying I should ''liven up'' and ''get involved''. It's getting to the stage where I think some of them are starting to get slighty p*ssed off cos I don't join in with banter and stuff when we're on a night out in town. What can I do to help me improve my conversation banter / lack of joining in when I'm with my mates. Please don't suggest getting wasted cos I'm not a big drinker.

Thanks.

cocaine :y:

shag-a-slag that will un-shy you

Dont know what to say really.....as when Im out im usually the one giving the banter and get louder and louder as I get drunk.

Confidence issue.....need to just be more laid back and not care what people think of ya...

Sounds like they intimidate you imo. What kind of work do you do???

when i'm with my mates i feel comfortable so get involved and have a laugh. Maybe you don't like them as much as you think you do or they are not the same type of people you are. I like to have a laugh but some people are to over the top and I dont feel comfortable and are quiet around them.

random hair cut?

drugs?

fight a midget?

Get pissed...

i actually lol'd at that

He said He aint a big drinker...
..And just dont give a fuck what people think of you!
Make a complete arse of yourself I suppose
..Or...Take Drugs

First reply to this thread answers all tbh.

Get in a couple of fights and build your confidence, then I guarantee you'll be the one at the front of your mates giving it large! Or Drugs!!! lol

^^^^^ get in a fiew fights lol.

ok then!

Get into a few fights, get battered in all of them

Great confidence builder (sigh)

Next time they say "get involved" Just say "I'll shag yer heads" then glass them

pmsl

get new friends, they obviously arent your type of people

ok guys, please no more suggestions of fights cos this is seriously worrying me and getting me down.

Cocaine :y:

DCH - Don't cry, everything will be ok.

Is it worth speaking to a professional?

professional is required in this case i think....