Facebook is a r'ship breaker ....

[x_steph_vts_x]

Any1 got Facebook and in a relationship ???
C'mon you've bound to of had an argument over it once or twice or like me ALOT !! .. lol ...

Me and my bf argued loads and there was just hardly any trust there with it so ive deleted it .. It also was a bit too adictive and everything these days seems to involve facebook !!

What did we used to do be4 facebook came along ?? Hummm I spose it was msn ..

Who else thinks its a bit of a r'ship recker ?? .. Whos addicted ?? or who just doesnt bother with it at all ??

[Barber90]

It certainly does cause a shit load of trouble. Particularly among jealous types- i'd imagine it goes like this:

-Oh look my girlfriend has been tagged in an album! Must have been from when she went out last night...let's see what it was like...*click*
-.........
-.........
-WTF IS THAT GUY DOING WITH HIS ARM ROUND HER?! *Calls gf*
*Massive argument*

Good times.

[x_steph_vts_x]

Miine was normally
"whos that lad thats added you??"

And "block ur ex bf"

[J222JRA]

I actually met my girlfriend on facebook.......we are secure people who trust each other so never have any issues.

[Moke]

I actually met my girlfriend on facebook.......we are secure people who trust each other so never have any issues.

+1 to that :D

Yeah, we've had arguements, but not over something or someone on Facebook.

[Gary-VTR]

+1 to that :D

Yeah, we've had arguements, but not over something or someone on Facebook.

Eeeexactly. Having an argument/breaking up over Facebook is so petty.

[bald24]

I've argued over Facebook, and then thought fuck it, and spoke face to face about it :y:

[x_steph_vts_x]

Yess it is quite pathetic really ...

[PETE-VTR]

I don't see the big wow factor with facebook tbh, what happend to everyone going to the pub and having a laugh? These days every uses the internet to socialize

[brianS]

what did we used to do before facebook?

go out and live in the real world id imagine.

as for arguing over it.... no chance, 2 people that are mature and secure in a relationship shouldnt and wouldnt argue over something so petty

[nufcsteve]

this is so true. Facebook ruins relationships, friendships and causes countless arguements. It stops people socialising in person. ITS BAD but i still use it????? ADDICTIVE MUCH

[x_steph_vts_x]

this is so true. Facebook ruins relationships, friendships and causes countless arguements. It stops people socialising in person. ITS BAD but i still use it????? ADDICTIVE MUCH

Much agreeed !!! It causes so much mayhem but we stilll use it lol

[nufcsteve]

Much agreeed !!! It causes so much mayhem but we stilll use it lol

So much shit is caused on it, theres not a day goes by wen u dont see, be involved or cause an arguement for one reason or another. Its to easy to give ur opinion in a virtual world than it is to sumones face and ppl get carried away. ESPESH with flirting (this is y relationships go to hell). :wall:

[Giraffe]

Facebook isn't the problem, it's the people who use it, and their attitudes in life in general. In your case, it's not Facebook, it's your lack of trust for each other.

In terms of socialising, it's not Facebook, it's a useful medium to keep in touch and organise things, but it's up to the people who use it to know when enough is enough and actually make an effort to SEE people.

[nufcsteve]

Facebook isn't the problem, it's the people who use it, and their attitudes in life in general. In your case, it's not Facebook, it's your lack of trust for each other.

In terms of socialising, it's not Facebook, it's a useful medium to keep in touch and organise things, but it's up to the people who use it to know when enough is enough and actually make an effort to SEE people.

Mate i totally disagree, people dont behave like they do on facebook in person. the internet influences eveyrone, i think the key is confidence aswell

[Giraffe]

Mate i totally disagree, people dont behave like they do on facebook in person. the internet influences eveyrone, i think the key is confidence aswell

Yeah but without the internet, it would be up to that person to get confident. It's not the internets fault that people take a fake sense of confidence from it, it's the irresponsibility of the user, thinking they can be someone they aren't. I agree that the internet makes it possible, but knives make it possible to stab people, but they aren't to blame for stabbings, are they?

[gaz_vtr_]

*cogh BEBO cogh* lol i'm in a relationship I rarely ever look on my gf profile only if she tags me in photos cus the way I look at it is if someone is goin to cheet or whatever there's fuck all u can do about it and yo will eventually find owt if they have annyway.

[nufcsteve]

Yeah but without the internet, it would be up to that person to get confident. It's not the internets fault that people take a fake sense of confidence from it, it's the irresponsibility of the user, thinking they can be someone they aren't. I agree that the internet makes it possible, but knives make it possible to stab people, but they aren't to blame for stabbings, are they?

I get your point, but in regards to relationship problems, the slightest comment can cause a loved one to take it the rong way and bang, arguements

[endlesstimes]

CBA to read all the above posts so i will just give you my "10 pence" worth....

