should i leave him(one for the girls )

[lizza]

one for the girls !!!!

so i dont get into a rant i'll keep this short ,

basically my fella of 4 years, would rather spend ALL his spare time with his mates,
i tell him hes being a selfish n*b and im going leave, he tells me that he's sorry and we'll do things together, but it never happens.

am i wasting my time.
any Advice?

[Crunkers]

Leave him and see what happens, if he does wnat to be with you, he'll come running

[Kellie102]

Leave him and see what happens, if he does wnat to be with you, he'll come running

I Agree!
Things Like This Are Always Hard!
I Suppose It Depends On How Much You Love/Like Him!

[KamRacing]

if you are not getting what you want from a relationship then why hang around in hope. People dont change unless they are forced to...

Kev

[lakey_xs]

does he know he is spending alot of time with them i know i do and treat the mrs and have nights in and out to make up and can have a month where i dont see anyone but her he migth not know how much time he realy spends with them over you

[n1ckx81]

wey i just keepin u hangin around

[exfiestagirl]

My ex was like that. If he was out with his friends it seemed that he was having the best time of his life and when he was with me the worst.
It did get so bad for us we split up.
Myabe you should take a break and say you need some time to 'think' then if he is all sorry he will come running :)

[Stefan]

Tell him your pregnant he'll soon fuck off :y: :fcuk:

[laura_g]

Play him at his own game when he wants to see you just sayin your seein your mates he will then get lonely and will realise

[L20VTS]

Ok i'm female for surely hes allowed to have mates as well? Spending all your time together could be a lot worse, maybe try actually organising doing some stuff together either just the two of you or along with his/your mates?

I wouldn't throw away 4 years over something like that if that is all that is going wrong.

[Chloeex]

Four years is a long time so try things to make your relationship work rather than just chucking it all away.
i had an ex that spent a lot of time with mates but i never really let him know until it was too late...
you two need to have a serious talk about how your feeling and maybe you two should go on a break, he might realise how much you mean to him then?

[AXracing]

Agree if your not happy dump him. There is no point hanging about with some one who makes you unhappy.

Though on the flip side you may wish to take step back and take a clear view. Often what people want is unreasonable, selfish or simply not possible. This is not to say in any way what you are after is its just something that can happen.

But if you do split up with him at least tell him why. Also if you want him to stop contacting you or whatever tell him clearly why. Don't just ignore him and hope it goes away.

[Mark51]

Leave him , sounds like a dick to me

[Bickerton]

If you arent getting what you want from a relationship (especially having discussed the issues) there's not alot of point carrying on as is probably delaying the inevital

[amy-louise]

if you were to discuss it and things change, i guarantee it will only be for a month or 2 then things will go back to how they used to be. so my advice i would leave him and see if he comes to you if he dont then well his loss

[RobVT]

Bros before hoes.

[amy-louise]

Bros before hoes.

i am guessing your single and cant get a bird

[RobVT]

i am guessing your single and cant get a birdyeah :( :( :(


actually I've been with my girlfriend 5 years last month she does her own thing i do my own and we do things together (like once every two weeks) but we live together so its different I'd rather be with my mates, she does my nut in with shit on the telly especially on E! and MTV

[johnlambert]

hang out with your mates everytime he wants to see you.
kind of a waste throwing away 4 years.
tbh i wouldn play games at all.
no point hurting each other really.

what do yous do when you do eventually hang out???
maybe hes bored?(dont mean to be brunt)
what does he do with the lads that he cant do with you?

[KINGVTS]

print this thread out, that will teach him lol

[Mr_X]

one for the girls !!!!

so i dont get into a rant i'll keep this short ,

basically my fella of 4 years, would rather spend ALL his spare time with his mates,
i tell him hes being a selfish n*b and im going leave, he tells me that he's sorry and we'll do things together, but it never happens.

am i wasting my time.
any Advice?

cant stop him seeing his friends, he is your partner not a possession.

[auds]

Do you love him, are you happy, does he make you feel good :) could you live without him, these are the questions you need to ask yourself and listen to your heart....

