Counselling - Page 3 - Saxperience

NickJ · 10th November 2011, 23:43

Have you heard of Turning Point? My GP referred me to them for a couple of things

They will be able to point you in the right direction for somebody in your area who can help - I spoke to a therapist for 15 mins from 'Rightsteps' and she helped loads, now I know where I need to be looking for help

http://www.turning-point.co.uk/servi...talhealth.aspx

Don't be afraid of the term 'Mental Health' - it covers hundreds of issues

Damask · 10th November 2011, 23:44

tbh, most counselling sessions are focused on changing the way you think about things, not changing the things themselves.
I had a few sessions of 'cognative based counselling' at my old college, the guy was a complete wanker and i ended up cancelling it.

Im sorry to hear things are shit for you mate, but there are some things you cant fix and some things you can, the best way i found was to write it all down, everything thats bothering you, then see which things you can realisticly fix, and focus on them. Always give yourself something to do so your not sat with your own thoughts, and try to keep giving yourself little 'ups' to keep your mood, Things like washing the car, or fixing something on it thats been bugging you for ages can help.

Unfortantely, things like your mum cant be fixed and are incredibly hard to address, after losing my grandad i flitted between anger, and just getting on with it, and to be honest i dont think there is much else you can do

I know im not the most popular of members on here, or well known in any sense, but if you do need any advice or just to talk it through, you can always pm me mate, as im sure many others on here would want you to too

Moke · 10th November 2011, 23:48

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Originally Posted by NickJ

Have you heard of Turning Point? My GP referred me to them for a couple of things

They will be able to point you in the right direction for somebody in your area who can help - I spoke to a therapist for 15 mins from 'Rightsteps' and she helped loads, now I know where I need to be looking for help

http://www.turning-point.co.uk/servi...talhealth.aspx

Don't be afraid of the term 'Mental Health' - it covers hundreds of issues

Thank you Nick, I'll look into that!

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Originally Posted by Damask

tbh, most counselling sessions are focused on changing the way you think about things, not changing the things themselves.
I had a few sessions of 'cognative based counselling' at my old college, the guy was a complete wanker and i ended up cancelling it.

Im sorry to hear things are shit for you mate, but there are some things you cant fix and some things you can, the best way i found was to write it all down, everything thats bothering you, then see which things you can realisticly fix, and focus on them. Always give yourself something to do so your not sat with your own thoughts, and try to keep giving yourself little 'ups' to keep your mood, Things like washing the car, or fixing something on it thats been bugging you for ages can help.

Unfortantely, things like your mum cant be fixed and are incredibly hard to address, after losing my grandad i flitted between anger, and just getting on with it, and to be honest i dont think there is much else you can do

I know im not the most popular of members on here, or well known in any sense, but if you do need any advice or just to talk it through, you can always pm me mate, as im sure many others on here would want you to too

Great words there mate and makes perfect sense!

It's just got to the point where I need the help now dude and then I can be myself again.

It doesn't matter about being a popular member... There's so many popular members on here that are actual cunts, but we won't go into that!

Cheers dude

Manu · 11th November 2011, 11:48

Looks like you need to re-learn how to deal with burdens of life. Mates and family often don't or won't help. Feeling sad is not somethings that's apparent to other people.

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He's not taking the piss but the last place I would be asking is Sax-P. Everyone's a heartless cunt at the best of times, let alone when it can affect you.

That was my first thought, lots of kids trying to act like they're hard stuff in here.

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Originally Posted by Ryan

Go to doctors as you can get advice on e NHS. Just be careful they don't do the usual take anti depressants, I've seen a few people just given these on a whim.

+1. I knew a guy once who had a brilliant future ahead of him as an engineer. He started taking meds to "help him" chin up after about 3 months worth of not finding a job. He progressively got worse while he became addicted. He's now a vegetable in a mental hospital somewhere.

So don't fall for meds, re-learn how to enjoy life. It's not that hard, except when you make it hard on yourself. Sounds like your friends are not so friendly if I may say so, more like in competition to find out who's the toughest guy (answer is none of them)

lee_saxo · 10th November 2011, 23:47

Moke mate, Sam8v will be along shortly and I know he will put a little smile on your face even if it's just for a few minutes. He makes me smile

Moke · 10th November 2011, 23:49

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Originally Posted by lee_saxo

Moke mate, Sam8v will be along shortly and I know he will put a little smile on your face even if it's just for a few minutes. He makes me smile

You and your witty comments <3

lee_saxo · 10th November 2011, 23:50

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You and your witty comments <3

made you smile though I bet even for 5secs

Moke · 10th November 2011, 23:52

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Originally Posted by lee_saxo

made you smile though I bet even for 5secs

It did!

