Guys opinions

[Dannii]

Got onto the conversation of staying faithful to your other half at work today, I've got the women's opinions (the few of them that are at Land Rover) but what do you guys think?

Could you stay with someone knowing that you've cheated on them?

[Brettles1986]

I wouldn't do it in the first place but tbh no, I wouldn't want the other party having it on her mind all the time and trust is just not there.

[UKtom]

what happens on tour, stays on tour.

/endthread

on a serious note no, if you're in 'love' with someone, shouldn't even cross your mind to do something with someone else? looking and touching are two separate things

[JoeHindle]

I agree with Brett and Tom, my 'mate' has cheated on his girlfriend 3 times now, I think it's the most cuntish thing to do, but she's stuck by him, I think she's fucking stupid...

[matt_vtr_15a]

It depends on the girl...

If I was with a girl that I could honestly see myself being long term and serious with then I'd never cheat...

BUT

If I'm just meeting a girl and get together but can't imagine being with her long term as she is a whiny bitch or has no prospects then It doesn't bother me to cheat on them...

Even with her friends

Sometimes I just get with a girl for regular company and to do stuff with, but usually their personalities are pretty shit so there not what I'd class as a serious relationship

[NobbyClarke]

NEVER CHEAT - i've been on the receiving end and its the worst feeling in the world, would never put that onto someone else ... !

[christoph]

You should never be in a position to cheat i always stay. If your happy in the relationship you wouldn't feel the need to cheat and if your not happy with the relationship, you shouldn't be in it TOO cheat. simples.

[manta]

This isn't my field of expertise, women scare me.
I agree with what matt said.

[leeham987]

If people feel the need to cheat, they're clearly not with the right person in the first place. Either that or they're just nobs.

[Phils_VTR]

NEVER CHEAT - i've been on the receiving end and its the worst feeling in the world, would never put that onto someone else ... !

You should never be in a position to cheat i always stay. If your happy in the relationship you wouldn't feel the need to cheat and if your not happy with the relationship, you shouldn't be in it TOO cheat. simples.

Completely agree.

I was cheaten on and my girlfriend is amazing. She's stunning, just was an arsehole. However...

We were together a year and I found out she had cheaten on me with her college friend for the past 5 months, it completely broke me. I split with her, made her feel so fucking bad about it and started seeing some other girl. This made her literally beg for me back, for months, she stayed away from other boys and after a good few months of pretending I didn't care and fucking the other girl I am now back with her. She gave up her best friend at college for me and things and we've been back together 6 months and it's incredible (so far :zainy: )

I do sometimes have my doubts which annoys her but what do you expect

[0rang3peel]

If you're with a girl for the shits and giggles then yeah cheating doesn't really matter, I'm sure both of you realise it's not going anywhere.

If you're actually with somebody you like/love you would be a mong to cheat on them, I would never cheat on my current mrs and I know she wouldn't ever cheat on me.

pretty much just +1 what matt said.

[matt_vtr_15a]

Completely agree.

I was cheaten on and my girlfriend is amazing. She's stunning, just was an arsehole. However...

We were together a year and I found out she had cheaten on me with her college friend for the past 5 months, it completely broke me. I split with her, made her feel so fucking bad about it and started seeing some other girl. This made her literally beg for me back, for months, she stayed away from other boys and after a good few months of pretending I didn't care and fucking the other girl I am now back with her. She gave up her best friend at college for me and things and we've been back together 6 months and it's incredible (so far :zainy: )

I do sometimes have my doubts which annoys her but what do you expect

You believe she didn't bounce on all the college boys for those months of no attention?

Don't believe it for a second...

[Gandi699]

You believe she didn't bounce on all the college boys for those months of no attention?

Don't believe it for a second...

Shes probably cheating on him right now as he types this

[matt_vtr_15a]

Do blowjobs count? This girl can suckkkkkkkk

[manta]

Shes probably cheating on him right now as he types this

Haha, harsh but plausible.

[xscottxx]

One of my favourite quotes pretty much sums up everything in here:

"Trust is like a mirror. Once it's broken, you can piece it back together, but you will always see the cracks."

Always rings true. Once trust is broken it's very difficult if not impossible to trust that person again.

