well i got a feeling its the head gasket.
first 2 weeks it seemed fine but on the motorway home it started to overheat ever so slightly. light kept dipping off and on so i decided to bleed the radiator in case of any air trapped in it. levels didnt seem to low and there was no air trapped.
i then removed the oil filler cap and noticed a bit of creamy stuff in there which i assume is head gasket. seems like i may have been ripped off

strange thing is it drives like a dream. it still has plenty of pull and doesnt limp and the engine management light isnt on (does come on ignition). dont think i can afford to have the head gasket done so will probably just sell it on.
on a side note can a head gasket go slowly or is it all or nothing