In a relationship you need to be able to do things together as a couple but also be your own person and have the space to do your own thing, you need to talk to him, if you feel the togetherness is not happening at all, if he truly loves you and cares he will see where you're coming from and change things........you have to think about all this as 4 years is a long time to just throw away for this reason....hope it works out for you :y:

[lizza]

print this thread out, that will teach him lol

thats a very good idea, :homme:

[lizza]

cant stop him seeing his friends, he is your partner not a possession.



yeah i get that, im not asking him to stop seeing his friends, im asking him to get the balance right, you know,

time with your friends, time for your partner.

[lizza]

Do you love him, are you happy, does he make you feel good :) could you live without him, these are the questions you need to ask yourself and listen to your heart....

In a relationship you need to be able to do things together as a couple but also be your own person and have the space to do your own thing, you need to talk to him, if you feel the togetherness is not happening at all, if he truly loves you and cares he will see where you're coming from and change things........you have to think about all this as 4 years is a long time to just throw away for this reason....hope it works out for you :y:

:y::y: thanks for that,
spoke him last night,
he agreed, told him i was going move out, (didnt go down well),
after agreeing i'd give him Another chance prove he loves me( chance number 100).
but i kinda shot myself in the foot and said, ok but seprate beds.. what the hell was i thinking :wall::wall: lol

[jw1325]

seems to me like you and him are just together because ints comfertable, and sticking to what you know.

try to be less worried about it, leave him too it see your mates.

if that dont work, or make things better then you shouldnt be together

[hellonpluto]

I do one night a week for mates night. basically get completely rat arsed.

[Viper]

have a similar situation with my flatmate, only its the other way round. Hes always with the mrs and never does anything with us. Cock. Just have a word with your lad, he might not realise you feel neglected

[Pixie]

Leave Him!!!

I left my Ex after 6 years cause he was a kn*b best thing i ever did!
Found The love of my life now, thought it was the end of the world at the time but it wasn't :)

x

[SnaRe]

cant stop him seeing his friends, he is your partner not a possession.

Somehow I just think you took a half hearted skim across her post and couldn't be arsed.

She's saying how he spends ALL his time with his friends and practically none with her. Like written by her in a few posts above a healthy relationship consists of balance, and other things too. If the guy can't see that and wont bother trying to change there's no point in being with him.

You've got a lot of useful answers on here, minus some. What you do with them can only determine the outcome. Good luck with it :)

[Ste]

He doesn't spend time with you because he doesn't want to, he'd rather be with his mates.

Find a man who wants to be with you. Not one whos forced to be with you.

The decision has already been made you just don't know it yet.

[super_cds]

Order this and surprise him, in his sleep!

http://www.bondara.co.uk/data/images/4578/large.jpg

[D--R--E--W]

Leave him, pm me! ;)

[Matty_Mills]

If your seeking relationship advice on a Citroen Saxo forum.... the relationnship is beyong dead in my opinion.

Leave him...


steal your nans boyfriend....

[vtrsarah]

ffs not this relationship balls again does no one have friends too talk this sort of stuff through with

[vtrsarah]

If your seeking relationship advice on a Citroen Saxo forum.... the relationnship is beyong dead in my opinion.

Leave him...


steal your nans boyfriend....

rofl you mad head

[D--R--E--W]

ffs not this relationship balls again does no one have friends too talk this sort of stuff through with

bit harsh tbh

[Matty_Mills]

Worked for THIS (http://www.saxperience.com/forum/showthread.php?t=296276) chika

Did i miss seeing a photo of you last week Sarah???!!?!!??!?!?!??1ones

[Boosted]

Leave him, pm me! ;)

lol classic one

[Paul]

#3 i spy gash.

[vtrsarah]

Worked for THIS (http://www.saxperience.com/forum/showthread.php?t=296276) chika

[COLOR="White"]Did i miss seeing a photo of you last week Sarah???!!?!!??!?!?!??1ones

no you didnt i did not post one :wall:

[skeltan]

Maybe she is posting it on here because it is funny to see all the Comments from us lol

IMO.. Give him 2 options, change or split.

[D--R--E--W]

I seen pics, no bad tbh

[vtrsarah]

I seen pics, no bad tbh

pics of what?

[Matty_Mills]

pics of what?

Telling lies Sarah.

PM is your friend ;)

I joke.

Here is a pic of me >>> :afro:

[vtrsarah]

Telling lies Sarah.

PM is your friend ;)

I joke.

Here is a pic of me >>> :afro:

rofl nice hair ha ha ;)

[D--R--E--W]

pics of what?

you...

