Counselling

[Moke]

Originally Posted by lee_saxo

Moke mate, Sam8v will be along shortly and I know he will put a little smile on your face even if it's just for a few minutes. He makes me smile

You and your witty comments <3

[lee_saxo]

Originally Posted by Moke

You and your witty comments <3

made you smile though I bet even for 5secs

[firefighter]

True you have to look after number one in order to care for others, however at times you may feel when is it goling to end?, will it end?, how much more can I take and only at this point is where you are doing a good job at being a man because no matter how bad you feel you still do the right thing by your self and your family and evbentually you will look back of where you have come from to where you are now and that is high commendable and something to be proud of and no life is hard but at least you are trying you best and by what you have said im sure youre family are very proud of you and i can gaurantee as long as you keep trying your best you will be in a lot of a better position in your life say in a couple of years than you are now my friend.

[Moke]

Originally Posted by lee_saxo

made you smile though I bet even for 5secs

It did!

Tbh, Sax-P is one place I go to hide my feelings... You'll see I'm a cunt on the forum, yet in real life, I'm a shy, confused little boy (well, not quite, but you'll see I'm nowhere near as confident as I seem).

I hate that aswell, I used to be so confident, so outgoing and so much, well, fun... Used to laugh at everything, proper hype up my mates and used to enjoy my life.

But that's the problem...... "Used to..."

[wassy78]

Group hugs

[Moke]

Originally Posted by firefighter

True you have to look after number one in order to care for others, however at times you may feel when is it goling to end?, will it end?, how much more can I take and only at this point is where you are doing a good job at being a man because no matter how bad you feel you still do the right thing by your self and your family and evbentually you will look back of where you have come from to where you are now and that is high commendable and something to be proud of and no life is hard but at least you are trying you best and by what you have said im sure youre family are very proud of you and i can gaurantee as long as you keep trying your best you will be in a lot of a better position in your life say in a couple of years than you are now my friend.

Exactly man... I wanna get sorted, so I can be there for the ones I love.

That's another thing that frustrates me.... I can't help as I'm just so mindfucked with other things.

I try my hardest to help though!

Originally Posted by wassy78

Group hugs

Those texts Wassy.... You're a man of many wise words. Thank you.

[Dom]

Originally Posted by Moke

We've had so many chats with her though... Like one time, she kicked off and i confronted her... She ended up grabbing me by the throat and my dad had to block my punch as he saw me clench my fist and raise it...

I don't hit women, but the things she's said and done, you'd be the same and wouldn't think twice about doing it.

We all had a go at my dad, proper upset him when he told us about his new lady and we kicked off - he got to the point of crying his eyes out and blaming himself for everything... I've never been so heartbroken in my life.

Thankfully, everyone left me with him, we had a chat and got him smiling again - It's not his fault and he deserves to be happy, so he's going with his heart and staying with her.

He's told us time and time again that she'll never replace my mum, but he needs to be happy too!

Also, she's not all that bad, she really is a nice and caring person, but when she goes on one, it really kicks off!

With my brother, it's clear to see that he won't harm a fly, but the amount of cunts out there that don't care astonishes me and I know they see him as an easy target... It's so hard to forget about and push to the back of my mind.

I like the way you defend her and admit she isn't that bad, you have to remember she is having quite a bit of pressure on her trying to fit in and be liked by you guys, sometimes people snap, we all do it. Just a battle of ego's.

And I know where you are coming from with the hitting women bit, I ain't a women beater, but when I snap at the Mrs, it does get rougher than most domestics. Press the right buttons and women are just the same as every other bloke.

Just a question, don't take this personally, but given her age, is she going through her menopause? or around the age of it happening? Answers everything if so.

Yeah you are right, your Dad deserves to be happy, he needs to be happy, if the head of the house falls, the rest fall as well. If you know what I mean by that? He has done well bringing you up, let him be happy now you can look after yourself

If anyone does harm your brother, they must be one sick cunt. Has something happened before to make you think something would?

[wassy78]

Moke it's true and you know were I am mate

[lee_saxo]

Originally Posted by Moke

It did!

Tbh, Sax-P is one place I go to hide my feelings... You'll see I'm a cunt on the forum, yet in real life, I'm a shy, confused little boy (well, not quite, but you'll see I'm nowhere near as confident as I seem).

I hate that aswell, I used to be so confident, so outgoing and so much, well, fun... Used to laugh at everything, proper hype up my mates and used to enjoy my life.

But that's the problem...... "Used to..."

You've just lost 'ness' or your mojo. Getting it all aout in the open with someone and off your chest is the start, then you can start feeling good about yourself again and when that starts coming you'll get your 'ness' and mojo back.

[wolf_gsxr]

Originally Posted by Moke

It's really hard to explain Danny.

Money, mates, family, past events, my future... My mind is like mush... I feel like I can't take things in anymore, because my mind is full up.

Nothing ever changes in my life and I feel like, especially past events, are always bringing me down.

