Just sell it mate, if he claims to have sent two out before but hasnt then its clear hes trying to scam you and I wouldnt trust him to send it back, you probably wont get a refund. How hard is it for him to refund you now then you send the ECU? Your the trustworthy one.
Id personally just tell him to get fucked and then sell it yourself to get your money back.
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