I think if you look @ FB or MSN or Twitter or anything other social networking sites as a "relationship breaker" i think you must have some issues with trust in your relationship if the use of facebook could cause your relationship to "break".

BUT i do agree it can and does cause people arguements for a number of different reasons.

Hope that helps, although im not 100% sure what you are hoping to get out of posting this thread? im guessing you just want to gather opinions? ;)

[rey]

I trust my other half, she trusts me.

There isnt an issue.

IMO there's problems with a relationship if you argue about stuff on facebook.

[Giraffe]

I get your point, but in regards to relationship problems, the slightest comment can cause a loved one to take it the rong way and bang, arguements

That can happen anywhere though, driving along, eyes on a hottie out for a jog, instead of the road, gf is like wtf you looking at etc. Happens everywhere lol, not just good old facebook and the internets.

[x_steph_vts_x]

CBA to read all the above posts so i will just give you my "10 pence" worth....

I think if you look @ FB or MSN or Twitter or anything other social networking sites as a "relationship breaker" i think you must have some issues with trust in your relationship if the use of facebook could cause your relationship to "break".

BUT i do agree it can and does cause people arguements for a number of different reasons.

Hope that helps, although im not 100% sure what you are hoping to get out of posting this thread? im guessing you just want to gather opinions? ;)

Yeah just generally want to see what other people think, and to see if im not the only one who has this trust problem with facebook lol

[endlesstimes]

Yeah just generally want to see what other people think, and to see if im not the only one who has this trust problem with facebook lol

OK - "trust problem with facebook" or trust problem with each other? ;)

[Toms112]

Nope never had a problem with it. Been with my girlfriend over two years now and its never come up in an argument and I add girls here there and everywhere.

[x_steph_vts_x]

Haha you do like pointing these things out don't you ??
Welll i suppose with eachother but facebook is still too adictive

[endlesstimes]

Haha you do like pointing these things out don't you ??
Welll i suppose with eachother but facebook is still too adictive

lol. I'm just trying to add value to your thread - i thought you where looking for useful posts? not just people sympathising and agreeing with you because they think you look attractive in your display pic ;) lol oh and TRUST and ADDICTION you seem to have two problems then missy!

[Colin]

My ex just constantly added blokes and blokes added her, they exchanged numbers and they met up all the time.

Mint. I didnt even have FB at that time! So I was clueless.

And I let it happen? What a twat I was!

Yes I did dump her numerous times and been through hell and back the last 2 years.

[AdamB]

good old facebook, its just causes hassle, if you let it too.

[Giraffe]

My ex just constantly added blokes and blokes added her, they exchanged numbers and they met up all the time.

Mint. I didnt even have FB at that time! So I was clueless.

And I let it happen? What a twat I was!

Yes I did dump her numerous times and been through hell and back the last 2 years.

That's raw. Should have dumped her on her head mate, sounds like she needed it!

Problems not facebook though still, just someone taking advantage isn't it.

[nufcsteve]

your all rong. Facebook causes problems full stop. HA

[Colin]

True, its the user tbh. Now im single and stuff its fun some days, sometimes it quite boring lol.

[taitypot106]

ive never had a problem with my lass and facebook. but when it comes to some bitch being an arse about my lass over facebook to other people, thats when i have had a problem with it, especially considering she was meant to be a friend, and she doesnt shut the f*** up. i just hate bitchy people on facebook. rant over

[nufcsteve]

i like this thread haha

[paulydixon]

I've deleted my facebook, because i'm a grown up :)

[Colin]

I've deleted my facebook, because i'm a grown up :)

Best answer ever :clapping:

[nufcsteve]

haha my mam uses facebook.... shes 53

[Mochachino]

I've deleted my facebook, because i'm a grown up :)

lol, loads of poeple have facebook not just young poeple, loads of poeple in their 30's have it, its a good way to keep in contact with friends from older days etc. My mum has it and shes almost 60 and uses it to keep in contact with her friends.

Its like saying, i dont email, i send letters because im a grown up. Or i dont text i make phone calls becouse im a grown up.

[paulydixon]

Exactly my point.

It was intended as a tool for college co-eds to use, but once your mother ads you, well, it's time to move on really.

Fuck facebook

Fuck twitter

Fuck them all!

[Mochachino]

Facebook has connections with the US goveerment and possibly UK i cant rmember now as a way to keep tracks on poeple etc, its just a public database that we enter ourselfs into.

[Giraffe]

Exactly my point.

It was intended as a tool for college co-eds to use, but once your mother ads you, well, it's time to move on really.

Fuck facebook

Fuck twitter

Fuck them all!

Reminded me of Pokemon. You are like Ash, cept it's your quest to fuck off all the social networking sites. Nice one.