[LSOfreak]

a couple of my friends do it all the time like its nothing

i wouldnt ever myself, despise the act of it

If anyones cheated, its not worth being with them anymore

[Phils_VTR]

You believe she didn't bounce on all the college boys for those months of no attention?

Don't believe it for a second...

Shes probably cheating on him right now as he types this

Haha, harsh but plausible.

I hacked her phone/facebook for the whole time she was none the wiser, don't even care if that makes me weird but she'd do anything for me now when before it was always me running after her. I am happy with my decision, I am very lucky.

[christoph]

I hacked her phone/facebook for the whole time she was none the wiser, don't even care if that makes me weird but she'd do anything for me now when before it was always me running after her. I am happy with my decision, I am very lucky.

That is a bit dodgy dude. Wanna make sure she doesn't visit here and see that comment ;)

Although can't help but think a quilty conscience comes into play perhaps?

[L33h]

If u want to cheat on somebody then you dont really want to be with em in the 1st place imo

[Gandi699]

I hacked her phone/facebook for the whole time she was none the wiser, don't even care if that makes me weird but she'd do anything for me now when before it was always me running after her. I am happy with my decision, I am very lucky.

Thats quite stalker-ish behaviour

[MuZiZZle]

does rape count??

[CEdwards]

Nope

Wouldn't like it if it happened to me so I wouldn't do it either

[MuZiZZle]

Nope

Wouldn't like it if it happened to me so I wouldn't do it either

But you have a Corsa, so your opinion doesn't count

[Jamie]

It wouldn't happen.

IF even though there is no 'IF' it did I would be honest about it and lay my cards on the table. I would accept that I would have to prove myself if you will and earn her trust back and take it from there.

If things didn't seem like they were improving... I'd declare myself out.

[Phils_VTR]

Thats quite stalker-ish behaviour

:evil:

[Phils_VTR]

Couldn't care what a Saxo forum thinks, it was a bad move by my part stalking but idgaf. However, I have almost full trust for her now. Things are actually incredible, and she is incredible. So :y:

[CEdwards]

But you have a Corsa, so your opinion doesn't count

I know this by now, But i still input my opinion now and then ;)

[Carl-h]

I'd never cheat and if I was cheated on she'd be gone no questions.

Hate cheats. One of my mates use to cheat on his missus all the time but I was good friends with his missus. Never knew what to do.

[TomT]

Completely agree.

I was cheaten on and my girlfriend is amazing. She's stunning, just was an arsehole. However...

We were together a year and I found out she had cheaten on me with her college friend for the past 5 months, it completely broke me. I split with her, made her feel so fucking bad about it and started seeing some other girl. This made her literally beg for me back, for months, she stayed away from other boys and after a good few months of pretending I didn't care and fucking the other girl I am now back with her. She gave up her best friend at college for me and things and we've been back together 6 months and it's incredible (so far :zainy: )

I do sometimes have my doubts which annoys her but what do you expect

You seem quite proud of the story of you taking back someone who cheated on you?

Once a cheat always a cheat n all that..

[Dany4494]

If my gf cheated on me, wouldn't know what to do tbh, probably have to go mental id settle with a little sentance and GBH/ABH if she cheated.

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[christoph]

Once a cheat always a cheat n all that..

Excatly. Different people different opinions though clearly.

[Saxoladlesta]

Once someone cheats and you take them back all they do us get better at hiding their cheating next time

[12u55]

It depends on the girl...

If I was with a girl that I could honestly see myself being long term and serious with then I'd never cheat...

BUT

If I'm just meeting a girl and get together but can't imagine being with her long term as she is a whiny bitch or has no prospects then It doesn't bother me to cheat on them...

Even with her friends

Sometimes I just get with a girl for regular company and to do stuff with, but usually their personalities are pretty shit so there not what I'd class as a serious relationship

+1. Nailed it on the head. When your younger, under 24 and shit, such a higher chance of cheating and stuff. Your too young to be worrying about family and shit. Should be living life. after 25 is when you usually settle down.

[TomT]

Excatly. Different people different opinions though clearly.

I guess so, not sure I could ever trust a girl that cheated on me though nor would I want to.