So hard to explain

sounds like me mate. dunno about the counciling but ive adopted the could be worse attitude. past caring about my problems now

[Jaytee]

Im having councelling at the minute. My gp referred me. You fill in a form and they sort it from there. Just on a sidenote. Iv found talkin to my friends has helped but then again what im havin counselling for is nowhere near as serious as what you are goin through mate.
Hope you get it sorted though mate :-)

[Moke]

Originally Posted by Dom

I like the way you defend her and admit she isn't that bad, you have to remember she is having quite a bit of pressure on her trying to fit in and be liked by you guys, sometimes people snap, we all do it. Just a battle of ego's.

And I know where you are coming from with the hitting women bit, I ain't a women beater, but when I snap at the Mrs, it does get rougher than most domestics. Press the right buttons and women are just the same as every other bloke.

Just a question, don't take this personally, but given her age, is she going through her menopause? or around the age of it happening? Answers everything if so.

Yeah you are right, your Dad deserves to be happy, he needs to be happy, if the head of the house falls, the rest fall as well. If you know what I mean by that? He has done well bringing you up, let him be happy now you can look after yourself

If anyone does harm your brother, they must be one sick cunt. Has something happened before to make you think something would?

Yeah, I won't make her out to be the wicked witch, but as a parent, she does need to do some growing up.

Probably mate, but that doesn't mean she has to be like she is..... Out of order usually tbh!

I know man, my Dad deserves to be happy, afterall he has been through so much. I'm gonna try and just be there for him when I can, wherever I can.

Things have happened in the past with my brother, but I really don't wanna get into that. It'll just make me angry.

[wassy78]

Originally Posted by wolf_gsxr

sounds like me mate. dunno about the counciling but ive adopted the could be worse attitude. past caring about my problems now

I think that's the best way I've done that for years I've told him this

[Moke]

Originally Posted by wolf_gsxr

sounds like me mate. dunno about the counciling but ive adopted the could be worse attitude. past caring about my problems now

See, I can't let myself get like that... I have too much to care for and about.

I need to be myself to help others!

Originally Posted by Jaytee

Im having councelling at the minute. My gp referred me. You fill in a form and they sort it from there. Just on a sidenote. Iv found talkin to my friends has helped but then again what im havin counselling for is nowhere near as serious as what you are goin through mate.
Hope you get it sorted though mate :-)

Hope all is ok mate! And cheers

[Dom]

Originally Posted by Moke

Yeah, I won't make her out to be the wicked witch, but as a parent, she does need to do some growing up.

Probably mate, but that doesn't mean she has to be like she is..... Out of order usually tbh!

I know man, my Dad deserves to be happy, afterall he has been through so much. I'm gonna try and just be there for him when I can, wherever I can.

Things have happened in the past with my brother, but I really don't wanna get into that. It'll just make me angry.

Let it out lad, no point in bottling the anger up.

Tried buying a punch bag or something to release the stress?

[firefighter]

The good thing is you have been there before, just that sometimes we have to lose ourselves to find our selves everynow and again in life due to its outside pressure and you may be doing exactly that. What ever you did in the past what ever you said, what ever bad things you did, make a clean slate for your self and know it is all part of the learning process in life as we arent given a haynes manual of life when we are born its all about learning from our mistakes and mistakes sometimes happen for a reason so dont beat yourself up about it. Using this saxperience site is good because it can take things off youre mind and its a bit of you time, even if it is reading about car parts its good and little factors like that shows you how and why you are dealing with life. You are doing a good job at it as well my friend.

[Moke]

Originally Posted by Dom

Let it out lad, no point in bottling the anger up.

Tried buying a punch bag or something to release the stress?

I don't wanna get angry at something that might not happen, it's just IF it does.

I go to the gym mate, I get a lot of anger and stress out there

Originally Posted by firefighter

The good thing is you have been there before, just that sometimes we have to lose ourselves to find our selves everynow and again in life due to its outside pressure and you may be doing exactly that. What ever you did in the past what ever you said, what ever bad things you did, make a clean slate for your self and know it is all part of the learning process in life as we arent given a haynes manual of life when we are born its all about learning from our mistakes and mistakes sometimes happen for a reason so dont beat yourself up about it. Using this saxperience site is good because it can take things off youre mind and its a bit of you time, even if it is reading about car parts its good and little factors like that shows you how and why you are dealing with life. You are doing a good job at it as well my friend.

The bit in bold... That's what I need to keep telling myself!

There's things in life that I feel will come back and haunt me, but I need to forget about it.

[Dom]

Good luck to you with what happens mate, its time for me to go bed.

Head high bud!

[Moke]

Originally Posted by Dom

Good luck to you with what happens mate, its time for me to go bed.

Head high bud!

Cheers for the help and kind words man, appreciate it!

[firefighter]

And you will do just that the past was the past. Just dont ever give up on your self and well done for making such a brave step. Enjoy life while its her , feel good and look after yourself as the only true love not comes from life and the people within it but it comes from you so take time to know yourself and respect yourself again and life will be one big breeze.

Take Care my friend and feel good you deserve it!