[vtrsarah]

you...

how????? my god that thread has been nothing but a headache :wall:

[Matty_Mills]

rofl nice hair ha ha ;)

It is actually pretty similar to that...
I don't lie!

[vtrsarah]

It is actually pretty similar to that...
I don't lie!

i saw your pic on that flipping thread you do have lush hair tbh :hug:

[Matty_Mills]

i saw your pic on that flipping thread you do have lush hair tbh :hug:

I like it because it's different....

i hate it because its a nightmare!!!!

its a love hate relationship

[Tony]

It's easy for people to say just leave him from a keyboard.

I'd at least give it one more go at trying to make your point before considering splitting. Highlight how serious you are about things changing.

#3 i spy gash.

Bwha ha ha ha ha.

Convoy to Oxfordshire...

"Welcome to the SEx section" :D

[D--R--E--W]

how????? my god that thread has been nothing but a headache :wall:

facebook pics ;) dont know why you never posted a pic....pretty fit

[vtrsarah]

facebook pics ;) dont know why you never posted a pic....pretty fit

thanks lol :oops:but i didnt know you was on my facefook :geek:

[D--R--E--W]

I wasnt, someone on here was. I merely requested a pic through a PM in a totally non creepy way

[vtrsarah]

I wasnt, someone on here was. I merely requested a pic through a PM in a totally non creepy way

:panic: huh who so i can delete them???????????

[Tony]

:hijack:

Reason: Drew fapping :D

[benzo]

drew is pedobear.....

[D--R--E--W]

drew is pedobear.....

in human form.... but sarah has a car and license so aint no pedo material here

Sarah I cant honestly remember who it was but it was just a pic of you on holiday lol

[vtrsarah]

in human form.... but sarah has a car and license so aint no pedo material here

Sarah I cant honestly remember who it was but it was just a pic of you on holiday lol

right im deleting all sax-p friends :wall: lol nope not paedo material too old ;)

[D--R--E--W]

Wow, taking it serious lol

[vtrsarah]

yup had my i.d stolen so vy funny about privacy

[Viper]

ill sell it back to you for £50

[vtrsarah]

ill sell it back to you for £50

not worth that much ;)

[Slammed_Posi_Vtr]

What a load of spamming crap

OP: Just tell him to dedicate a bit more time to you or gtfo, by the looks of your avatar you could probably find yourself a decent bloke easy enough

[Matty_Mills]

What a load of spamming crap

OP: Just tell him to dedicate a bit more time to you or gtfo, by the looks of your avatar you could probably find yourself a decent bloke easy enough

Unless she's a cunt....?


(I'm not saying you are Lizzy....)

[lizza]

ffs not this relationship balls again does no one have friends too talk this sort of stuff through with

of course i have friends, but most them are blokes and well no good with relationship issues. our convo's usually revolve around cars.

[lizza]

Unless she's a cunt....?


(I'm not saying you are Lizzy....)

^^^^ that actually made me laugh. :y: lol

[Matty_Mills]

^^^^ that actually made me laugh. :y: lol

Thats what i was aiming for...

after i posted it, i was worried you might take it the wrong way haha..

Also, did you mean above that your bloke gets funny about you having male friends??

[lizza]

Thats what i was aiming for...

after i posted it, i was worried you might take it the wrong way haha..

Also, did you mean above that your bloke gets funny about you having male friends??

i dont offend easily,

no not really, it stops me boring him with car talk as he ant got a clue what im about. and he knew before we got together that most my mates were blokes.

[Matty_Mills]

Ah i see.. i missunderstood (how the hell do you spell that?!)

x

[dinga]

you're a doormatt to him.he hasnt and wont change his ways.sounds like you put up with being a doormatt for four years allready.its not a question for anyone but yourself.are you prepared to be a doormatt the rest of you're life ? If yes then stay.
love is just an agreement between two fools.

