reformed cheaters? is there such thing - Saxperience

sexy_saxo21 · 30th September 2009, 13:50

bin with my bloke for years now and he has cheated on me loads throughout our relationship. he is destroying me but now has said hes changed and he is convincing. just wondered if anyone ever cheated alot and now would never do it. i just want to be able to forget the past but cant do it until i know my futures safe. is it possible that men can not cheat?

Bickerton · 30th September 2009, 13:51

no it's not possible

Psycho18 · 30th September 2009, 13:54

1 time can be a stupid mistake but if he has done it loads then no tell him to sling his hook. Treating you like that isn't right and you shouldn't live like that!

matt_vtr_15 · 30th September 2009, 13:54

If he cheated on you loaaaadddds.... then I can't personally imagine he could ever fully reform to a non-cheater....

I have a mate who cheats on his gf all the time, gets caught every so often and she forgives him, he then tells her he is reformed to keep her happy until he gets caught again...

Do your self a favour and ride his best mate....

Mochachino · 30th September 2009, 13:55

Cheaters deseve no one. Tell him to go get fucked.

and tell him db_sax said so on saxp.

sexy_saxo21 · 30th September 2009, 13:55

yeah weve got a kid together 2 thou so aint that easy

Porky · 30th September 2009, 13:56

i wouldnt really believe what hes saying, imo once a cheat always a cheat.

Bickerton · 30th September 2009, 13:56

A car club ofrandom people isnt the best place for this kind of advise btw, did you join purely for this?

Psycho18 · 30th September 2009, 14:00

seems like it bickerton, what a strange place to choose for relationship problems

Graeme^p · 30th September 2009, 14:05

i would say yeah it is poss

i have cheated in the past but would never dream of cheating now as its out of order and if your happy with the person your with why cheat?

Bound · 30th September 2009, 14:06

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Originally Posted by Graeme

i would say yeah it is poss

i have cheated in the past but would never dream of cheating now as its out of order and if your happy with the person your with why cheat?

Yeah, +1. I do love my girlfriend, But I don't trust myself, I just don't care I think.

PSPDan · 30th September 2009, 14:11

I cheated last year when me and my gf were going through a bad patch.

We're both over it now, it was a stupid mistake and I know I'll never do it again. Relationship has never been better.

If he has cheated on you a lot of times though I'm not sure.

Newtz07 · 30th September 2009, 14:30

once a cheat always a cheat is bullshit. i am not sayin anything else coz you never know who is reading, but its a lie, its down to the person... but i will say one thing...

if you have doubts... then there is no doubt that it is the wrong decision

Cov_Rob · 30th September 2009, 14:37

Get rid!! If he's cheated more than once after promising he would never do it again, he obv has no respect for you. If having a child with you hasn't stopped him cheating he'll never stop

pr0xibus · 30th September 2009, 14:38

not a chance once a cheater always a cheater just ask jeremy kyle he knows his shit lol.

PSPDan · 30th September 2009, 14:45

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Originally Posted by pr0xibus

not a chance once a cheater always a cheater just ask jeremy kyle he knows his shit lol.

You chat shit my friend.

One time can be a mistake.

Graeme^p · 30th September 2009, 14:48

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Originally Posted by PSPDan

You chat shit my friend.

One time can be a mistake.

agreed

Giraffe · 30th September 2009, 15:12

I'd say it depends on how the person who has done the cheating reacts. If they are sorry that they cheated and they have hurt you, they may change. If they are only sorry they got caught, then I'm afraid they will just try harder not to get caught. People can change, sometimes it takes something like getting caught or coming clean about it to make someone realise the damage they have done, and they really won't want to see someone else hurt through their actions, so they don't do it again.

Your bf seems like he is only sorry he gets caught, not that he hurts you. Get shot.

markdavid · 30th September 2009, 15:37

Never cheated on any of my women in my life,sacked a fair few my fault,that can cause some harm,Sorry to them .I have had some women cheat on me norm. the ones i liked best,that hurts.Lost my partner because of work years ago,still people change sometimes i no longer would gamble on that.One rule i tried if you do cheat tell me first,i did not like my mates telling me,that failed for me and im not a young man....

hellonpluto · 30th September 2009, 16:08

try beating him senseless with a stick?

does that help?