Worried

[JimoVTR]

My mates Gramp died yesterday, and they were real close.

My mate has showed no sign of emotion yet. Im really starting to get worried he's going to explode.
Iv tried talking to him and all I get is "I'm fine"
And he's not, I know him better than anyone.

When I lost my lifelong mate, I went of the rials from the minute I found out for a long time
Seems we handle it differently and I'm stuck.

Advice on how to actually handle the situation when it arises.
The funerals on wednesday and I think thats when it will hit him. (im going to it also)

[williamsvts]

let him get on with it but be there for him.

[saxmaster]

th only problem no two people are the same just have to be there for him when the ime comes because be unconsolable if it happened to me

[shawy]

just be there for him and if he needs a shoulder to cry on be there for him they nothing wrong for a man to let it out that what friends are for

[Yates]

it may not come

people deal with death in different ways

it could be after funeral, my unle died and his brother seemed fine even at funeral, just seem to act as if nothin had happened, hit him hard about a month later

just give him space if he wants to talk he will

[Penn]

Sounds like the same way i deal with things like that. Just let him know you're always around but don't keep bugging him about it.

[matt_vtr_15]

Originally Posted by Yates

it may not come

people deal with death in different ways

it could be after funeral, my unle died and his brother seemed fine even at funeral, just seem to act as if nothin had happened, hit him hard about a month later

just give him space if he wants to talk he will

this is soo true...

my mama died who i was close too, i never cried or thought about it to much just thought of other things....

The will came through and she stated who she wanted to be a paul bearer....

i was in the list...

In the big limo thing to the funeral all my cousins crying and i felt an absolute prick cause i couldnt cry....

Carried her through into the church and was still fine.... after the proceedings the gates started closing, it hit me then....

I stopped from crying but was welling up... and times healed...

And yes yates 15 year olds can be paul bearers lol!!!

[WelshyUK]

My mates brother died in a car accident and he never cried at all just bottled it up, the only thing you can do is really what everyone else has suggested and that's be there for them for when they need you!

[haroldno1]

just help him get when he lets you

and try and keep him on the right track..

some people resort to the rong things to deal with this kinda shit

[Ryyy]

keep an eye on him but don't be too clingy!
Sure he'll be OK

[djflipsaxo]

i barely showed any emotion when my nan died. i knew she was ill and she lived about 2 years longer thank they expected. so i was upset but i knew deep down she was in a better [lace. i cried at her funeral but i barely showed any emotion

[Marcos]

just be there for him all you can do really, if they was close just keep an eye if you think he might do something

[Ocego_VTR]

my mates dad died a few months back he still has showed no emotion, i think he shows it when he'són his own.