[christoph]

I guess so, not sure I could ever trust a girl that cheated on me though nor would I want to.

nah me neither, if i found out my gf right now cheated she would be out the door before i could hit her with a big guilty hammer! Really isn't worth the doubt for the rest of the time.

[logic_guy]

Completely agree.

I was cheaten on and my girlfriend is amazing. She's stunning, just was an arsehole. However...

We were together a year and I found out she had cheaten on me with her college friend for the past 5 months, it completely broke me. I split with her, made her feel so fucking bad about it and started seeing some other girl. This made her literally beg for me back, for months, she stayed away from other boys and after a good few months of pretending I didn't care and fucking the other girl I am now back with her. She gave up her best friend at college for me and things and we've been back together 6 months and it's incredible (so far :zainy: )

I do sometimes have my doubts which annoys her but what do you expect

I was with mine for 4 years. Never even hugged another girl let alone chat one up then she goes and does it with her manager at work. I lost over a stone and didn't eat for 2 weeks. I was on the brink of destruction. Needless to say, she's stayed away from me since January and she is now with this guy (since January). Karma will get her back. Never leave the one you love for the one you like, Love and lust are NOT the same, so stick with what you love.

However Phil, may I warn you that a relationship is like a glass. Its fragile and precious. When the glass becomes broken and smashes into a million pieces you then pick up all the pieces and stick them back together to try and repair your glass but you'll always be one piece missing or a piece that never goes back the same. No matter how hard you try.

I don't think I need to explain my opinion on this subject.

[Prickle]

It depends on the girl...

If I was with a girl that I could honestly see myself being long term and serious with then I'd never cheat...

BUT

If I'm just meeting a girl and get together but can't imagine being with her long term as she is a whiny bitch or has no prospects then It doesn't bother me to cheat on them...

Even with her friends

Sometimes I just get with a girl for regular company and to do stuff with, but usually their personalities are pretty shit so there not what I'd class as a serious relationship

Dont usually agree with Matthew but i do this time :homme:

[stupotvtr]

It depends on the girl...

If I was with a girl that I could honestly see myself being long term and serious with then I'd never cheat...

BUT

If I'm just meeting a girl and get together but can't imagine being with her long term as she is a whiny bitch or has no prospects then It doesn't bother me to cheat on them...

Even with her friends

Sometimes I just get with a girl for regular company and to do stuff with, but usually their personalities are pretty shit so there not what I'd class as a serious relationship

Hit the nail on the head there bud.

[vtr91]

imo, once a cheat, always a cheat. a leopard never changes its spots.
i personally think its one of the worst feelings in the world when it happens to you, and it puts you in a sad place.. but what goes around comes around

[Ryan]

I never quite understand why people believe because someone's cheated once they will do it again.

Shit happens, people make mistakes. Some learn from them others do not....

[TomT]

I never quite understand why people believe because someone's cheated once they will do it again.

Shit happens, people make mistakes. Some learn from them others do not....

Because it shows the type of person they are.

[blackie_2k5]

I never quite understand why people believe because someone's cheated once they will do it again.

Shit happens, people make mistakes. Some learn from them others do not....

this^^...ive cheated on ex's and wouldnt cheat on my current

goes back to what matt sais really :p

[Ryan]

Because it shows the type of person they are.

As I said, people make mistakes. Some learn from them others do not.

Because someone makes a mistake at say 21 you think they're the same person at 30?

[TomT]

this^^...ive cheated on ex's and wouldnt cheat on my current

goes back to what matt sais really :p

But you would of cheated on those ex's again right?

So if someone's cheated on you, and you take them back they're likely to cheat on you again.

I think you'd be an absolute sap to take someone back after cheating on you though, just letting them walk all over you imo.

As I said, people make mistakes. Some learn from them others do not.

Because someone makes a mistake at say 21 you think they're the same person at 30?

I don't see cheating as a mistake, putting the oven on gas mark 8 instead of 7 is a mistake, going and having sex with someone who isn't your boyfriend/girlfriend is not an accident

[blackie_2k5]

But you would of cheated on those ex's again right?

So if someone's cheated on you, and you take them back they're likely to cheat on you again.

I think you'd be an absolute sap to take someone back after cheating on you though, just letting them walk all over you imo.



