The Women Low Down

[Steve]

WTF confused or what, as you know my lass left me.
Played games for about 3 weeks talking on the phone for hours on end and a sorry text off her, then eventually i seen her on sunday after a month of not talking face to face and told her i loved her gave her a letter etc etc, she looked me in the eye when i told her, then didnt say anything really. We sat had chit chat and a good laugh, can always make her smile. Then i left when i was leaving i so wanted to cuddle and kiss her not sure if she wanted me to

I am happy getting on with things, but always think of her

I really want her back, miss her so much, thats what i keep thinking, but all she said when i met her was that she doesnt love me.
Even though before we split things were going really well she was always ringing me telling me she loved me and we had such a laugh.
She wasnt well at the time and i keep blaming that
And I mean literally before we split, as in 2 mins before
Theres so many things she said and done before we split that make me want her back, and new years eve i said to her she should see her mates but she was like noooo, want to spend it with you. SO i planned a nice meal and a nice night in and she left me
Keep looking at the lovely xmas card she got me aswel, tempted to burn it but then i might regret it


Someone tell me am stupid and move on ftw Its doing my head in
Or how the fuck do i get her back????

[Tupps]

Move on or you'll end up getting even more hurt than you already are

[AdamW]

Totally honest mate best way is to keep clear....give her space, otherwise it will drive her away more. Trying organising things with your mates like weekends away or a holiday, something to look forward to.....only way your gonna move on.

[Steve]

Originally Posted by AdamW

Totally honest mate best way is to keep clear....give her space, otherwise it will drive her away more. Trying organising things with your mates like weekends away or a holiday, something to look forward to.....only way your gonna move on.

regret texting her over the past few weeks think i would have had her back, think it did drive her away. but wasnt sure then if i did want her back. more time we spend apart the more i miss her

Luckly boz and williams been keeping me busy at weekends, saxo meet this sunday and out saturday and whitby. But then as soon as i get home its always the same

[KayMarie]

The thing is, if she's saying she doesn't love you then you need to respect that. My advice is to take a step back and let her contact you when she wants to, this way, she doesn't feel mithered or anything and has some head space.

Make sure you are positive with her when she does contact you, showing her you're bothered and depressed all the time will put her off, obviously if she asks you you can tell her the truth "Yes you did break my heart but what can I do, force you to be with me? No, so I've moved on"

The thing I always think with couples that breakup is, if the person whos choice it was can text the other person and chat when they wish they get the best of both worlds innit. They get to chat to you when they want but not be in a relationship, It doesn't work like that.

[KayMarie]

What I mean to say is, if she contacts you to say, ask you a question, asnwer it, be polite but don't jump at her beck and call

(My post above was a little contradictive

[Steve]

Originally Posted by KayMarie

The thing is, if she's saying she doesn't love you then you need to respect that. My advice is to take a step back and let her contact you when she wants to, this way, she doesn't feel mithered or anything and has some head space.

Make sure you are positive with her when she does contact you, showing her you're bothered and depressed all the time will put her off, obviously if she asks you you can tell her the truth "Yes you did break my heart but what can I do, force you to be with me? No, so I've moved on"

The thing I always think with couples that breakup is, if the person whos choice it was can text the other person and chat when they wish they get the best of both worlds innit. They get to chat to you when they want but not be in a relationship, It doesn't work like that.

very true, when i seen her i was all happy and honest with her, wasnt down and crying on my knees.

She admited she was nasty to me cos i sounded happy on the phone when i spoke to her. It was only last week she went really nasty..... Think it was cos i text her saying can we talk nearly every other day lmao < stupid looking back

Yeah if she rang i would take it easy, doubt she will ring. Think she just was a bit depressed and then has just fucked off. Wasnt my fault at all looking back.

Asked her sister if she mentioned me, she said honestly shes said nothing at all to any one, hasnt even mentioned you.

Lets just hope i have a good night saturday and some sax-p member doesnt try to bum me on sunday. Least my parents are back off a 3 week holiday and am not home alone anymore, give me someone to talk to.

[Steve]

Someone just tell me to get a grip ftw.