Tbh, Sax-P is one place I go to hide my feelings... You'll see I'm a cunt on the forum, yet in real life, I'm a shy, confused little boy (well, not quite, but you'll see I'm nowhere near as confident as I seem).

I hate that aswell, I used to be so confident, so outgoing and so much, well, fun... Used to laugh at everything, proper hype up my mates and used to enjoy my life.

But that's the problem...... "Used to..."

lee_saxo · 10th November 2011, 23:55

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It did!

Tbh, Sax-P is one place I go to hide my feelings... You'll see I'm a cunt on the forum, yet in real life, I'm a shy, confused little boy (well, not quite, but you'll see I'm nowhere near as confident as I seem).

I hate that aswell, I used to be so confident, so outgoing and so much, well, fun... Used to laugh at everything, proper hype up my mates and used to enjoy my life.

But that's the problem...... "Used to..."

You've just lost 'ness' or your mojo. Getting it all aout in the open with someone and off your chest is the start, then you can start feeling good about yourself again and when that starts coming you'll get your 'ness' and mojo back.

firefighter · 11th November 2011, 00:01

The good thing is you have been there before, just that sometimes we have to lose ourselves to find our selves everynow and again in life due to its outside pressure and you may be doing exactly that. What ever you did in the past what ever you said, what ever bad things you did, make a clean slate for your self and know it is all part of the learning process in life as we arent given a haynes manual of life when we are born its all about learning from our mistakes and mistakes sometimes happen for a reason so dont beat yourself up about it. Using this saxperience site is good because it can take things off youre mind and its a bit of you time, even if it is reading about car parts its good and little factors like that shows you how and why you are dealing with life. You are doing a good job at it as well my friend.

wassy78 · 10th November 2011, 23:53

Group hugs

wassy78 · 10th November 2011, 23:55

Moke it's true and you know were I am mate

Jaytee · 10th November 2011, 23:57

Im having councelling at the minute. My gp referred me. You fill in a form and they sort it from there. Just on a sidenote. Iv found talkin to my friends has helped but then again what im havin counselling for is nowhere near as serious as what you are goin through mate.
Hope you get it sorted though mate :-)

Moke · 11th November 2011, 00:00

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Originally Posted by wolf_gsxr

sounds like me mate. dunno about the counciling but ive adopted the could be worse attitude. past caring about my problems now

See, I can't let myself get like that... I have too much to care for and about.

I need to be myself to help others!

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Originally Posted by Jaytee

Im having councelling at the minute. My gp referred me. You fill in a form and they sort it from there. Just on a sidenote. Iv found talkin to my friends has helped but then again what im havin counselling for is nowhere near as serious as what you are goin through mate.
Hope you get it sorted though mate :-)

Hope all is ok mate! And cheers

Dom · 11th November 2011, 00:06

Good luck to you with what happens mate, its time for me to go bed.

Head high bud!

Moke · 11th November 2011, 00:07

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Good luck to you with what happens mate, its time for me to go bed.

Head high bud!

Cheers for the help and kind words man, appreciate it!

firefighter · 11th November 2011, 00:10

And you will do just that the past was the past. Just dont ever give up on your self and well done for making such a brave step. Enjoy life while its her , feel good and look after yourself as the only true love not comes from life and the people within it but it comes from you so take time to know yourself and respect yourself again and life will be one big breeze.

Take Care my friend and feel good you deserve it!

Moke · 11th November 2011, 00:11

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Originally Posted by firefighter

And you will do just that the past was the past. Just dont ever give up on your self and well done for making such a brave step. Enjoy life while its her , feel good and look after yourself as the only true love not comes from life and the people within it but it comes from you so take time to know yourself and respect yourself again and life will be one big breeze.

Take Care my friend and feel good you deserve it!

You're posts are so bang on!

wolf_gsxr · 11th November 2011, 00:14

oh dont take any anti depressants if you can help it. i think those things r more dangerous than heroin. makes you feel dosey and cheerful but it clouds your judgement and you have a MASSIVE downer when it wares off. my mate was on them and imo it made him worse.

wassy78 · 11th November 2011, 00:15

I'm glad for the people giving you the surport m8 end hope your taking it all in as you have loads of mate and for having the bollocks to talk about it makes you more of a 19 year old man than you think and stronger then you know you are . Everyone needs help now and then you know were we all are m8