I don't see cheating as a mistake, putting the oven on gas mark 8 instead of 7 is a mistake, going and having sex with someone who isn't your boyfriend/girlfriend is not an accident


ive never cheated on my current...and wouldnt

ive cheated on ex's..probably becuase they didnt mean much or becuase i couldnt be arsed with them

certain situations can lead ppl to cheat though..where they wouldnt normally and then regret it

just depends really

[Ryan]

You need to live life a bit more then.

Different people have problems in life that effects them in different ways. Life isn't a simple case of black and white.

[blackie_2k5]

but i still aggree with you sort of "tomhannah"...if someone cheated on me i wouldnt go back simply becuase i couldnt swallow my pride

[TomT]

You need to live life a bit more then.

Different people have problems in life that effects them in different ways. Life isn't a simple case of black and white.

Live a bit more because I wouldn't tolerate a girlfriend who cheated on me?

I know we wont agree on this as we've clearly got very different views when it comes to relationships could tell that from the thread about dating a stripper thread before

[Ryan]

Live a bit more because I wouldn't tolerate a girlfriend who cheated on me?

I know we wont agree on this as we've clearly got very different views when it comes to relationships could tell that from the thread about dating a stripper thread before

I've just witnessed some people have some monumental break downs in life, make huge mistakes they regret and are decent people.

As I said mistakes happen it doesn't instantly make that persons behaviour become permanent for the rest of their life.

[Prickle]

I dont think i could get back with my gf (of 6yrs and 5 months) if she cheated on me. same would apply to her aswell i recon but id never do it and i know she wouldnt. Shes "the one", we're the "one" :A:

but thats just me, everyone is different.

[christoph]

I've just witnessed some people have some monumental break downs in life, make huge mistakes they regret and are decent people.

As I said mistakes happen it doesn't instantly make that persons behaviour become permanent for the rest of their life.

Well if my gf cheated on me i'd just kick her out the door wouldn't let it bother me, its people who find out there other halfs have cheated and spend the rest of the relationship being wary or people who cry about it if the relationship goes down the pan because of it who need to get a life.

Life's to short to worry and ruin yourself because of it. Your not the one who made the mistake, so why must you burden the consequences too? Move on. Theres never only 1 girl for you is there!

[logic_guy]

I dont think i could get back with my gf (of 6yrs and 5 months) if she cheated on me. same would apply to her aswell i recon but id never do it and i know she wouldnt. Shes "the one", we're the "one" :A:

but thats just me, everyone is different.

Are you a babe magnet? Tall, dark and handsome? :homme:

[logic_guy]

*babe magent

[Prickle]

Are you a babe magnet? Tall, dark and handsome? :homme:

Nope..

Short, dark and meh. If im honest.

[Jay_]

No.

My ex cheated on me and I forgave her and we carried on, turned out she was just lying to me even though she promised me that she had stopped cheat & doing drugs. She was doing both.

I guess if I found the right girl that showed she really was sincere about her apology I would stay with her. But I obviously haven't found the right girl. Yet.

[headless]

I've been seeing a girl for a year and a half now, but were not really serious, we meet up go cinema or whatever and end up at one of our house's sort of thing. Now despite not being in a relationship, and having been with many girls since seeing her, when I found some texts on her phone talking about other boys to her friends,(not even too the boys) it fucking hurt. I also often worry about her on nights out etc and think about what she's up too.
Suppose its double standards and all that as I never seen us as more then a bit of fun and don't think twice about getting with another girl.
I guess in my situation if anything did happen with that particular girl and a guy what I don't know don't hurt me.
If however it was something more serious I would A) Never cheat or even consider cheating on her and B) Hope that if she did cheat on me she'd be honest so I can smash his and/or her face(s) in :)

Also another point I'd like to put out there - who thinks its alright to look through a partners phone? Now I think I've learned my lesson on this one, but i'm still always tempted to take a little peek.

[Prickle]

Also another point I'd like to put out there - who thinks its alright to look through a partners phone? Now I think I've learned my lesson on this one, but i'm still always tempted to take a little peek.

I dont think it is alright to nose through your gfs (or friend/sexbuddy or w.e) phone. I defo dont look through her phone, it doesnt even cross my mind tbh.