[lizza]

you're a doormatt to him.he hasnt and wont change his ways.sounds like you put up with being a doormatt for four years allready.its not a question for anyone but yourself.are you prepared to be a doormatt the rest of you're life ? If yes then stay.
love is just an agreement between two fools.

a doormat is someone who cooks for him,cleans his clothes,picks up after him, wipes his ass when hes had a shit, runs round like his joey, jumps at his every demand...

trust me, i ant no door-mat.

i have a life of my own, and so dos he,

im simply asking am i wasting my time trying to get him to spend time with his girlfriend, once in a while.


example.... off to scotland in 3 weeks to see my family/friends, asked him if he wanted to come.. reply " no" ( thats because he's scared of the place think he watched to much police,camera action)

example... im off alton towers in june... asked him if he wanted to come, "no you go with your mates,i dont like roller coasters",

... YOU SEE MY POINT..????

[Paul]

Seems like you dont have much in common?

[dinga]

maybe he cant be bothered with you,maybe you talk too much !
Perhaps you have to ask yourself why he dont want to spend any time with you ? But the best person to ask would be your other half !

[Paul]

Sit him down and talk to him.

[saxo-Richie]

A bloke that doesnt like cars? Hm...

Better still... a woman that likes cars? Fancy a trip up north? ;)

[Matty_Mills]

maybe he cant be bothered with you,maybe you talk too much !
Perhaps you have to ask yourself why he dont want to spend any time with you ? But the best person to ask would be your other half !

weiner

[VTR-Chris]

well i like cars an i lve alton towers so fk him off an come up deeside....lol

[BenMc]

not bein funny but i find that when im with my mates having a laugh i spend a lot less money e.g go to the union or something £5 or if we go out in the cars £10 but if i go out with my lass its like £30 when you end up going to like the pictures coz of drinks n all that its a piss take n all you lasses just give it u do loads with your mates all the time but never me......U COST A BOMB!! lmaooo i hope this settles it for you

[bullit]

a doormat is someone who cooks for him,cleans his clothes,picks up after him, wipes his ass when hes had a shit, runs round like his joey, jumps at his every demand...

trust me, i ant no door-mat.

i have a life of my own, and so dos he,

im simply asking am i wasting my time trying to get him to spend time with his girlfriend, once in a while.


example.... off to scotland in 3 weeks to see my family/friends, asked him if he wanted to come.. reply " no" ( thats because he's scared of the place think he watched to much police,camera action)

example... im off alton towers in june... asked him if he wanted to come, "no you go with your mates,i dont like roller coasters",

... YOU SEE MY POINT..????

hes just like that or just not that bothered. i was like that when i was younger. id rather go out on the piss than go out with the girlfriend, doesnt mean he doesnt love you though. you obviously just want more which is why you have to weigh it up and decide.

god im good

[lizza]

well i like cars an i lve alton towers so fk him off an come up deeside....lol

deeside mmmm. thats not that far, i might take you up on that LOL :hug::p

[lizza]

not bein funny but i find that when im with my mates having a laugh i spend a lot less money e.g go to the union or something £5 or if we go out in the cars £10 but if i go out with my lass its like £30 when you end up going to like the pictures coz of drinks n all that its a piss take n all you lasses just give it u do loads with your mates all the time but never me......U COST A BOMB!! lmaooo i hope this settles it for you

i can see your point,
but last week we had a chinnese and I PAID... so it dosnt aways go like that dos it

[lizza]

hes just like that or just not that bothered. i was like that when i was younger. id rather go out on the piss than go out with the girlfriend, doesnt mean he doesnt love you though. you obviously just want more which is why you have to weigh it up and decide.

god im good

yes you are LMAO !!!

[VTR-Chris]

deeside mmmm. thats not that far, i might take you up on that LOL :hug::p

hahaha :y:

[Saxguy]

leave him and c what happends

[XStephyX]

when ever my boy.f isn't too nice to me i just don't talk to him he soon comes back like im sorry don't fall out with me i don't mean it. but maybe if you went on a break he would realised what hes missing. mine did he dumped me saying he just wanted to be with his mates. but after a week he was begging fo me to go back i made him wait about 2months tho.

[lizza]

when ever my boy.f isn't too nice to me i just don't talk to him he soon comes back like im sorry don't fall out with me i don't mean it. but maybe if you went on a break he would realised what hes missing. mine did he dumped me saying he just wanted to be with his mates. but after a week he was begging fo me to go back i made him wait about 2months tho.

I LIKE YOUR STYLE.:y:

[Matty_Mills]

Out of interest... how old are you Lizzard?
x

[lizza]

Out of interest... how old are you Lizzard?
x

im 26.

<<<<< and my pic needs changing as i had my hair cut/dyed a month ago. lol

[Matty_Mills]

im 26.

