UPDATE on problems 09-01-10:
After the problems with getting the starter motor yesterday with it being the wrong one i made a few phone calls today and managed to sort something out with EuroCarParts and were very happy with their service, managed to pick up the starter motor and glow plug relay from them and took them down to the garage where i used to work, got a phone call an hour later saying that they were both fitted on the car which i was dead happy with

now just got to sort out a set of glow plugs and a battery then should fingers crossed be ok (if what me and the RAC guy found were the only things wrong lol) hoping to have it back on the road on monday!