[laura_g]

just leave it now, youve tried but shes messin with your head so

[AdamW]

At the end of the day....its not the end of the world....

Everything happens for a reason....you will get over her....

[Raz]

GET A GRIP!

will see you on sunday buddy make sure we have a chat

[Graham]

pics of her? she must be damn fine if you still want her so much

[The_STIG]

stay away form her bud otherwise youre feelings for her will never go away

[djshongo]

I kinda disagree...

This happened to me recently, girl left me etc.. has happened before, but this time was most serious. 2yrs together.

I was like you, i thought im just being silly, i couldnt stop thinking about her, but i didnt wanna be thinking about her at the same time - if u know what i mean

I just wanted somebody to tell me the exact same thing you're waiting for, but i soon realised, people MAY tell you that, but they can tell you it until they're blue in the face, YOU are the one that has to make your mind up..

I made my mind up, and i told her i wasn't gonna let her go, or let this end, until she told me to F**K off basically.
I think she respected that, and we're back again now!

I think somebody should make a film of it really lol

[djshongo]

but hey.. what do i know lol

[The_STIG]

Originally Posted by djshongo

I kinda disagree...

This happened to me recently, girl left me etc.. has happened before, but this time was most serious. 2yrs together.

I was like you, i thought im just being silly, i couldnt stop thinking about her, but i didnt wanna be thinking about her at the same time - if u know what i mean

I just wanted somebody to tell me the exact same thing you're waiting for, but i soon realised, people MAY tell you that, but they can tell you it until they're blue in the face, YOU are the one that has to make your mind up..

I made my mind up, and i told her i wasn't gonna let her go, or let this end, until she told me to F**K off basically.
I think she respected that, and we're back again now!

I think somebody should make a film of it really lol

thats fair enuf but i recently split with my lass so just stayed away after a while and she realised how much she was missin me etc... and asked me back out

[joemcevoy]

Here my story ha:

Went with the girl fell in love blah blah blah. Then we broke up and i was in bits. I absolutly loved this girl and tried so hard to get her back, she didnt want anything to do with it. I left it then sent her a message one random day about 6 months later telling her i missed her. She was sitting behind me at the time. It was like a romantic film as she replied back really i miss you too and then we just got together and went for it. Only problem was a couple of months later we broke up again still loved her. tried to get her back and she said i was pushing her away. People told me she was a bitch she was fucking with my head blah blah blah but out of the 100s of people who told me this i didnt care i had to have her. In the end i got duffed over and shes got another boyfriend and it kills me to watch them together. Even though i have a new girlfriend now. Cause this girl was my "first" love always have feelings for her. ( This happened over the last 3 years) its ruined 3 years of my life and has caused me problems with my friends and family also.)

So basicly leave it, cause she will soon realise she can use and abuse you. its not worth it.

[boz]

no more comments from me matey, i told you all i had to say on saturday night

only you can make the right choice mate.

its obvious that you still love her.
you need to see past that and think will happen if you get back together?
can you deal with being hurt again?
shes done it a few times now

welcome to the first big cross road of your life mate

only you can take the right path.

there may be many, but one will be the rightious (sp) path.

choose wisley young jedi

[DamoVTS]

Originally Posted by boz

no more comments from me matey, i told you all i had to say on saturday night

only you can make the right choice mate.

its obvious that you still love her.
you need to see past that and think will happen if you get back together?
can you deal with being hurt again?
shes done it a few times now

welcome to the first big cross road of your life mate

only you can take the right path.

there may be many, but one will be the rightious (sp) path.

choose wisley young jedi

hmmm the force is strong in that one... *voice in the style of Yoda*

[eoey]

to be honest with ya buddy. try do stuff to take your mind of it, its over

it mite seem like the end of the world at the minute but time is a healer it might take weeks, months even years

it took me nearly 2 years to get over my ex but now i say hello evrytime we pass and i have no feeling a year and a half ago she would be on my mind for the rest of the day.

give her her space dont be a leach, time will tell if shes worth it or not, her minds made up.

chicks love guys like you emotional and all that!!! go out and get laid and it will get your mind of it!!!!