<<<<< and my pic needs changing as i had my hair cut/dyed a month ago. lol

At only 26.... you don't need to stick with the same bloke for good.
Unless you love him... then this is a no brainer?

I dunno....

[deano-brfc]

I do one night a week for mates night. basically get completely rat arsed.

Fucking right!

Nah i don't keep it to just the one, just once every couple of evenings when the Mrs is at work etc, but we do see eachother every day. (im 19 so we dont live together just yet!) Been together nearly a year and I can honestly say I love her to bits, but when things happen like with you, like she puts mates first etc or pisses me off, just take a step back and think what its really like for you; step into someone elses shoes to look at how it really is for you. Sounds like 4 years is too long to just throw away? By the way, I do have to say that is dickish to spend ALL his time with the mates!

[lizza]

Fucking right!

Nah i don't keep it to just the one, just once every couple of evenings when the Mrs is at work etc, but we do see eachother every day. (im 19 so we dont live together just yet!) Been together nearly a year and I can honestly say I love her to bits, but when things happen like with you, like she puts mates first etc or pisses me off, just take a step back and think what its really like for you; step into someone elses shoes to look at how it really is for you. Sounds like 4 years is too long to just throw away? By the way, I do have to say that is dickish to spend ALL his time with the mates!

:y: and that from a bloke,
i spent last week playing him at his own game ( stupid i know, but i spent all my spare time in the garage doing things to my car and my mates), he did come down one night for like hour, confused his brain with car talk and fucked off out. come the sunday night he was begging me not to go down the garage and have night off to spend with him.
and this week hes been up my arse all week.
so giving him a taste of his own has kinda paid off, or it seems be for now.

we'll just see how it gos.

[saxo-Richie]

Good for you lass!

As they say absense makes the heart grow fonder or some thing to that effect anyway?

[Matty_Mills]

:y: and that from a bloke,
i spent last week playing him at his own game ( stupid i know, but i spent all my spare time in the garage doing things to my car and my mates), he did come down one night for like hour, confused his brain with car talk and fucked off out. come the sunday night he was begging me not to go down the garage and have night off to spend with him.
and this week hes been up my arse all week.
so giving him a taste of his own has kinda paid off, or it seems be for now.

we'll just see how it gos.

What kind of things...?

[saxo-Richie]

What kind of things...?

PICS! or VIDS!

[bullit]

:y: and that from a bloke,
i spent last week playing him at his own game ( stupid i know, but i spent all my spare time in the garage doing things to my car and my mates), he did come down one night for like hour, confused his brain with car talk and fucked off out. come the sunday night he was begging me not to go down the garage and have night off to spend with him.
and this week hes been up my arse all week.
so giving him a taste of his own has kinda paid off, or it seems be for now.

we'll just see how it gos.

he prob not even playing a game. hes just happy and ignorant. theres no point playing games, just tell him lol

[adamm]

when ever my boy.f isn't too nice to me i just don't talk to him he soon comes back like im sorry don't fall out with me i don't mean it. but maybe if you went on a break he would realised what hes missing. mine did he dumped me saying he just wanted to be with his mates. but after a week he was begging fo me to go back i made him wait about 2months tho.


your bf sounds well and truly whipped lol

[vtrsarah]

Has she made her mind up yet

[adamm]

sounds like shes playing the game bk which wont get them anywhere it will only end up back how it was. i think you need someone more up for staying in with you not going out with his mates

[vtrsarah]

Playing games ffs why bother

[adamm]

love makes people do alsorts of stupid things imature especially shame really but thats how it is in most relationships at somepoint :(

[gazwhittle]

see my sig it usualy applies to the lads on here and thats the reason he cant be arsed with you.

onist opinion jeremy kyle :)

[quiksilva]

dont play games, thats the worst thing couples do, tit for tat tactics rarely work, mostly causes more downtime being spent with other people than the partner, sounds to me like you both need reminding of why your together, sit down have a really frank and honest open chat, either things will change or they wont but atleast by speaking and being honest you can both get your points accross and work at getting things back on track.. my five pence!! good luck..

[adamm]

see my sig it usualy applies to the lads on here and thats the reason he cant be arsed with you.

onist opinion jeremy kyle :)

haha too true must be fukd to ask on sax-p