Its abit OTT.

[headless]

I dont think it is alright to do nose through your gfs (or friend/sexbuddy or w.e). I defo dont look through her phone, it doesnt even cross my mind tbh.

Its abit OTT.

I agree definitely, as I say I'm not even sure why I did it :\ but definitely affected the trust thing. Then again this was like 6 months ago and I'm still seeing her so think it's fair to say it hasn't bothered me too much lol.

[Phils_VTR]

I've been seeing a girl for a year and a half now, but were not really serious, we meet up go cinema or whatever and end up at one of our house's sort of thing. Now despite not being in a relationship, and having been with many girls since seeing her, when I found some texts on her phone talking about other boys to her friends,(not even too the boys) it fucking hurt. I also often worry about her on nights out etc and think about what she's up too.
Suppose its double standards and all that as I never seen us as more then a bit of fun and don't think twice about getting with another girl.
I guess in my situation if anything did happen with that particular girl and a guy what I don't know don't hurt me.
If however it was something more serious I would A) Never cheat or even consider cheating on her and B) Hope that if she did cheat on me she'd be honest so I can smash his and/or her face(s) in :)

Also another point I'd like to put out there - who thinks its alright to look through a partners phone? Now I think I've learned my lesson on this one, but i'm still always tempted to take a little peek.

Smash his face in? I don't agree with that, it's her fault not his. :wacko:

However if he knew she had a boyfriend etc then he deserves it for sure.

[Saxologist]

I cheated on my ex-girlfriend and totally regret it, we tried to work things out, but its like breaking a glass, it'll never be clear

[MuZiZZle]

Me & my missus are swingers & doggers, there's nothing I like more than seeing her being double teamed and rotated like a rotisserie chicken before being glazed like a Krispy Kreme donut, but if she did it behind my back I'd be gutted!

some, possibly all of that is false

[Brettles1986]

Me & my missus are swingers & doggers, there's nothing I like more than seeing her being double teamed and rotated like a rotisserie chicken before being glazed like a Krispy Kreme donut, but if she did it behind my back I'd be gutted!

some, possibly all of that is false

Yeh there is, you don't have a mrs :p

[Bound]

I've just witnessed some people have some monumental break downs in life, make huge mistakes they regret and are decent people.

As I said mistakes happen it doesn't instantly make that persons behaviour become permanent for the rest of their life.

Ryan's right. I cheated on my last girlfriend, wouldn't cheat on this one.. Well I don't want to anyway :(.

No.

My ex cheated on me and I forgave her and we carried on, turned out she was just lying to me even though she promised me that she had stopped cheat & doing drugs. She was doing both.

Drug addicts are the most predictable people in the world, you can always rely on them to do drugs.

I've been seeing a girl for a year and a half now, but were not really serious, we meet up go cinema or whatever and end up at one of our house's sort of thing. Now despite not being in a relationship, and having been with many girls since seeing her, when I found some texts on her phone talking about other boys to her friends,(not even too the boys) it fucking hurt. I also often worry about her on nights out etc and think about what she's up too.
Suppose its double standards and all that as I never seen us as more then a bit of fun and don't think twice about getting with another girl.
I guess in my situation if anything did happen with that particular girl and a guy what I don't know don't hurt me.
If however it was something more serious I would A) Never cheat or even consider cheating on her and B) Hope that if she did cheat on me she'd be honest so I can smash his and/or her face(s) in :)

Also another point I'd like to put out there - who thinks its alright to look through a partners phone? Now I think I've learned my lesson on this one, but i'm still always tempted to take a little peek.

Terrible decision. Nothing good will come of that, not only will they know you don't trust them if they catch you.. But people need private space, a phone and private messages count as that, if you invade it and read things that you don't like that's way out of line.

Smash his face in? I don't agree with that, it's her fault not his. :wacko:

However if he knew she had a boyfriend etc then he deserves it for sure.

Of course it's not, such a stupid thing to say especially as it's casual. Double standards.

[wicked-vtr]

Back to op's question, I'd end it if I cheated on my Mrs, wouldn't want to go behind her back, she would find out sooner or later and would be worse that way tbh.