tbh, most counselling sessions are focused on changing the way you think about things, not changing the things themselves.
I had a few sessions of 'cognative based counselling' at my old college, the guy was a complete wanker and i ended up cancelling it.
Im sorry to hear things are shit for you mate, but there are some things you cant fix and some things you can, the best way i found was to write it all down, everything thats bothering you, then see which things you can realisticly fix, and focus on them. Always give yourself something to do so your not sat with your own thoughts, and try to keep giving yourself little 'ups' to keep your mood, Things like washing the car, or fixing something on it thats been bugging you for ages can help.
Unfortantely, things like your mum cant be fixed and are incredibly hard to address, after losing my grandad i flitted between anger, and just getting on with it, and to be honest i dont think there is much else you can do
I know im not the most popular of members on here, or well known in any sense, but if you do need any advice or just to talk it through, you can always pm me mate, as im sure many others on here would want you to too
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