[paulydixon]

lol, loads of poeple have facebook not just young poeple, loads of poeple in their 30's have it, its a good way to keep in contact with friends from older days etc. My mum has it and shes almost 60 and uses it to keep in contact with her friends.

Its like saying, i dont email, i send letters because im a grown up. Or i dont text i make phone calls becouse im a grown up.

If they were really your friends, you'd see them in real life.

It's become a competition, a mere projection of what you want people to think of you. An electronic advertisement of how popular you are. In short, it's horse-shit! lol

[MarkyG]

If you trust your other half enough then you will find the website is jsut a website, not a relationship breaker. People do need to get out more. Its only a social networking site, not real life.

If people argue over the content of their facebook with their other half, then surely that indicates no trust or petty argument starting!

[Mochachino]

If they were really your friends, you'd see them in real life.

It's become a competition, a mere projection of what you want people to think of you. An electronic advertisement of how popular you are. In short, it's horse-shit! lol

Well ive got friends in spain and austrailia, and with alot going to uni all over the place i dont see them in person all the time!

I dont like portray myself as anything else on it or want poeple to think a certain way about me from what info i put on there...as i have no info entered at all, its just pics and conversations!

Then you got poeple who have met their other half through facebook, young and old. Its a dating site too you know lol

[paulydixon]

I concour. Sometimes i wonder if people would post the things they do on there if they weren't deluded into thinking others actually gave a shit.

I also get physically repulsed by people who call it facey

*shudder*

[Mochachino]

Never heard it called facey, gonna have to start using that.

[taitypot106]

people i know call it facey b, fuckin tools

[Mochachino]

even better. I cant live without facey b, i feel like im missin out on somthing. Like my phone...i cant not have it by my side or go out without it. With facey b i have to have it n check most days lol

[paulydixon]

I remember walking into the new flagship Apple store on it's openning weekender in Eldon Square. I kid you not it was packed with kids, all of them on facebook. I just didn't get it.

[Cal]

Facebook is as shit or as good as your friends list...

[paulydixon]

You strike me as a 1000+ kinda guy?

[Cal]

You strike me as a 1000+ kinda guy?Haha, nah... I doubt many know 1000 people. Mines 500ish and that's too much, need to trim the excess windowlickers :homme:

[taitypot106]

i went to france a couple weeks back, and at newcastle airport there was loads japanese guys on facebook on the pay by minute computers or whatever lol, all in a line. sad

[paulydixon]

Phew, I've got nothing but scorn for 1000+ 'ers lol. They strike me as the kind of people who need social acceptance, or they wither and die :)

[paulydixon]

i went to france a couple weeks back, and at newcastle airport there was loads japanese guys on facebook on the pay by minute computers or whatever lol, all in a line. sad

Word.

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[Cal]

Aye... those end up being deleted. Along with twats that send me silly invitations, have shite status' 5x daily, have a go at individuals over their global status etc etc.

[Pixie]

+1 to that :D

Yeah, we've had arguements, but not over something or someone on Facebook.

Never argued over FB, Infact i've only had 1 argument with current bf :) :y:

[hard_corejoeboy]

Im in the army and we all call it 'smashbook' or 'facepest' or 'pestbook' the list goes on. To be fair it seems more like a place to look at and pest on birds lol

[karlh944]

tbh facebook is what u make it.

[craig180]

All I get is "who's she?, who's she?, who's she?"

My usual response is so and sop from wherever which is usually followed by "silly slapper" lol

Cant beat jelous wives :p

[Carlvtr88]

msn used to pea me off, Now facebook came along and done the same.

[bullit]

I've deleted my facebook, because i'm a grown up :)

can i have y0ur children

[Rotax73]

Met the ex on facebook through a friend, happiest time of my life... Then she cheated on me...... FFFFF UUUUU facebook! Causes nothing but hassle!

[Mark51]

never had an arguement with m y gf, of 7 years, over facebook. infact we don't argue over anything

[x_steph_vts_x]

Yeah Facebook is good for communicating with people across the world and catching up with old friends from school etc ....
But all it ever is, is 'hello .... u ok ... wubu2 ?? ' and then they don't really bother talking ... Same with people you maybe still see ' hello .. u ok .. bla bla bla ' !!
Everywhere I go I hear the word 'Facebook'
It just gets addictive ...

I've deleted mine now and I must admit me and my bf have not argued once, I find myself getting ready early during the day (as i used to get up and sit on facebook) ... And going out and actually socialisng with people ..

[VTRelite]

If you break up over something on facebook then there is clearly no trust in the realtionship

[eewun]

I trust my other half, she trusts me.

There isnt an issue.

Same

IMO there's problems with a relationship if you argue about stuff on facebook.

Agreed!

[Pimpflatarch]

Facebook FTW! ;)

[shayne_vtr]

no offence but ive been through this and the next argument will be 'why havent you deleted your facebook' ' well i didnt make u delete yours'

[Bound]

I wouldn't say breaker, more, complicater, argument starter. Stirrer.

what did we used to do before facebook?

go out and live in the real world id imagine.

as for arguing over it.... no chance, 2 people that are mature and secure in a relationship shouldnt and wouldnt argue over something so petty

Agree if you break up over facebook things (most), you're relationship wasn't very strong, not to say it wasn't good, but not strong.

[Richy_Rich]

I agree that facebook is a r'ship breaker!

Just broke up with my gf after having a row, and her status miraculously changing to 'single' after her not being online??

ffs

[BambiHan]

it's not fb as a whole which causes probs, more the stupid chat thing on it...

[Bound]

Say what you like about it though, you see some cracking shit on there.

Nothing comes close for gossip really.

Who the fuck wants heat/closer when you get 'real' shit on your facebook. Much more interesting.

Always fun to mess with people on there too, endless. And brilliant for keeping in touch with people ofc.

[Netsky1991]

I had facebook for a while but ended up deleting it because i was fed up of seeing the same things every day by the same people every day, e.g. 'cbf with school tomorrow', 'can't wait for cinema tonight'. Plus i have loads of time to do other things more productive now and still go out with my mates just as much, probably even more tbh.

[hellovts]

i think it is..

used to check the ex's facebook when we were together regularly and never found anything... but didnt mention anything to her

later on in the eveing watching eastenders with her for some reason she said do u check my fb everyday? i said no... no need to... i know you check mine everyday and she said how do u know?

shows facebook really is evil when it comes to relationships... she even after we broke up kept a eye on my fb until i removed her as a friend and stopped all contact.

if i get into another relationship which is very unlikely... i should think that i wont put who im in a relationship with (if you know what i mean) just in a relationship and will refrain from using it... saves hassle really. :y:

[RichM]

All I get is "who's she?, who's she?, who's she?"

My usual response is so and sop from wherever which is usually followed by "silly slapper" lol

Cant beat jelous wives :p

I get that all the time lol

[x_steph_vts_x]

I Lovve readin other peoples opinions on this thread

[AdamB]

single ftw, its a fact

[Hazmanscoop]

We dont argue about anything tbh :)

FB doesnt bother me tbh

[Sunshine]

Don't have any issues with it, me and my boyfriend trust each other and understand that it is just a website. If he didn't like me using it, I'd delete it, simple as. Some people are so jealous, they've gotta be such shit relationships to be bothered about an internet site.

[Hazmanscoop]

Don't have any issues with it, me and my boyfriend trust each other and understand that it is just a website. If he didn't like me using it, I'd delete it, simple as. Some people are so jealous, they've gotta be such shit relationships to be bothered about an internet site.

+1 :clapping:

[Tringaling]

People talk to much these days, they dont know the situation yet they continue to spread stuff its the way society is these days!

I miss the days where you would all meet somewhere and waste days away, or knock for people instead of facebooking, twittering and texting! Those were DEFO the days..

Facebook does definately have an impact on people...i remember seeing my ex sitting on a boys lap, asked her about anything that happened, so it was good in some sense..her excuse i was drunk LOL :)

[babyhayley]

Im always on facebook, but only to catch up on the latest gossip and it deffiantley does not cause problems between me and my bf. We trust each other. End off.

[jw1325]

my bf aint on it. which means i can moan about him as much as he wants. and alos post pictures on it of him sleeping without him knowing muhahahaha...but saving that for when i pissed off

[Tringaling]

Im always on facebook, but only to catch up on the latest gossip and it deffiantley does not cause problems between me and my bf. We trust each other. End off.

I trusted my gf once...look where it got me ;)

Maybe i will delete facebook, its only good for finding old mates, kinda like Friends Re-United but better..with "Lover Of The Day" LOL:homme:

[daz_zz_er]

yeap ive argued loads on facebook and its ruined many friendships :(

[x_steph_vts_x]

my bf aint on it. which means i can moan about him as much as he wants. and alos post pictures on it of him sleeping without him knowing muhahahaha...but saving that for when i pissed off

lol :y:

[vtrsarah]

Fb isnt a relationship breaker petty jealous thick people are

[luke1988]

Fb isnt a relationship breaker petty jealous thick people are

+1!! On facebook all the time, nobody gets jealous, nobody argues...at the end of the day, it's just the Internet. True thoughts and feelings should be said face to face

[saxo_tom1234]

Id just be happy with a gf atm :'(

[jono83]

Lol me too...

[Jarhead]

Its caused arguments between me and my GF before.

I just dont go on it anymore. Neither does she really. Not worth it.

[x_steph_vts_x]

Id just be happy with a gf atm :'(

Lol me too...

Awwwww blesss

[Mr_X]

anyone watching southpark. quite funny tbh.


small clip

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